Having style is not just a question of the perfect wardrobe, it means having the right mindset and attitude. A pair of sneakers or glasses can help, but style affects everything you do, say, and wear on a daily basis. If you want to have style, first of all you have to change your way of being and "later" you can think about the wardrobe. If you want to learn how to have style, follow these steps.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Change Attitude
Step 1. Be proud to strut
Having style is a question of safety. If you've just bought a piece of clothing or tried a new hairstyle and are afraid you might look ridiculous, anyone will understand. If you don't feel confident about your look, have concerns about your style or the words you use, then those around you will start to have the same doubts.
- Whatever you do, master it. Don't look around for approval from others, don't ask if it's "okay" to have a look at something you like, be it a movie or a shop.
- Don't spend hours looking in the mirror, checking yourself, or asking friends if your new shoes are ridiculous. Look at you, yes, but convince yourself that you are fine and move on.
- Stand up straight, with your head held high and your shoulders not stuffed. Look ahead, don't stare, and let people know that you are happy for who you are, and proud of your place in the world.
Step 2. Make your style your own
Having style isn't just about copying urban fashions or mimicking your favorite rapper; even if you have friends and landmarks that influence your style, you will need to add a personal touch to your wardrobe, attitude and language. Finding out what makes you unique is an essential step to find your style, because it is something that is undoubtedly a part of you. Here are some ways to define your personal style:
- Maybe you like to dress urban chic but you also love to wear pigtails every now and then.
- Maybe you're the only kid in school who can make neon colors look trendy.
- Maybe you like to raise your thumb when you wink to make it go back in style again.
- Maybe you are the kind of guy who always "laughs", on any occasion.
Step 3. Don't be hateful
You will think that having style makes you so cool that you have everyone at your feet, so you have the right to constantly denigrate those who are not at your level. In fact, the exact opposite is true: to show your style, you have to be a great person to everyone.
- This doesn't mean you have to be everyone's best friend, or spend hours supporting and helping anyone; others should crave your company because you are not a person consumed by hatred, jealousy and resentment.
- You may think that treating people badly elevates you, but it really just shows how insecure you are.
- If those around you hate you, then you should avoid these people and find new friends.
Step 4. Date people who push you to improve yourself
This doesn't mean you have to hang out with the coolest people in school just because you'd indirectly enjoy their popularity. Rather, follow those who have style because you will learn how to improve yourself and receive useful advice on how to behave and what to wear.
- If you hang out with some people who consider you a "dead weight" just because you are too nice or have been friends for a long time, but you find that they have nothing to offer you, then it is time to end the relationship.
- If you know people who have style to spare, but don't have a close relationship, take it easy. Don't follow them everywhere or they'll think you're a lackey.
Step 5. Get inspired by your models
Choose people you admire and let them guide you. They don't have to be extraordinary, but they do have to inspire you in some way, either because they push you to cultivate your dreams, or because they elevate your style or because they teach you to be patient. Here are some models to draw inspiration from:
- A family member. Don't you wish you had your mother's sense of humor, your grandmother's ability to make everyone feel better? Maybe you've always admired your older brother's work ethic. Try to do everything possible to develop these qualities.
- Favorite singer. Do you like Mariah, Kanye, or Lady Gaga? Maybe you are more for retro artists like Mick Jagger or Otis Redding? Whoever your favorite artist is, find something you can learn from him, beyond musical talent: you can certainly discover how to be more independent, have fun and walk in style.
- Athlete. What can you learn from LeBron, Serena Williams, Derek Jeter, or Valentino Rossi that you can't acquire in school? Evaluate these athletes both inside and outside their world and find something worth admiring them for.
- Public figure. Do you admire Obama, Wendy Davis, or more brazen figures like Snooki from 'Jersey Shore', a comedian like Bill Burr? Imagine qualities that you would appreciate in that person and try to develop them.
- Someone from your circle. Find someone to admire in your circle of friends who can teach you about life.
Step 6. Stop worrying about what others think
If you really want to have style, then you should do whatever makes you happy and don't give a damn about what other people think, unless it gets offensive or harms someone. You should wear and say what makes you feel good, not what would impress your schoolmates.
- If you are obsessed with impressing people, you will never get their respect.
- If someone is making fun of what you wear or what you do, don't be discouraged. If you stop wearing something just because you have been targeted, you are just a loser. Wear that garment with renewed pride.
- It's okay to ask the people you care about for advice or opinion, but don't ask for their approval for everything you do or have plans to do.
Step 7. Be independent
A person with true style goes well with their friends. If you want to have style, then you should work on being independent and happy by doing what you want instead of following the crowd so as not to be sidelined. To be independent, you need to pursue your interests, goals or dreams.
- Spending time with friends is great, but don't give them every minute of your free time. It's also important to be alone and pursue your interests, whether it's reading, singing, or exercising.
- Part of being independent is thinking for yourself. Instead of always supporting friends to avoid conflict, don't be afraid to support your ideas.
- If your friends ask you out but you'd rather do something else, be honest with them. They will respect you even more if they know you have commitments to work on.
Method 2 of 3: Have Style - For Guys
Step 1. Use the right body language
The most important thing is to keep your head straight and "never" look down, unless you want to appear lost and insecure. If you want to practice walking "in style", you can try to spread your legs a little by bending your feet as you walk, rocking slightly. Keep your arms at your sides or use them to gesticulate as you speak, but don't cross them across your chest or you will seem insecure.
- Don't be afraid to smile. Smiling doesn't make you any less cool.
- When talking to people, keep eye contact. Don't give the impression that you have more important things to do than talk to them at the moment.
Step 2. Wear the right clothes
For a boy, clothes are less important than accessories. Make sure you're wearing something comfortable, a loose fitting t-shirt, hoodie, jersey sweater, or whatever makes you feel and look good. As for the pants, you can wear baggy basketball ones, tracksuit ones or baggy jeans.
- Even if you think that wearing baggy pants makes you special, remember that many girls don't like this style.
- Avoid V-neck sweaters if you can. They are too elegant for your style.
- Be bold and wear a denim vest, striped sweatshirts or any retro piece you want to bring back with some style.
- For a more refined look, wear something buttoned up with an original pattern.
- Pants may be baggy, but not to the point of losing them.
- With a white t-shirt you are never wrong.
- Wear a jacket with a white buttoned shirt and a pair of jeans. You don't have to go to a fancy event to put on a jacket.
Step 3. Wear the right shoes
If you want to have style, then choose the right footwear. Sneakers are generally a great choice, unless you need to dress smart. If you are feeling bold, you can still wear an elegant dress by pairing it with sneakers. Here are some brands you never go wrong with:
- Jordan
- Penny Hardaway
- Scottie Pippins
- Kevin Garnette
- Ken Griffey
- Chucks
- Nike Foamposite and Flightposite
- Air Max (95s and 97s)
- Vans
- Supras
- Osiris Skate
Step 4. Accessories
For guys, just a couple of accessories can help transform an ordinary outfit into something extraordinary. You don't have to wear too many, but choose them carefully, whether it's a pair of sunglasses or an extravagant old hat. Here are some things to remember when pairing the accessory:
- Black glasses with thin or louvered frames
- A gold watch
- Baseball caps
- Lapp cap
- Mitchell and Ness, Zephyr, American Needle, New Era and Last Kings caps
- If you have the options, a branded belt like Hermes, Gucci, Fendi, or Louis Vuitton
- Dog tags or chains
Method 3 of 3: Have Style - For Girls
Step 1. Maintain the right body language
To be stylish, you need to be in control of your body, showing everyone that you are proud of your appearance. Walk with your shoulders straight, chest out and head held high. Avoid bagging at all costs and stand erect. Smile and keep eye contact, don't be afraid to softly touch people when you talk to them.
- When you enter a room, don't hesitate. You give the impression that you know where you are going even if in reality it is not.
- Avoid fiddling with jewelry, zippers, or hands if you don't want to appear insecure.
Step 2. Wear clothes that showcase your style
With the right attitude, you can bring any shirt, shirt or top you like. Adherent or oversized it doesn't matter, it all depends on you, how comfortable you are with what you wear, whether it be graphic patterns, skimpy tops or t-shirts. Try to put on some of these garments to elevate your style:
- Hoodie. Wear the ones with the logo of your favorite team. For a retro look, wear those with middle school logos. It will be stupid enough to be back in fashion right away.
- T-shirts. A loose, fitted or designed shirt will give you a strong look. Wear one that reaches to the navel with a pair of baggy pants. The shirt can have a famous logo, such as that of Adidas or Under Armor.
- Tank tops. Choose them with thin straps or even fitted if you are feeling bold. The skimpy ones look great under large colorful jackets.
- Silver or gold jacket. The more pockets and zippers it has, the better.
- A college jacket if you live in America.
- Wear a sweatshirt. Wear a hoodie with your favorite basketball player's name on the back, with that of Shaq or Jordan for a throwback. It goes well with a pair of pants.
Step 3. Trendy shorts or shorts
Any pair of pants can enhance your wardrobe as long as you wear them with the right attitude. From basketball shorts to cargo shorts, you can fit in with everything. If you wear tight pants, try wearing them with a loose top, if they are baggy, combine them with a tight top. Try these examples of pants or shorts:
- Hot pants, basketball shorts, or chachimomma.
- Loose, gymnastic or low-crotch shorts.
- Skinny jeans, leggings or jeggings.
- All that has animal prints, loud and colorful patterns.
Step 4. Wear the right shoes
You can choose a sporty and trendy look, or a more feminine outfit with a pair of heels. Make the shoes the protagonist of your look or make them a simple accessory. Here are some shoes that always fit:
- Sneakers like Jordan, Vans, Supra, Nike and Adidas.
- Converse black and white.
- Chunky black, gold or silver heels.
- Sandals or Rainbow.
- Dancers.
- Birckenstock.
- Crocks.
Step 5. Accessories
You can go overboard with accessories or go for a simpler look, wearing just a pair of earrings or the perfect hat for your look. Whatever your choice, there are countless accessories that can make your outfit unique. Try some:
- Circles, pointed or band bracelets.
- Gold or silver earrings / necklaces.
- Chains.
- Toe rings.
- Huge granny rings.
- Ear or nose diamond piercing.
- Cap with a team logo or fitted caps.
- Bandanas.
- Oversized slim-frame glasses.
Step 6. Use a trendy make-up and hairstyle
To be truly special, you don't just have to wear your makeup or style your hair imitating Rihanna. You have to do something that is yours and that puts you in the center of attention. Here are some suggestions:
- Wear all the makeup you want if it makes you feel good. If you like it, but it's not for you, that's okay.
- Wear a light lipstick or gloss.
- Use a dark eyeliner and shade your eyes with a smoky eye effect.
- Change your hairstyle from time to time. Color your hair purple or green, go for a Miley Cyrus cut, or let the curls fall over your shoulders.
