Trying to figure out if you like a guy can trigger a whole series of complex and confusing thoughts. To clarify your true feelings, be honest with yourself. Think calmly: consider your emotions, actions and reactions. Also, ask for advice from those who know you well.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Analyzing Your Feelings
Step 1. Be honest with yourself
Calmly analyze what is happening to you. Try to figure out if your feelings for this guy are sincere or if you use them to distract yourself from other things. Ask yourself uncomfortable questions and answer them honestly.
- Do you happen to daydream about him?
- Do you have the wits to "accidentally" run into him at school or somewhere else?
- Are all your friends romantically engaged and do you feel left out?
- Did you get this crush at a suspicious time, for example just before a party or a month before Valentine's Day?
Step 2. Keep a journal
To find out if you like a guy, write in your journal every day. Talk about your interactions. Describe how you feel when you see it. See if these feelings accompany you throughout the day or fade away as soon as he leaves. Write down all your daydreams, all hopes for a future together. At the end of each week, re-read what you wrote and evaluate your feelings.
Step 3. Talk to your best friend about it
Talk to her for advice: no one knows you that well. Discuss your feelings with her. Explain to her why you can't understand how you feel about him. After describing the situation, listen to her. Let me give you a personal opinion. His response could upset you, make you reflect or confirm your true feelings. Calmly elaborate your views.
Part 2 of 3: Analyzing Your Behavior Changes
Step 1. How often do you talk about him?
When a girl is always thinking about a certain guy, she tends to mention him in every single conversation. If you can't stop talking about him, that probably means you can't get him out of your mind and that you like him more than you think.
- Have your friends or family pointed out to you that you always talk about him?
- Do you find yourself making incomprehensible connections between his life and all the topics you talk about?
Step 2. See if you have any new interests
Have you recently developed passions that "coincidentally" are in common with the boy in question? If you've started doing new businesses or suddenly got hooked on a tough topic to impress him, you've probably got a big crush on this guy.
- Did you start taking a class just to spend more time with him?
- Have you started reading science fiction books to have something to talk to him about?
- Have you gorged on his favorite show so you can name him when you talk to him?
Step 3. See if you feel particularly unsure of your appearance and actions
When you like someone, it's normal to have a thousand doubts about your look and behavior. In fact, you strive to show your most attractive, confident, fun and feminine side. You probably spend more time than usual on hair and choosing the perfect clothes. Maybe you live and relive your conversations to understand how you could have expressed yourself differently. If you're worried about making a good impression in every respect, you may have a colossal crush on this guy!
Part 3 of 3: Analyzing Interactions
Step 1. Examine how you behave when you are with him
The way you react to his presence, his voice and any physical contact can be quite indicative. If you are genuinely happy to see him, you have very intense reactions in his presence and you could chat with him for hours, you probably like him. If you find that your feelings and responses are indifferent, it may be that you do not like them at heart.
- When you run into this guy, do you feel butterflies in your stomach and don't understand anything anymore? Do you blush when he talks to you?
- When your bodies touch, do you feel a thrill and blush?
- If he calls you, texts you or otherwise seeks you out, do you smile and respond immediately or ignore his attempts to connect? When you talk, do you want the conversation to never end or can't you wait for it to go away?
Step 2. Consider how much time you spend together
It is a very important factor in understanding what your true feelings are. If you try to take the time to see him despite your busy schedule, come up with new ways to run into him, or just think about a future meeting, you probably care. On the other hand, if you make little effort to spend time with him, this relationship is hardly a priority for you.
Step 3. Find out if you are jealous
If you like someone, it's usually painful to see them flirt or talk to other girls. When jealousy is felt with all its ferocity, that almost certainly means you have feelings for him. If you tend to have territorial attitudes towards him (you always need to know where he is, who he is with and what he does), you probably want him to be more than a friend. If, on the other hand, you have no problems when flirting with others, there are two possibilities: you are not a jealous person or you do not care about an exclusive relationship with him.
Step 4. Consider if you notice even the small details about it
If you like someone, it's normal to end up knowing everything about them, even that marginal and insignificant information. You probably know what kind of coffee or sandwich he prefers. You know about his favorite band or movie. Maybe you even know what his most bizarre phobias are. When you try to discover and remember small details about someone's daily life and habits, you are involved with this person and you are interested in getting to know them in an intimate way.
