Being around someone can be embarrassing, especially after the first date. To know how to behave, you must first understand your state of mind. Ask yourself if you'd like to go out again, and if so, tell the other person. While dating can sometimes make you a little uncomfortable, a few small rules will help you manage smoothly in the days following the first date.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Reflecting on the Encounter
Step 1. Remember it's just an appointment
People tend to make hasty judgments after the first meeting. When evaluating your state of mind, look at things from the right perspective. It's just a date. It doesn't matter if you had a great time or doubts arose, because it was only once and you are not yet able to make final decisions.
- If there is no spark, don't think it's not worth continuing. Unless there have been clear alarm bells, consider giving the other person a second chance if you have had a good time in their company after all.
- If the meeting went discreetly, remember that it was only the first and the other person may not share the same feelings as you. You're not in a relationship yet, so try to take things a little at a time before jumping to conclusions about where your dating is going.
Step 2. Don't analyze too much
It's important to question your feelings after a date, but it can be counterproductive to overdo it. Try not to get obsessed with the meaning of every single physical contact, hug, or other gesture. While the details can sometimes highlight a character trait, others are negligible.
For example, if the person you dated checked their cell phone during dinner, you may wonder if their gesture indicates a lack of consideration on their part. If it only happened once in the whole evening, chances are he wanted to see the time or was expecting an important phone call. For now, avoid ruminating about what happened
Step 3. Find out if you want to see it again
Sometimes you are sure you want to meet her again, other times you are more confused. There's no rush to invite her out again if you don't want to, but it's worth giving a second chance if you've been okay. However, if you have been feeling uncomfortable or not having fun, it's best to go out with someone else.
Step 4. Identify all possible alarm bells
Sometimes they show up early. If the other person is being rude or inappropriate on more than one occasion, they probably don't want to insist.
- For example, maybe she rolled her eyes in annoyance or laughed after a serious remark from you. Maybe she was not very involved in your conversations or she put you in trouble for the whole evening.
- Trust your instincts. Don't keep dating someone if they give you negative feelings.
Step 5. Reflect on how attracted you are
If you haven't felt any magic, it's probably not worth making another appointment. However, keep in mind that attraction doesn't always go off immediately, especially if you're nervous. If aesthetically she meets your tastes, maybe you should meet her again to see if the attraction increases, even if the first time did not make you totally lose your mind.
Part 2 of 3: Communicating after the First Meeting
Step 1. Send a text message to tell her you were fine
Better keep in touch if you're interested in dating her again. You don't have to exaggerate, but just write a simple sentence, like: "I spent a nice evening in your company. I hope it will be repeated soon!".
Don't wait for the classic three days: it's not a fixed rule. You can send a text message as soon as you get home from your appointment or the next day
Step 2. Interact online from time to time
You should only do this if you already follow each other on social networks. If you are interested in this person, try replying to tweets or posts on Facebook. This will show her that you think about her and that you would like to see her again.
However, if you haven't exchanged contacts via a social network yet, it may seem a bit of an exaggeration to suddenly add her to Facebook
Step 3. Have her come out again if the spark has gone off
If you wish to see her again, don't hesitate to tell her. Don't wait too long, or it might give her the impression that you want to play. After a day or two, send her a text message asking, "When are you free? I'd like to see you again."
Step 4. If there is no chemistry, tell him respectfully
You should be clear if you have decided not to go any further. This is especially important if the other person is expressing interest in you via text messages. After about 24 hours, reply politely by saying, "I had a great time last time, but I don't feel a particular understanding between us. I'm sorry."
Step 5. Accept any refusal
Unfortunately, it can happen that a person does not reciprocate your feelings. If he declines a second invitation, he elegantly accepts his rejection. Respond by thanking her for her sincerity and wishing her the best.
For example, you might write: "I appreciate your honesty. Good luck in your next meetings."
Part 3 of 3: Avoiding the Most Common Mistakes
Step 1. Don't overdo the text messages
If someone doesn't answer you right away and sends you short, laconic sentences, you may be overwhelming them with text messages. It is normal to write long after the first date if the other person encourages this kind of interaction, but in the end it pays to scale down if there is silence on the other side. Don't sound too enthusiastic, or you risk being overwhelming.
Step 2. Avoid phone calls
We rarely call each other, especially during the period of acquaintance. Typically, text messages are the preferred channel for communicating, so stay in touch with whoever you like by texting instead of calling them.
However, it is recommended to call if you are older and do not have a smartphone. If you are dealing with someone who has been more likely to call, a phone call may be the best way to keep in touch
Step 3. Stay away from their social profiles
Again, it is not a problem to interact via social networks if you have exchanged contacts. If not, don't add it on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. Also, you should avoid browsing his profiles, otherwise you risk analyzing things too much and getting the wrong idea.
Step 4. Stay in touch with other people
Even if the date went well, it is not certain that a love story can be born from a single meeting. If you were chatting with other people you care about, stay in touch with them. This relationship may not work out, so keep looking around in case things take a turn you don't expect.
