Do you have a crush on someone, but unfortunately he only has eyes for another? Fortunately, you have a chance to conquer it, and you can even use this situation to your advantage! If you start off by becoming friends with her and keep it right, you'll get the attention of the guy you like in no time. The following steps will show you how to win over a guy who has a crush on another.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Becoming Her Friend
Step 1. Become a permanent presence in his life
When you build a friendship with him, look for reasons to be together; the more time you spend together, the closer you will be to your goal. The guy you like probably isn't interested in you yet, but you should use these moments to show him your personality and really get to know him, without any pressure.
Step 2. Find out what she appreciates about the other girl
This part is very important and you will be able to get the information you are looking for only by becoming friends with the guy you like. Name the person you have a crush on and listen to what they say. Don't settle for answers that refer only to the physical side. There must be other elements that he finds attractive and you have to discover them.
Step 3. Express yourself kindly
Avoid denigrating your rival in love. You might think it would make her look bad that way, but it would simply make a bad impression. Speaking badly about someone they like, the guy you have a crush on will think you're negative. Also, everyone prefers to have friends who support them. By countering her views, you only harm yourself.
Step 4. Let him know he's a special guy
Even if you need to avoid talking badly about the person they care about, you can start distracting them from their relationship with flattery. Explain that he is exceptional, that he deserves the best, and that he shouldn't settle for it. Advise him to be with someone he considers his friend, because romantic relationships that arise from a friendship are the strongest.
Step 5. Try to be fun
When she still considers you a friend, use every opportunity to show your playful side. Everyone likes girls who laugh at jokes, and those who don't always take everything seriously are considered more intriguing.
Part 2 of 3: Get your attention
Step 1. Use what you have learned
Now that you're friends with her, you should know what her preferences are, when it comes to girls and other areas as well. Use this information to your advantage. Show him that you have many interests in common or that you enjoy the same activities. Also, let him know that you are the ideal companion for him because you have all the traits that fascinate him.
Step 2. Stay close to him
Don't lose the friendship you have created. This way, you show him that you value him as a person. When he realizes that you are attracted to him, he will consider you as the "complete package". People prefer to be with someone they are connected to by friendship over simple attraction.
Step 3. Don't change your personality
While you should bring out the favorite personality traits of the guy you like, avoid completely changing who you are. Find a way to blend those traits with your character. In this way, your relationship will have a chance to last over time.
Part 3 of 3: Flirting with Him
Step 1. Dress to impress
When the guy you like confessed to you that he is interested in someone else, he probably mentioned a specific element of his look that he appreciates. Try to imitate him. If he told you that he was affected by a certain part of the other's body, try to accentuate that area with your clothing as well. There is no doubt that people are attracted to physical appearance, so make yourself more attractive.
Step 2. Interact with the guy you're interested in
Talk to him seductively. Get closer to him when you talk, laugh at his jokes, and create a physical bond. You can touch his shoulder while you laugh, take his hand to lead him somewhere or run your hand through his hair and tell him how beautiful it is.
Step 3. Compliment him on his physical appearance
He will greatly appreciate your words because he trusts you as a friend and knows you are sincere. Also, this way you will let him know that you have noticed his beauty. When you compliment him, he may be trying to return the favor and will then look at you.
Advice
- Keep flirting and carrying on the friendship until she realizes how special you are.
- If the guy you like always seems to be interested in the other, you may have to wait. Let me try to be with her first. Stay her friend and she'll choose you in the end.
- Don't look desperate. Usually, attitudes of that type tend to alienate people. Behave naturally and if he doesn't seem attracted to you, stop chasing him. You risk ruining the friendship you have created.
- If the guy you like has tried dating, stick with him in case he feels sad. He'll notice how much you care about him and appreciate you.
- Don't talk bad about his relationship, because even if he likes someone else, their relationship may not work out. At that point he may decide to go with you, but he won't do it after hearing only negative comments from you.
- Always support the guy you like. Let him aspire to get everything he wants or needs, even if he has different preferences than yours. Fight against people who make him feel uncomfortable, even if they are your best friend.
- Avoid telling him you don't like his girlfriend, as he may not like it.
- If the guy you're interested in doesn't feel very confident when he's with you, don't try desperately to be friends with him! Try to be calm and spontaneous!
- Never show yourself jealous or he'll think you don't really support him. If you really care about him and he seems to be happy with his girlfriend, let them be happy together. Avoid changing for someone who doesn't reciprocate your feelings.
- Don't look desperate. The more you make this impression, the more you will push the guy you like away. Treat him as he behaves towards you and always support him.
