In reality, there is no right age to get married, the years are just a number, what matters is being mature enough and feeling ready to share your life with someone. However, there are some signs that will help you recognize if you are making the right decision. Start with Step 1 and read some tips to better understand your relationship.
Steps
Step 1. You must trust 100% of the person you intend to marry
Make sure this is the case. Think if your other half will be able to accompany you even in the most difficult moments, if they will always be by your side and you will spend the rest of your life together.
Step 2. Complete your studies
By creating a new family you will need money to move forward. Having a good education is essential to being financially stable and having a happy married life.
Step 3. Think about where you will live, or where your partner will go, after marriage
Do you feel ready to move in with him or her?
Step 4. Do an analysis of the financial situation
From an economic point of view, would it be more advantageous to wait for the wedding or not? Could there be tax benefits?
Step 5. Talk to your partner about your financial situation
It is very important, in order to create a solid union, to make clear the expectations of both.
Step 6. Are you already financially independent?
Think about whether you are able to prove your financial independence before thinking about marriage. It would be better if you had already experienced what it means to live alone (as an individual) before taking this step with someone. Getting married is making a commitment to life, not trying to make ends meet at the end of the month.
Step 7. From the moment you have checked your budget, and you have understood that it may be enough, consider the idea of how needs could change with the arrival of a child (or two) in your family
A popular saying says "love comes first, then marriage and then the baby in the cradle". Do not take the situation lightly, these are serious changes that could have consequences in everyone's life, try to evaluate well together.
Step 8. What do you think of your partner's family?
How much will they interfere with your life? What does your family think of the person you have chosen? Think about how important the opinion and consent of your family members is to you.
Step 9. Do you feel comfortable talking to your partner about even the most confidential topics?
If the answer is no, maybe he is not the right person.
Step 10. The most important thing, however, is to analyze your feelings, and your courage
Make sure you are truly happy and feel if that person accepts you for who you are, and vice versa. Money doesn't have to be the reason you have decided to build your future together. There must be true love. You will have to support each other. And it is necessary that love be mutual
Advice
- Once you are married you share the responsibilities with your partner, life will become easier.
- Think about what you expect from the future and try to understand if your partner also has the same vision.
- Remember that marriage is not exactly "a walk in the park". From both of them it will require constant commitment and considerable effort. The honeymoon does not last a lifetime!
- Make sure you've considered all points of view before deciding. It is a decision that will change your life. It is important that both you and your partner have common goals, even better if the same, for the future.
- A pre-marital counselor could be an idea if you want to examine your situation logically, and look at it with different eyes. Thinking about everything, and trying to understand if your marriage will have a good chance of being happy, will take some time but it is worth it, your future happiness depends on it, and that of your children, who have full the right to be surrounded by a peaceful family.
