We often say yes to our friends because we want to please them. However, this can get out of hand, causing us to lie and making us feel guilty. And sooner or later everyone will suffer from such a situation. Learn to matter, otherwise you will end up doing something unwillingly.
Steps
Step 1. Stick to your plan
If you have a very specific list of goals, such as a weekly program, that gives you a valid reason to follow it (“Thanks, but I really have to do…”).
If he invites you again, tell him you can't, maybe in a slightly different way (“I'm sorry, but, as I told you, today I really should…”)
Step 2. Make sure you understand exactly what you were asked before answering
Maybe this sleepover will be less boring than you think. On the other hand, it may also be tedious.
Step 3. Remember that you have the right to say no
There will always be someone who will want to go out with you or will call you once an hour, because they may have forgotten that you had other plans. If you don't make your voice heard, no one will know what's on your mind.
Step 4. Be polite, but don't give false hope if you're going to decline an invitation
And false hopes are built on unclear answers. For example, answering “I'll try to be there” to a party invitation is by no means definitive and leaves a door open. However, by the time you don't show up, your friend will be slightly disappointed.
Step 5. Try one of the following methods:
- If your friend invites you to go to his house but you don't feel like it, say “I don't feel like leaving the house today, [name]. It's not that I don't want to see you, I just want to do [other business]”. You don't have to respond badly to decline an invitation, you can just be honest.
- Learn to say “I just can't today”.
- When he invites you to visit or go out, tell him you need to check your schedule for a moment. Then, explain to him that you are really busy all week and that you will not want to do anything because you will be tired; if you don't want to see it, don't leave moments free. Postpone to the following week.
Advice
- If your friend gets offended, give him time to calm down; then, after waiting for a while, say “I'm sorry, but I just couldn't; do not take it please ".
- Don't be rude when you turn down an invitation.
- Make time to spend with him, don't always turn down his invitations.
- Explain that you don't feel like going out, but be sure to schedule meetings with him every now and then. If you always avoid him, he will take it personally.
