Do you have a crush on a guy and don't know how to get close to him? Follow these tips to become friends with her, and maybe something more in the future.
Steps
Step 1. Confess that you have a crush on this person to your trusted friends (only if you know they are truly trustworthy, otherwise they might rush to tell them and embarrass you)
Maybe they'll help you out.
Step 2. Make friends with the friends of the person you like
This may help you get her attention and get to know her better.
Step 3. Try sitting next to him
It will be much easier for him to get to know you and talk to you, and then teachers love to ask students to write essays and discuss various topics with their classmate. That way, you'll be able to comment on what he says without sounding weird or intrusive. Don't give him the idea of stalking him, nobody likes stalkers.
Step 4. Try to strike up a conversation with the guy you like
Try asking him to help you do something, even if you don't need it, as long as it's credible. You don't even have to look like a fool. For example, if you are known to be a math genius, don't ask him about this subject. Don't monopolize his attention to get help for more than a few minutes, unless you really need it. Also, you can always offer them a hand to do what they can't, but don't act like a know-it-all.
Step 5. Ask him about his homework in the hallway
You'll get noticed, and then that's a good excuse to start talking. If you don't go to the same class, ask him about his lessons and homework.
Step 6. Lend him pencils, papers, or whatever, that way you will let him know that you are nice
Don't overdo it though.
Step 7. If your friend is her classmate and you're not sitting very far away, start talking to her about a topic that interests the person you like
For example, if she loves lacrosse and your friend also plays lacrosse, ask her questions about it. The guy you're interested in might join the conversation! But first you will need to research his interests.
Step 8. Wear one-of-a-kind clothes to get her attention, maybe she'll ask you questions about it
Step 9. Begin greeting him in the corridors
You might start talking!
Step 10. Make friends with his friends, but don't use them
Sure, it's easier to talk to them, and they might invite you out!
Step 11. Add it on Facebook or another social network used by both of you
This is especially recommended if you have mutual friends.
Step 12. Learn to use body language to communicate the right way
You should be open and accommodating, to send specific messages to his subconscious and let him know that you like him.
Step 13. Most people like people who are confident, but not cheeky
Step 14. Try to attract him physically
Make sure you smell good.
Step 15. Flirting will take you far
Once you've broken the ice, harmlessly seducing him is ideal.
Step 16. Relax
He's just a boy. If you don't show any signs of interest, turn the page. Don't try unnecessarily.
Advice
- If you think you are bothering him, it is best to leave him alone for some time. Give it space for two or three days. If he asks "Hey, are you avoiding me by any chance?", You reply by saying "Well, I thought I was bothering you." A little honesty never hurts!
- If he already has a girlfriend, try to be his friend anyway. Maybe one day they will break, and you can step forward. Be careful though: she may be jealous and notice your attempt. If they break up, make sure he's ready for a relationship. You shouldn't be a fallback.
- When you talk to him, don't ask him too many questions and don't be pushy.
- If you go to the same class you are at an advantage because it already knows you. In case you've never spoken, approach them with an excuse. He may start asking you questions about homework and other chores.
- Behave in a relaxed manner if you become friends. Organize fun outings together.
- If you have him in your Facebook contacts, share links similar to his, based on what you see on his profile and what he posts. He might like or comment on your posts! Never share the exact same links though.
Warnings
- Becoming friends with him is risky. If you make a good friendship and then tell him you like him, but he doesn't reciprocate, the relationship will suffer.
- Don't monopolize his attention and don't ask him too many questions. He'll think you're annoying. The best way to win him over is to let him know that you are easygoing and facilitate conversations once you start talking.
- Don't insist and don't reveal everything about yourself. Remember that it is better to be a little mysterious and elusive.
