Doesn't an hour, or even a minute, go by without you being able not to think about that person you have a crush on? If you know things aren't working out between the two of you, then constantly thinking about it will only hurt you further. The good news is that if you can get it out of your mind, you'll have more time to do the things you love, be with the people you love, and love life again. It may take some time, but with a little determination you will be able to forget in a short time even what that person is like.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Change your mind
Step 1. Release your emotions
If you want to forget the person you have a crush on, then the first thing to do is admit that you have a deep feeling for them. If you try to deny what it represents to you, you will force yourself to keep everything inside and you will not be able to get rid of it. Take time to cry, to talk to a close friend about it, to admit how hurt you are, and to realize your feelings.
- Write down what you feel, it can help you. If you don't want to open up to a friend, then you can find some relief by expressing your emotions in a diary.
- It doesn't matter if you feel sad for a while because it didn't work with that person. Let your friends know that you intend to be alone for a while and don't force yourself to be sociable if you don't feel like it.
- You can be sad for a few weeks, but then you have to stop basking in self-pity and start cultivating your social relationships again. If you spend too much time alone with your feelings, it only increases the feeling of being unwell.
Step 2. Forget about anger and resentment
You will surely have good reasons to be angry or resentful. That person probably really hurt you. Maybe you really believed that things were going to work, but it didn't. That person may have decided to go out with a friend of yours, and now you are mad at both of them. It's normal to have these feelings in such a situation, but that doesn't mean they're healthy or that they can help you move on.
- Write down all the reasons you feel anger and resentment. Being able to accept your pain is essential to be able to forget. When you understand what the origin of all your negative emotions is, then you will be able to deal with them, one by one.
- If you happen to get in touch with the person you have a crush on, don't let them see how angry or sad you are. The best thing to do is to behave indifferently, as if you don't care what he does. If you continue to pretend indifferent, you will soon begin to feel nothing for that person anymore.
Step 3. Focus on the worst aspects of that person
If you happen to think about the person you have a crush on, don't think about how beautiful, funny, or smart they are. Instead, try to focus on her downsides, like her horrible taste in fashion, or the rude way she deals even with complete strangers. When it comes to your mind, reflect on all these negative thoughts, rather than fixate on the positive ones. It will help you remember that it's not that special after all.
- If you think that person is perfect and you can't think of anything negative about them, the truth is that you don't know them well enough. There is no perfect person, everyone has flaws.
- The more you think about all the negative aspects of the person you have a crush on, the sooner you will be able to realize that you weren't meant to be together after all.
Step 4. Know that you deserve better
You probably think that you and that person could have formed the perfect couple, but that's not the case. If you were really made for each other, things wouldn't have ended like this, would they? Regardless of why it didn't work, the real reason is probably that it doesn't deserve you. The person you have a crush on isn't your soul mate, and when you figure it out, you'll be able to find the one that's right for you.
Sure, all your friends have probably already told you dozens of times that you deserve better, but it's no use if you don't accept it personally
Step 5. Remember how special you are
If you feel down because it didn't work out between you and that person, you need something to lift your mood. You probably feel incapable for failing to date the person you have a crush on, but you don't. Reflect on all your best aspects, focus on your sincere friends and the great opportunities that life offers you, remember who you are. Keep telling yourself that you are a wonderful person who deserves only the best. And the person you have a crush on is certainly not "the best"!
The key to getting through this moment is to stay positive. If you focus on all the good things that are part of your life and your character, rather than the ones that are not part of it, then you will be able to move on faster than you would if you only thought about the worst aspects of every situation
Part 2 of 3: Get It Out of Your Life
Step 1. Stop talking about the person you have a crush on
This suggestion may seem obvious, but there is the possibility that you are still talking about that person, despite having understood that it is not good for you. You don't have to be rude, but you have to aim to avoid meeting her and talking to her. Stop texting her, calling her, or stopping to say hello. The sooner you stop seeing and hearing it, the sooner you will be able to get it out of your life.
If you are forced to be in the same place, in the classroom, for example, then you need to be nice and polite, without trying too hard. There is no need to be bad for no reason, it certainly won't make you feel better
Step 2. Stop talking about that person
Although talking about it with a close friend could help you quickly turn the page, if you talk about the person you have a crush on everyone you meet or every friend you have in common, don't expect things to get better from one moment to the next. You don't have to deny your feelings, but if you keep naming her, you're just holding open old wounds that remind you how much you're in pain.
If you have mutual friends, avoid asking them how the person you have a crush on is doing. It won't do you any good
Step 3. Avoid that person on social networks
If you connect on Facebook, Instagram, or other social networks just to check the person's interactions and see if they are dating someone, then you need to stop for a moment. If you love Facebook, then just resist the temptation to click on their profile, and only use it to stay in touch with the people who make you feel really good. If you look at the pictures of that person you will only be worse off, so stop torturing yourself.
Give yourself a time limit. For example, he only spends 15 minutes a day on Facebook. If you want to waste that time checking out what that person is doing, then you won't have any to know how those you really care are doing
Step 4. Avoid hanging out in places where you might find the person you have a crush on
While you don't have to completely change your habits, you should at least try to avoid places where you might run into her. Don't go to her favorite restaurant or cinema if you know you might find her there on a Friday night. If you know she's going to a party, and you're not ready to see her yet, consider going somewhere else.
This does not mean that she "won" and that you can no longer do anything fun. It just means you need to avoid it until you feel better
Step 5. Change your habits
If you want that person to get out of your life, then it's time to change your habits a bit. Eat something different for breakfast. Meet a friend and have lunch with him, rather than always hanging out with the same one. Find a new hobby. Change your way to work or school. While these changes are not directly related to the person you have a crush on, they will still allow you to change your mindset and help you look at the world differently, eventually you will be able to stop reflecting on all those thoughts about them..
Think about it: Are there any particular moments of the day when you think intensely about that person? If so, can you do something different during those moments to be able to stop thinking about her? For example, if you usually look out the bus window when you get home and have sad thoughts about the person you have a crush on, download a music album that energizes you and listen to it so that the journey becomes an experience. positive, rather than a moment when you think about that person
Part 3 of 3: Page Turn
Step 1. Rely on your family and friends
A great way to forget about the person you have a crush on is to spend a lot of time with the people you love. Family and friends have always been there, during happy times and unhappy times, and just being there for you will allow you to feel better. It is not necessary to be with them all the time, otherwise you risk not having a moment for yourself anymore, just try to spend more time with the people you love, so that you can be grateful for all the positive relationships in your life, instead of obsess over the one you couldn't get.
Don't spend a Friday or Saturday night alone, or you might want to be there with that person. Instead, try to hang out with your friends, you'll have so much fun that you forget who you have a crush on
Step 2. Do what you love
If you spend time doing something that means a lot to you, you will be able to banish from your mind any thoughts about who you have a crush on. Try to find more time to pursue your passions, no matter if you like running, painting, playing sports, reading, etc. If you think you are too busy to be able to do what you love, then you need to start eliminating something else from your life. If you can carry out your passions with dedication, then all your thoughts about that person will slowly fade away.
Maybe the reason you're feeling so down is that you don't have a lot of things to really care about. It may be the right time to discover a new passion by stepping out of your comfort zone. Sign up for a photography, dance, acting or singing class. Or just try doing something new that will make you happy
Step 3. Enjoy time alone
While spending time with family and friends can help you forget who you have a crush on, if you really want to be at peace you need to be comfortable with yourself, alone. If when you find yourself alone you start to feel sad and down, then you haven't been able to move on yet. Take one day a week to be alone and use that time to do something you love, or just relax by watching your favorite TV series or taking a hot bath. No matter what you do, the important thing is that you feel comfortable doing it alone.
Don't let them get in the way of last-second appointments with friends. Make moments in the company of yourself precious
Step 4. Get out of the house
Don't stay holed up in your cave of solitude thinking about all the reasons this story didn't work out. Instead, go out and take a breath of fresh air. Even just being in the sun and breathing fresh air will make you feel more alive, awake, energized and happy. If you have to work, don't hole up in your room, go to a bar or a park. Having people around you, even if you don't talk to them, can make you feel happier and think less about that person.
Make sure you go out of the house at least once a day, even if it's only for a half-hour walk. Staying at home all day would make anyone sad, regardless of disappointment in love
Step 5. Love the single life
If you really want to move on, then you can't feel sorry for yourself and wait for a new person to come into your life. You have to be really happy that you can be on your own, do what you want, and flirt with whoever you want on occasion. You need to appreciate the freedom of single life and learn that while dating someone can be fun and satisfying, it shouldn't compromise your happiness.
Give yourself some time. It can take weeks, even months, to appreciate the single life, but when you do, you will find that you didn't need that person after all. What you really wanted was the idea of being with a person who could have made you happy, but it wasn't the answer you were looking for, after all
Step 6. Prepare for new infatuations
If you've made it this far, changed your perspective, got the person you have a crush on your head, and moved on to do what makes you happy, then you can congratulate yourself, you really have. forgotten! You realized how good you are without her, how special you are and how lucky you are to live your life. If you've really moved on, you can start reopening your heart and getting infatuated with someone again.
If you have really managed to move on, celebrate your victory and get ready to receive all the love that your life can offer you
Advice
- Do not rush. You are a human being, it is normal to feel hurt at times.
- If you realize you are mulling over that person, remember that there is no reason to waste time for someone who does not realize how special you are. You deserve better.
- You will forget, sooner or later, trust me.
- There are so many people in this world that you can be happy with. Maybe that person was one of them, maybe not. In any case, you will meet a lot of special people in your life. The time has come for you to turn your attention to them.
Warnings
- Don't gossip about the person you have a crush on. If you speak ill of her, your reputation will be compromised, not hers.
- Don't ruminate or fantasize too much about that person. There are many other things you can do with your time.
