For many, doubts can be the cause of many problems. They are carriers of numerous negative feelings including insecurity, reduced self-esteem, frustration, depression, and distress. The huge amount of situations for which we can be in doubt can complicate our lives, making us worry about the safety of others and the correctness of our beliefs, and leading us to ask ourselves repeatedly if we have made the right choice. A fulfilling life is not paved with doubts, so learn how to analyze them and let them go, the reward will be inner peace.
Steps
Step 1. Investigate the topic of doubts
It is very important to understand not only the context, but also the subject of the doubt. It is equally important to recognize that not all doubts are harmful. Some problems can make you feel uncomfortable, but this can happen because you are dealing with something that a part of your mind is trying to classify as correct although it really isn't. Look at situations closely to focus on them and get to know them more clearly.
- Doubting is directly related to the mind because doubts do not come without a reason, they are a precious skill that favors our survival. And while they're not 100% reliable, they're good enough to be considered a possible sign that something is wrong, or that something is missing to make the picture complete. Sometimes doubts can be resolved by increasing our level of knowledge about the subject, but when the topic is not based on reality, doubts are often suppressed and unresolved, at the expense of our physical and mental well-being.
- Sometimes the reason is based on incorrect advice, so if someone tells you about a given event that once you investigate it you find to be partially false, you start to doubt. In this case, the initial image or idea is imperfect. There are many reasons why doubts can arise, but there is always a reason, and being able to understand it is the crucial ingredient that will allow us to solve them.
Step 2. Test your doubts
Whatever they are, experiment for yourself by comparing them with facts and with what you have learned through experience. If it is one of those situations that you will never really be able to test or know, simply accept that you may never have the answer you are looking for. Many doubts appear deceptive, but they can hide imperceptible and difficult to manage topics, others can appear highly complex, but then resolve themselves with extreme ease. Understand that all the small pieces could help you compose the image you are looking for.
Doubts usually exist because there is something wrong with the complete picture of the situation. Find out what the opposite objection is from the mind. Ask yourself why this doubt exists in this specific case. It could be a really delicate motivation, but the mind has the precious and innate ability to identify even the smallest details while we usually ignore them
Step 3. Get rid of doubts about situations that you cannot confirm, test or disprove
Do the same with those you have tested and found to be unfounded. When you get a better understanding of the situation, you will feel more confident and will be able to stop doubting. Sometimes it is possible to find the answers to some questions only when we have reached a certain level of knowledge, which allows us to see them.
- Consider this analogy. Doubts are like viruses and bacteria. Hundreds of years ago, pathologies were thought to be caused by supernatural beings, curses or black magic. Today we know that the disease is caused by viruses and bacteria, but we have only been able to realize this thanks to the advent of some inventions. After learning the real causes, the idea of black magic or other strange causes was released as soon as it was understood by the mind. But in places where technology or science do not exist, or are commonly denied, curses, black magic and other divine, evil or supernatural acts are deemed to be the real causes of disease.
- It is wise to take some time to understand how and why doubts arise, and it is equally important to understand why they negatively affect people by making them unhappy. It may take some time, but usually the situation resolves when you stop wanting to resolve and fight them, allowing the mind to be more relaxed, alert and conscious.
Step 4. Find a person who can give you a real answer
Normally they are those who have studied a specific subject, have gained experience or are intellectually competent and able to answer your questions. Often a conversation can be successful in solving the problem immediately when the other person is competent, able to advise you or handle it. If you don't know who to turn to, conduct your research yourself, try to gather as much information, facts and points of view as possible. Small groups can be ideal for discussing general concerns, but even then select them wisely because they may not be able to answer you or, worse, they may give you unreliable answers.
- Learn to recognize when the person you are talking to is not suitable for answering your questions, or when their conclusions are not credible. Some signs of unreliability include phrases like "just don't think about it" or "you shouldn't think that way"; or the use of emotional manipulation, such as "if you love me you have to trust me"; or the pressure to have blind faith in your current and future well-being. When it is not easy to find unbiased information and advice, many people are forced to accept an inaccurate reality in order not to separate from the crowd.
- While some problems are mind-boggling, others should really be addressed because of their importance. You will have to decide when it will be worth it by using your past experiences as the only reliable yardstick.
Step 5. Evaluate why your doubts are making you unhappy
Look at your mind and find out how it works and why doubts make you miserable. Like Auguste Rodin's 'Thinker', our doubts form a timeless image of humanity, as all of us are sometimes exposed to situations that cause us problems and guide us in search of a solution.
- What is important to note about many doubts is that they spread like viruses, we are always exposed to them in interaction with other people, or when we undergo conflicting experiences. Very often we live without doubts simply because we do not think about the things around us, living in an inevitable pseudo-bliss attributable to ignorance.
- Unhappiness comes from the fact that the mind does not like doubts and uncertainties because they shake our self-esteem and our confidence. Unhappiness is caused by our wanting to remain in confusion rather than letting go of the problem or allowing it to resolve itself.
- Wishing the confusion to go away is an additional cause of unhappiness and stress when the mind is legitimately in doubt, and will continue to do so until the doubt is established and the necessary actions are taken to resolve it, or until it is refuted and left. to go. The mind protects itself from danger by using confusion and doubts as a wake-up call.
Step 6. Practice the ability to let go of doubts daily
The article Letting Go Thoughts and Emotions offers some useful tips that will allow you to develop your skills in this regard to the fullest. The main question we ask ourselves is 'what awaits us at the end of the journey'? The only way to find out is to keep walking in that direction.
- While there are many questions that people would prefer to ignore, doubts are not the solution to problems. It is only by testing your degree of satisfaction that you can really put your doubts to rest.
- It is important to understand that letting go does not simply mean giving up, suppressing, destroying or breaking doubts. It is a question of accepting the reality of the facts. You can only advance by changing your relationship to the original cause of doubt and unhappiness, wishing that the false things are true or that the true things are false.
- Try to remember that doubts arise for good reasons and that they are neither an enemy nor a sign of inferiority, as they are used by your mind to help you avoid danger. Unhappiness can be balanced with kindness and compassion towards ourselves based on wisdom, accepting the facts of life and appreciating what you have.
Advice
- Ignoring difficulties can sometimes help. Even so, don't ignore what you have the ability to cope with constructively, like paying bills or fixing a relationship.
- If you are correct it is not necessary to provide an explanation. The more you try to explain it, the more complicated it becomes and the more other people can argue.
