Asking a person out together can be frightening, out of fear of rejection or fear of being laughed at. However, if we don't try to do this we will never know how it will turn out. In life, we will often find ourselves in situations where we are forced to get involved and risk everything to get what we want. Asking the person you like to go out together is the right opportunity to make the most of the adrenaline load to increase your confidence in the hope of a positive response.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Try First Approach
Step 1. Prepare your speech first
Grab a mirror and, looking straight into your eyes, say romantic phrases as if you were talking to the person you like.
Part 2 of 3: Preparing the Look
Step 1. Wear pretty clothes
Dressing well not only serves to impress the person you like, but also to acquire the right confidence to feel comfortable, sure that you are in great shape. Iron your clothes, choose the ones you like and that suit you the most.
Part 3 of 3: Asking the Fatal Question
Step 1. Wait for the right time
It is better to wait until your target is alone or otherwise not in the company of too many people. Asking a person out together in front of a group of onlookers can not only put additional pressure on you, but likely embarrass the person to the point of provoking a response that is contrary to their actual will. We certainly do not want this person to feel compelled to accept the proposal even if in reality he has doubts about it, nor to refuse the invitation just to appear strong in the eyes of others.
Step 2. Attach button
Approach the person you like and say something nice and witty, for example: "Hi! Haven't seen you in a while, did the aliens kidnap you?". Wait for me to answer.
Step 3. Get to the point
Look him straight in the eye and say exactly these words: "I was wondering if you were seeing someone. I ask you because I would like to go out with you."
Step 4. Depending on the person in front of you, you may need to be less direct, especially if other people are present
There is no reason to create embarrassing situations, especially if the answer is "no".
Step 5. If the answer is "yes", say with a smile that you are very pleased and propose something for your first date
Step 6. If the answer is "no", thank him anyway for considering your proposal
Avoid having a tantrum, getting angry, or crying. Instead, try to look strong and give the impression that you're okay with it. Even if it broke your heart, don't show it. After all, maybe he's gauging your reaction and may actually need some time to think about it. The courage and self-esteem shown may be enough to make him change his mind later.
Advice
- A little sensuality doesn't hurt.
- Make things seem completely random when you ask the person you like out to date.
Warnings
- Don't put on airs and don't be snobbish. The nervousness of the moment does not justify arrogance.
- Don't freak out when faced with rejection. Keep calm, say thanks and say something nice.
- Don't make silly or creepy jokes.
- Don't go overboard with clothing, makeup, and so on. And above all, don't pretend to be who you are not just to impress the other person.
