You are friends and then, oops !, you fall in love with him. What to do? Tell him? It is not something that happens infrequently. If he finds you attractive but hasn't done anything yet, take the first step. It will be easier for him too. After all, why do boys always have to do everything? Take courage.
Steps
Step 1. Make sure he doesn't like someone else by saying “I've been single for a while”
Maybe he's single, or looking for a relationship (don't cheat though, read the warnings below). A conversation might start with a talk about your ex, etc. Make sure you tell him you're single if he doesn't already know. He doesn't have to think you're already busy.
Step 2. Send him a little secret message saying he likes a girl he knows
That way, if you are friends, he will tell you what he thinks about the ticket or will keep it to himself. Try watching him read the message and see what reaction he has. The usual reactions are: look around before opening the card, then read, taking much longer than necessary to try to understand who wrote the message. If you are in different schools, try to meet him and tell him.
Step 3. Confess
If he tells you he wants to know who sent the note, say it was you.
Step 4. Be generous
After confessing, tell him sincerely that he shouldn't feel obligated to reciprocate and that you hope this doesn't ruin your friendship.
Step 5. Refer to step 1
If he talks to you about the message and tells you that whoever sent it is stupid, maybe he just says it because he fears it was a girl he also likes. Decide whether to confess or not. Or take courage and tell him that the "stupid" one is in front of him. He may be so impressed that he apologizes. If not, make the best of a bad situation and you will still be friends. Maybe something will happen in the future.
Step 6. Find a place to be alone and tell him
It will be strange, but at least he will know. If he doesn't reciprocate, tell him you hope that moment hasn't ruined your friendship.
Step 7. If he doesn't reciprocate, don't worry
There are so many other guys in the world! If it doesn't go as a story, you can always remain friends.
Advice
- Never do this in front of other friends. They will make him feel uncomfortable and he will say no, and he may even think that you are making fun of him.
- Do not automatically assume his reaction, this could make the situation even more embarrassing. Also avoid making a drama out of it.
- Always smile. Don't kiss him or do anything rushed, as he may run away.
- After you tell him it was you, don't get lost in small talk. Get right to the point.
- If he doesn't know what to answer, give him a few days to think about it.
- If he decides not to talk to you and acts like everything is too awkward now, move on. It is not worth wasting time with him.
- Don't feel disappointed if he says not to reciprocate, maybe he's just a little confused and needs to think about it.
- If he doesn't say anything to you at the moment, give him his space and eventually, maybe he'll come back to you and tell you that he likes you too. It will be fine anyway.
- Don't worry if it doesn't give you an answer. Maybe he's just confused and it'll take him a while to get into the optics. Then he will be either very happy or very worried about it.
- The night before declaring yourself, wipe your lips with cocoa butter at least 8 times before going to sleep. In the morning shower, wipe your lips with a sponge to exfoliate them. After the shower, apply the cocoa butter again to keep the softness and carry it with you to apply it often throughout the day. Your lips will all be kissable.
- If they don't like you, move on.
- If you lose your friendship because he feels embarrassed, it means it wasn't worth it. Ignore him.
Warnings
- Don't delegate a friend! He might get embarrassed and not talk to you anymore.
- I don't see your relationship getting ruined. Remember, you are still friends.
- Don't do all of this if your friend is in a stable relationship. You could ruin your friendship. (Unless he's polygamous and his girlfriend likes to know such a thing.)
- Don't be immature, because today's kids often are.
- Don't declare yourself in any other way than face to face. "Absolutely" not by SMS or your friendship will become embarrassing.
- Don't use email or other technology, because if he doesn't reciprocate, he may use those messages to tease you or to have others read them.
