It's hard enough to leave a separation behind. But when you're trying to forget a guy who cheated on you, it's even tougher. Finding out that your boyfriend has cheated on you can be one of the most excruciating pains you can imagine. Use this guide to help you leave the past behind.
Steps
Step 1. Face it face to face
Breaking up over the phone, message, letter, or email doesn't help clear things up. You need to be absolutely sure he's cheating on you. Tell him how it makes you feel. Get it all out, no matter how long it takes. There is no other way to understand that you have closed a chapter in your life.
Step 2. Look in the mirror
Tell yourself that you are beautiful and intelligent, and that the traitor does not deserve you. It doesn't deserve your time, energy or thoughts. He betrayed you because he wasn't sure enough of himself.
Step 3. Go out with friends
Do something new. Distract yourself from the pain. It will still hurt for a while, but at least it won't consume you.
Step 4. Spoil yourself
Go to a spa or take a trip, or pamper yourself at home. Eat your favorite chocolate. Get a manicure. Anything that makes you feel better.
Step 5. Promise yourself that you will learn from your mistakes
Look back and look for any hints or signs you ignored that could prove his betrayal. Promise yourself that you won't be fooled again, and to look for a guy who cares enough about you to be faithful.
Step 6. Don't generalize
Just because a guy cheated on you doesn't mean everyone will.
Step 7. Don't blame yourself, instead repeat yourself that you are beautiful and that he made a huge mistake by losing you
Step 8. Let him go, and accept that he has betrayed you, if you stay with him there is a chance he will betray you again
Step 9. Smile and live life to the fullest
Step 10. Don't close your heart, just be more careful with guys but give it a try when you're sure another guy is sincere
Step 11. Become irresistible, whatever it means to you
When he sees you he will bitterly regret having betrayed you and you will know how stupid he is.
Advice
- Invite friends to the cinema
- Listen to some song about a breakup, you will recover quickly!
- Keep your mind and your time busy, for example reading, shopping, going swimming, etc.
- Forgive him, but make it clear that the relationship is over and that you have no intention of giving him a second chance.
- Write to him how what he did to you makes you feel, giving him clear instructions on what you don't want to happen, such as no contact and so on. Finally tell him that the game is over and when you are ready send him everything. Or write it on Facebook.
Warnings
- Make sure he's actually cheating on you, or you're going to hunt down an innocent man.
- Don't drink and don't look for other escape routes, you'll only make things worse.
- Be careful to accept his apology, if he really loved you, he never would.
- If he loves you, he will cut off any relationship that might hurt yours. If it doesn't, it's allowing a third person to sneak into your story. And this means that basically he only loves himself.
- Sometimes, what you consider "cheating" is not the same as he thinks. You may think that dating another woman is cheating, but not for him. Wherever these misunderstandings lead, stick to your standards and what makes you feel comfortable. Otherwise, you will find yourself stuck in an endless series of "betrayals" that will still make you feel bad, no matter what you want to call them.
