Boys represent a very difficult subject. Getting a guy to simply talk to you and become your friend is a really difficult task.
Steps
Step 1. Get her attention
Don't be too predictable though. If he says something funny, laugh. If you take the same classes at school, try to be around him often. Don't be too pushy, but if you have to throw something away, just walk past it. If you see him in the hallways, say, "Hey!" and show your friendliest smile. It will make him understand that you have noticed him and that he is not invisible to your eyes.
Step 2. Let him know what he is missing
If you have other male friends, talk to them a lot when he's around too. This shows that they like you and that others want to be your friend. That way he too will want to be your friend.
Step 3. Next step:
talk with him. You have probably already talked a bit together, but now you can really have a conversation. But wait until he is alone and not with a group of friends. This can be a real conversation and not a simple greeting in the corridors. Let's assume that your teacher gives you some free time in class. As you pass the boy in question to throw something away, say, "Hey" or something similar and ask him a question. Nothing personal, something about school or ask him how he spent the weekend. It takes time to build a good friendship.
Step 4. Talk more with him gradually
After a few days, if you know something about his private life or you are aware of a problem he has with someone and you find yourself in some sense witnessing the affair or in some way being involved in it, raise the question. Ask him what happens, give him some advice. By doing so, he will know that he can confide his problems to you.
Step 5. Try to call him "friend" when referring to him
Introduce him to your friends by saying, "Hey guys, this is my friend …" and list all the names of your friends. This will subtly make him understand that you are not looking for a romantic relationship with him.
Advice
- Don't be too predictable, just relax and gradually go with him.
- Don't keep pestering him every day. For example, start once a week. Don't show interest until he greets you first.
- Get to know his friends. This will help you get to know him better.
- If you look good there is nothing wrong with that. Let him know that you are a beautiful person. Many guys are superficial and don't want to be surprised with someone their friends don't approve of. It's sad but true.
- Remember that the guy in question is likely to be in the same position as you. If he talks to you a lot, it probably means he likes you.
- Be sincere; kids can easily spot lies.
- As for the first steps, follow one a day. You can follow step n. 4 for as long as you like, until you're ready to ask him out with you.
- The subtlety of your ways is the key element. Have you ever seen girls who are incredibly predictable? They laugh and bump their boys. It is not nice at all.
- Tell him you want to go out with him and your friends. For example, take him to a football match; boys love sports.
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If you want an excuse to say hello, here are some ways to do it subtly:
- Give him a compliment, for example you can tell him: “What a great project!”.
- Offer him a chewing gum.
- Ask him a silly and trivial question: "Should we have solved problems 1-4?".
- Try to make the conversation end with a common interest: “Yeah, I was just watching a football match. Do you follow football?”.
- If a guy says he wants to talk about your relationship, it means he wants to break it.
- If you were friends in the past and then had an argument, take some time to let things calm down before trying again.
- Be gentle.
Warnings
- Never call him just because you're bored.
- Don't call him every day. A phone call every now and then is fine, but only if you have a valid reason to make it. Some good reasons could be homework, or you could call him to ask for someone's phone number. Don't tell him, though, that you only called for a phone number, etc.
- Don't stick to him.
