If your ex were to ask you out again, you could find yourself in a really awkward situation. It may be that you thought it was over and you were happy with it or that you were homesick. Regardless of how you feel or still have about him, it is important that you keep in mind that it takes a lot of courage on his part to take such a step, so if your answer is no, try not to be too much. hard against him. If you don't know what to answer, try to follow your gut.
Steps
Step 1. Tell him how you feel, in case you don't feel like going out with him again
Try to talk to him in a private place where no one can hear you making you nervous or embarrassing you.
Step 2. Remind him that if you broke up, it was for a valid reason
Problems don't go away by themselves. You have remained the same, just as he has remained the same. It could be that, as a couple, you are unable to function together.
Step 3. Explain that this is not necessarily bad, but that by getting back together you could make your relationship worse, falling back into a vicious circle and hurting each other
Step 4. Ask him to try to understand your point of view and to stop insisting
Tell him that you feel embarrassed every time he asks you and that only by stopping it can he avoid feeling embarrassed in turn to receive a no from you.
Step 5. Agree to go out with him if that's what you want
He'll be thrilled, but remind him of the reasons why it didn't work out for you the first time. If it were something that can be resolved, both of you should do your best to work on it and improve your relationship, in order to prevent this obstacle from dividing you again. It would be a good idea to try to take it easy until you can completely overcome this problem.
Advice
- If you're going to accept, try to take it easy. It is likely that you will not be able to resume the relationship from the point where you left off. You will first have to trust each other again.
- If he was the one who left you and realized what he gave up, try being a little hard on him to see if you really want him back in your life, otherwise he may think he has full control over you and can make you do this. who wants, when he wants, without too much effort on his part; so, wait before you say yes.
- If you are thinking of saying yes, think about why you broke up in the first place. Ask yourself: "Am I sure I want to relive that experience?"
- If you mean to say yes, make it clear right away, especially if you really want to give your love story a new chance. It is important that you are as clear as you can, because he may believe that he knows perfectly well how you feel and how you feel about him. Sincerity is the essential ingredient to be successful in love.
- If you want to say no, do it tactfully. Explain that this is not about him but about what happened in the past. Tell him you want to save both of us from reliving that experience.
- If he broke up with you and you were devastated, read about how to get over a breakup. You must avoid reliving that experience. This may very well be the best thing to do to avoid getting entangled in a story with no future.
- Saying no will not stop you from continuing to be friends.
Warnings
- If he broke your heart, he'd be an idiot and you wouldn't need him. She doesn't deserve someone like you! An exception to this rule is the case in which he dumped you because he believed you were going to do it.
- Just because you still have feelings for each other doesn't mean your story is destined to work. Get back with him if that's what you feel you need to do, but don't expect miracles. Be prepared to try hard to make the relationship work or it will end like the first time.
- Remember, if he left you and you've been hurting for days crying for him, think about how you felt, and remember that it could happen again, even if you're very into him.
- Sometimes it's not enough to just say no once, but don't take it personally. Keep reminding him why it didn't work out between you the first time. His male pride will keep him from humiliating himself too much and he will eventually stop asking you.
- If you decide to give it another chance, be prepared for the eventuality of breaking up again.
- Don't let him maneuver you the way he wants. Remember when you broke up and the hell it put you through. You can also live without him and it is thanks to him that you have become stronger. If you stayed friends after you broke up, chances are he's a nice guy.
