The key to flirting with a girl is to show her your interest without being too pushy. You have to learn to be fun and charming, and avoid trying shamelessly. If you want to learn how to flirt with a girl from the first sight, follow these simple steps.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Let her know you are interested
Step 1. Use positive body language
Your body is able to express your interest in a girl even before you say a single word, and it can help improve your seductive skills during the entire conversation. There are some little tricks you need to know to communicate your interest to a girl through body language.
- Maintain eye contact. Look her straight in the eye as you talk to her and avoid checking your cell phone or looking around to see what your friends are up to. Make the girl feel like she has your unconditional attention, but look away from time to time to keep things from getting too intense.
- Keep your arms at your sides or use them to gesticulate. Do not cross your arms on your chest or you will give an impression of closure.
- Lean towards her when you talk to her. Whether you are sitting or standing, lean slightly towards the girl so that you are closer to her. However, avoid getting too close if you don't want to sound like one of those who talk to you three centimeters from your nose and you could risk sounding intrusive.
- Remember to smile. Occasionally, let him catch you smiling at her even when you're not saying anything. Flirting is much easier if you give off positive energy.
- Don't assume a clumsy posture. Walk with your head held high and you will give the impression of being more confident.
Step 2. Perfect the art of subtlety
It is the key to being a good seducer. You need to learn the difference between explicitly communicating your interest and letting it know. Explicitly declaring one's interest makes things too obvious and leaves nothing to the imagination. Letting your interest be heard helps make the situation more intriguing and keeps the conversation going.
- Look for more subtle ways to compliment the girl. Instead of telling her you love her look, you might say, "You must have spent hours getting ready!"
- Try to discreetly let her know that you would like to spend more time with her. If she tells you she likes to swim, don't tell her that you would really like to see her in a bikini. Instead, you might say, "I just happen to like girls who like to swim a lot. Especially in the summer."
- Look for a subtle way to show her that she is special. Instead of starting with a "How sexy you are!", Tell her: "It must not be at all difficult for a girl like you to be courted by everyone".
Step 3. Ask her to talk about herself
You don't need to take her to a third degree to show her that you really mean to know her better. Finding ways to ask her about her interests or background is a great way to flirt and show your interest. Here are some things you can ask:
- While joking, ask her what she likes to do for fun. This will make her understand that you want to meet her.
- If you happen to mention your brothers or sisters during the conversation, ask her if she has any too. Girls love to talk about it.
- Ask her if she has a pet. If so, ask her if she likes spending time cuddling him.
- Ask her opinion on something stupid or light, something that makes her laugh. For example, you can ask her, "What do you think about men who wear pink?"
Step 4. Tease her
Once you have reached a certain level of confidence with the girl, you can start teasing her a little. You may have an instant feeling and feel you can tease her after just a minute of conversation, or you may need a little more time before you feel comfortable enough. When you feel the time has come, don't be afraid to show her your fun side while flirting with her.
- Tease her about her interests. If she tells you she likes reality TV, ask her if she'd rather be home watching The Batchelor right now.
- Tease her about her physical appearance. Make sure you do it in a complimenting way. If she's wearing costume jewelry, ask her if it's real gold.
- Provoke her on her laugh. If she has a particularly nice way of laughing, ask her if she is hanging out with funny people like you so she can laugh more often.
Method 2 of 3: Charm her
Step 1. Impress your witty spirit
If you can prove that you are an insightful guy and that you are capable of bright answers and funny jokes, the girl will be impressed with your flirting. Show her that you always have the answer ready by making sharp and intelligent observations at the right time. Here are some great examples to impress your wits:
- Show that you can handle the exchange. If the girl throws a sarcastic or piqued comment at you, respond by throwing one yourself.
- Be original. Being witty also means knowing how to think about old topics in new ways. Don't tell her things that anyone could tell her.
- Learn to understand the audience in front of you. If the girl is highly intelligent and insightful, you can find an unusual way to make a sophisticated reference. If she doesn't seem to be quite as witty, don't try to impress your culture - she won't be able to appreciate it.
Step 2. Bring out your sense of humor
It's not easy to find guys who are really capable of being funny, so you have to try to stand out by showing your funny side. There are several ways you can use your sense of humor to flirt and get closer to the girl.
- Work on the right time. Find the right moment for your jokes and jokes so you don't interrupt the girl or lose the thread of the conversation.
- If she says something funny, never say, "What a laugh!". Instead, try to retort with a funny comment of your own.
- Do not overdo it. If you try too hard to be funny, the girl will feel it.
- Learn to make fun of yourself. Girls like men who have no problem recognizing their shortcomings and who don't take life too seriously.
Step 3. Be confident - not arrogant
Being confident is the key to charming a girl and flirting with her from the moment she opens her mouth. If you have confidence in yourself and are comfortable with yourself and your actions, flirting with her will come a lot more natural to you.
- Be positive. Talk about the things you love - your job, your interests, or your friends. If you are negative about everything, the image you will give of yourself will be that of a person who is unhappy and dissatisfied with himself.
- Don't be self-harming. Making fun of yourself lightly is different from calling yourself a failure or saying you'll never find a decent job.
- Talk about something you're good at, whether it's surfing or learning new languages. You don't need to brag to prove you're a capable and interesting person.
- Don't make her feel like she feels lucky to have a minute of your time. This attitude is far from interesting. Keep on the same level: both of you should feel lucky to be able to talk to each other.
Method 3 of 3: Knowing What Not to Do
Step 1. Don't be too direct
If you are too direct about your intentions, your prey will lose interest in you even before you can tell her, "How sexy you are." Even though subtly compliments are the key to winning her, you should always avoid being too aggressive, for example with heavy sexual comments or, more generally, taking too much confidence. This attitude crosses the line between "flirting" and "trying".
- Don't be too aggressive. If you tell her, "Shall we lemon?" she will turn her heels. Instead, tell her, "I like your lip gloss."
- Don't make heavily sexual comments. Don't say, "You've got two great boobs," or she'll spit her drink in your face. Instead, tell her that she looks very good dressed like that.
- Don't give her your full attention. You shouldn't spend the whole evening talking to the girl ignoring everyone else, or the situation could become too intense.
Step 2. Don't be too thin
Even though subtlety is the key to success in your intent, you certainly don't want to risk that the girl won't notice your interest because you were too thin. To keep your seduction alive, you need to find ways to make the girl understand that you care for her, little or much. If you try too hard to be subtle, you will appear aloof and the girl may think it's not worth it.
- Indulge in at least a few hints that show her you're interested. If you don't offer her anything to start with, she'll never think you like her.
- Make it clear right away that she doesn't belong in the Friends category. Compliment her on her appearance, make her feel special or simply give the conversation a pre-appointment feel. If you don't let her know that she is special to you, she'll think you only like her as a friend.
Step 3. Don't forget to establish a connection
Flirting is a key element of meeting a new girl you like; however, you shouldn't spend all your time flirting, as that doesn't allow you to get to know her better. Remember to stop and ask her to tell you about herself; then try to talk about the most varied topics. If your conversation is all about flirting, you won't be able to go any further.
- You can flirt And deepen the conversation. Nothing stops you from being playful and funny even in asking questions of genuine interest to him.
- Make sure she knows something about you too before the conversation ends. At the time of leaving you, she should also know something about you so that she can think the connection has happened for both of you. For your part, you too should know a few things about her.
