Flirting with a handsome guy may seem like an impossible mission, but it's actually easier than you think! You just need self-confidence, a positive attitude and a little cheek. Here's how to do it.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Remote Flirting
Step 1. Look for eye contact
It doesn't have to be a look from the "I'm digging your soul" series, but a fleeting eye contact that lets him know you're interested.
- It could also be a good way to understand his interest - if he keeps eye contact, then he probably likes you. If he looks away, then maybe he doesn't care, or maybe he's just shy.
- A good trick is to stare at him until you catch his attention. At that point, maintain contact for a moment or two before smiling and looking away.
- If you're feeling particularly cheeky, you might want to give him a wink!
Step 2. Smile
Studies have shown that smiling makes you more attractive to the opposite sex - so what are you waiting for? Show your beautiful smile!
- Smiling makes you seem friendlier and more approachable - and it might just be what makes the guy you like get closer.
- Smiling will also make you happier and more confident, two very important feelings when you decide to flirt.
Step 3. Use body language
Even if you don't speak, you can perfectly express yourself using only your body language. Smiling and eye contact are part of it, but you need to be aware of a few other things:
- Don't cross your arms. It is the opposite of smiling - it makes you seem closed and unapproachable, and as a result you would intimidate anyone. Some people do it subconsciously when they are nervous, so be sure to be careful.
- Blow your hair. It is a very feminine gesture and draws attention to your shiny curls. It is also a fairly recognizable signal of flirting; so, if you flip or play with your hair in front of a guy, he'll likely realize you're flirting with him.
- Play with your jewelry. For example, playing with a necklace draws attention to your cleavage, which many guys find attractive in a woman.
Step 4. Try subtle ways to cross it
In order to flirt, you will naturally need to be close to the object of your affection as often as possible. Make a conscious effort to run into him in a "casual" manner.
- Pass by his desk when you go out or take your dog to the same park where he plays football.
- Be careful not to overdo it though, or you'll end up looking like a stalker.
Step 5. Try to look your best every time you approach the object of your interest
It doesn't mean miniskirts, high heels and plenty of mascara. It just means that you should proudly prove yourself well groomed and well dressed. Knowing you look your best will also give you more confidence - essential for flirting success!
- Keep your hair clean and fragrant, brush your teeth, shave (if necessary), lacquer your nails - everything that makes you feel beautiful and gives you a little sparkle.
- Wear clean, comfortable clothes and make sure they're not creased - you can't go wrong with a nice pair of jeans!
- Try out different hairstyles - curly, straight, gathered, braided - to create a new look every day. The same goes for makeup - experiment with different colors and trends until you find the look you like.
Step 6. Consider taking the initiative
Sure, you might be waiting for him to get closer, but there are quite a lot of expectations about the guys in this regard and it could be tiring. If you make the first approach, you will immediately distinguish yourself from others she may be thinking of dating - and you will be the one who chooses the right moment.
Method 2 of 3: Flirting in person
Step 1. Start talking
Find an opportunity to talk to him about common interests, whether it's school, work, or an event you both took part in.
- Start with a question. This will show that you want to get to know him and not just talk about yourself. Ask him if he did anything fun over the weekend.
- Try to avoid those questions that can be answered with a simple "yes" or "no" - it's a surefire way to end the conversation before it has even started.
- Turn the conversation over to him. People love to talk about themselves. Try to bring the talk to something he is passionate about, be it music, sports or his plans for the future.
- He uses his name a lot. It has been proven that people love to hear their name in conversation, especially when it is used by a member of the opposite sex! This way you will create a sense of intimacy between you.
Step 2. Smile and laugh
This will let him know that you feel comfortable with him and, more importantly, that you like to hear him talk.
- It will make you a more attractive, happy, and fun loving person, which is exactly how you want him to perceive you.
- Laughing at his jokes will make him feel like a funny person, which guys always appreciate. However, be careful not to overdo it - don't squawk like a goose or you might frighten it.
Step 3. Shorten the distances
Finding little ways to touch him is a clear sign of flirting and also shows that you are willing to have minimal physical contact. Try doing this:
- Lightly brush his forearm as you speak. When he makes a funny joke, touch his arm while laughing. Or, you can do this as a form of consolation, whether it's sincere or playful.
- "Randomly" put your hand or arm on his shoulder. This creates a sense of camaraderie between you and shows that you feel completely comfortable with him.
- Lean "accidentally" on him while walking together. If you're already flirting and want things to level up, pat his hand a couple of times and watch his reaction.
- Straighten his collar. It's another sneaky tactic you can use by telling him that his shirt collar (or tie) is crooked. Stand in front of him and causally rub your fingers on his neck as you adjust his collar. When you're done, look him in the eye and tell him "now is much better" before taking a step back.
Step 4. Draw attention to your body
Guys are very visual and are drawn to some skin exposure here and there. Subtly draw attention to your body and he will realize how much he likes you.
- Massage your shoulders. Pretend you have shoulder pain and pull the neckline of your top down, exposing the skin as you massage yourself. If you're lucky, he'll offer to do it.
- Ask if he likes the navel piercing. A winning technique is to lightly uncover your belly, telling it that you are thinking about getting a navel piercing. Ask him for his opinion on the matter. If he stutters, know that your trick worked.
- Run your tongue over your lips. Bite them, moisten them, or apply lip gloss - anything, as long as you do it with a sense of carelessness.
- Be careful not to overdo it in showing your body, otherwise you may seem desperate for attention.
Step 5. Dance with him
Dancing with a guy is a fun way to show him you're interested in him, without being too serious. This could be a dance class or a night out at the disco; it doesn't matter where, as long as it allows you to spend some time together with no one around.
- Show him very clearly that you choose to dance with him. Grab his hands and pull him away from the group. If he comes away willingly, that's it.
- You can try to dance in a sexy way, but avoid being too overtly sensual - it is inappropriate to show yourself like this in front of others and may make them uncomfortable.
- If, as a dancer, he is clumsy, you can try to make him feel more comfortable by doing some fun and wacky dance moves. If you can make him laugh, then it was worth it.
- Try a slow dance if possible. Put your arms on his shoulders and be held tightly around his waist. Look him in the eye by swaying gently and he will feel over the moon.
Step 6. Compliment him
Don't expect compliments to be just for you - guys like them too! Making him feel appreciated and considered will make him understand that you are interested in him as a person and that you are giving the right importance to things. Here are some tips for making fabulous compliments:
- Be specific. The more specific you can be, the more personal the compliment will be. If you say something generic, like "You are beautiful," you have most likely heard it before. If you focus on a specific trait or quality that you love, the compliment will be original and he will remember it.
- If he's on a sports team and you've seen him play, compliment him on his performance. If you've heard him play guitar or drums, compliment his style. If you feel more intimate and you like the color of her eyes, use it as an excuse to stare at her.
- Come closer to him and lower your voice slightly. This way the compliment will sound intimate and secret.
- Make eye contact while giving the compliment and keep smiling a little. This will highlight your sincerity and show him that you are truly impressed.
- Be careful not to overdo it with compliments. This would significantly reduce their impact and he could stop taking them seriously. A sincere and simple compliment is better than a hundred of the fake ones.
Step 7. Tease him for fun
It can be a great courtship technique if used correctly. Teasing him can create a sense of intimacy and show the guy that you have a sense of humor. But be careful: if you tease him, you have to be able to accept that he too does it with you!
- Tease him about small, insignificant things - pretend he has a crush on the math teacher or joke that he loves his dog more than any human.
- If he's particularly elegant, ask him how the job interview at Armani went; if he's just back from the gym, compliment his huge muscles in an exaggerated way - avoid teasing that could be considered offensive, but make it look like veiled compliments.
- Don't make comments that are too personal or she might be angry - you need to avoid insulting her family, negatively commenting on her accomplishments at school or work, or criticizing her appearance, at least until you get to know each other better.
Step 8. Leave it in a way that you want more
Do not let the conversation languish for long because it will get bored. Instead, walk away in full interest so that he can't wait to see you again.
- Let him know that there will be another time. If you tell him that you have to go, but that maybe you will see each other tomorrow, you will have given him the idea that you will see each other again.
- When you leave, lean on him as if for a kiss, but at the last moment turn your head and whisper in his ear "I was fine!".
Method 3 of 3: Flirting by SMS
Step 1. Send him a message "by mistake"
It is a good technique to write to him pretending that he is someone else, perhaps your best friend.
- Say something like "Ha ha ha, you're right! So what are you doing this weekend?:)"
- Let a minute or two pass, then send a second message saying something like "Oops, wrong person, sorry! What are you planning for the weekend?;)"
- This trick allows you not to intentionally initiate the conversation, but still be happy to be able to talk to him.
Step 2. Don't be boring
Heavy text messages are useless - mundane topics are really uninteresting and won't be useful to you. Try to make them unique and interesting; text only if you think it will induce a smile.
For example, write something like "The giant bear I just saw in a toy store window made me think of you" or "Quick, help me choose… chocolate brioche or jam?"
Step 3. Leave some questions pending
During an SMS conversation, try not to always reply to every message immediately, as you risk appearing too anxious.
- Only reply to one or two items per message, trying to leave some of her questions pending. This will give you an air of mystery, intriguing him.
- Likewise, don't bombard him with questions in every message, as it will seem too overwhelming. Keep the messages short and sweet.
Step 4. Be suggestive
Once you are in confidence and feel more comfortable with texting, you can raise the bar a little by hinting that you might become more than friends.
- Play it safe at first - you don't necessarily have to be too bold… just hint that you want to be with him. Write something nice like "I'm alone watching a horror movie - I wish you were here to protect me!".
- If he responds with the same flirtatious tone, you can safely continue. Try giving him some more personal compliments.
- If you want to be more suggestive, try, for example, not to answer him for half an hour and then write him "Sorry, I was in the shower …". His mind will do the rest.
Step 5. Do not send more than two messages in a row without a reply
The rule says that you should receive approximately the same number of messages as you send. This means that if she's sending him 20 messages a day and he only replies with five, you're seriously exaggerating.
- Try to exercise some self-control and refrain from texting whenever he comes to mind. Wait until you have something really interesting or important to say. And, if you send more than two SMS without receiving a reply, stop it.
- You should also avoid always being the first to text. Try to be a bit mysterious and aloof and wait for him to write to you. If he does, you'll know he's interested in you.
- Never send messages containing only stupid and meaningless replies. It can be extremely frustrating to receive them and you will not induce any kind of response.
Step 6. Send MMS
Messages with pictures attached can be a fun way to communicate, and you may also be able to send them a picture of yourself.
- Send him a picture of you with a group of friends in the background and add "Do you want to join?".
- Send him a picture of you on the sofa and write him "I'm bored. Come and keep me company?".
- Send him a picture with a movie or concert poster and just write him "Are you interested?".
Step 7. Make an appointment
Texting can be a clever way to ask a guy out, particularly if you're nervous and worried about not being able to ask him face to face. Do it naturally. Try with:
- "Hey! I just saw the trailer for the new Batman movie and I'm dying to see it. Shall we go this weekend?" or "I'm dying for a caramel cappuccino! See you after school? A coffee with me.:)".
- Even if he says no, you don't have to go into the ball. With messages, it's easy and fun to play. Just answer him something like "No problem. It will be for another time". Then give him a way to continue the conversation or not.
Advice
- Don't act desperate. It will make you look pathetic and too clingy, and that will obviously scare the shit out of him.
- Never demean yourself by acting stupid just to get attention. Guys who deserve want a girl to have interesting and intelligent conversations with.
- Show him that you always remember what he tells you. For example, if he tells you he has to go home to help his sister with an exam, ask him how the test went the next day.
- Make friends with his friends, this way when you see him you can talk to him and they will also talk to him about your friendship.
- When he's with his friends, don't talk to them too much, but focus on him. In this way, he will have the impression that of all the guys present, you want him and no one else.
