Texting is an accessible and informal way to start a conversation with someone you like. Calling too often can make you look impatient, and if you follow her everywhere you will look like a stalker! Texting is a lower-profile and much less nerve-wracking solution than a face-to-face conversation or a phone call. So take a deep breath, find the courage and start writing.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Starting the Conversation
Step 1. Get his phone number
The best way to do this is during a good conversation. Ask him very naturally and don't make your request weigh in.
- Do it as simple as "Hey, why don't we swap phone numbers? By the way, they just gave me the iPhone 5, what phone do you have?"
- The moment after the number exchange can be a little awkward. Make sure you don't lose the rhythm. Keep the conversation going so that the number exchange feels natural.
Step 2. Prepare a strategy
Before sending the first message, plan what you are going to say and the goal you want to achieve at the end of the conversation
Step 3. Send your first message
A simple "What are you doing?" or "What are you doing?" they are good ways to start a conversation.
- If the person you like responds that they are watching television, listening to music or playing something, respond by asking what they are watching, what they are listening to or what they are playing. Whatever the person you like replies, prepare a question to continue the conversation.
- The person you like might say something like "I'm doing my homework." In response, you can say something like, "We really have too many. It took me a lifetime to finish them!" If, on the other hand, you attend different schools you can say something like "Poor! Do you have many?"
- Tell the person you like what you are doing. When it tells you what it's doing, send a response like "Nice! I'm just checking Facebook." or replace the activity you are doing.
Step 4. Observe how the person you like reacts
Look for clues in the messages to see if the other person likes to chat with you, if it's time to end the conversation, or if it's time to take the plunge and ask her out.
- If the replies to your messages are very short or terse, then you should write something like "Ok, see you later." Don't draw too many conclusions. The other person may be busy or in a bad mood. Try not to sound desperate or pitiful by carrying on an unwelcome conversation.
- If the person you like answers with questions like "What are you doing?" then you will know that he wants to keep talking. Follow the natural flow of the conversation. But make sure you end the conversation first. Let the other person still want something.
- Look for opportunities to take the relationship to the next level. If the conversation becomes more intense or moves to personal matters, or if the person you like starts sharing their problems with you, you can say, "Why don't you call me so we can talk?"
- Be brave. If you know the time is right, ask the person you like out on a date.
Part 2 of 3: Other Ways to Start a Conversation
Step 1. Write to the person you like "How did you feel about school today?
"If the answer is something like" Ok "or" La usual ", you can ask what he thinks about the homework, or the questions and classwork for the next few days.
Step 2. Use holidays and anniversaries to start a conversation
- If you're texting the person you like before Christmas or their birthday, ask what plans they have to celebrate.
- If you're writing right after a holiday or anniversary, write "Hey, did you have a nice birthday? Did they get you something nice?"
- Learn about the holidays you don't celebrate. For example, if your family is not religious and does not celebrate Easter, ask the person you like what it is.
- Write them around New Year's and ask if they have any New Year resolutions. Share your resolutions with her.
Step 3. Ask her questions about her family
The person you like might complain about a sibling, or maybe they have an older sibling going to college. If you have brothers too, you can say something like "You're right, sisters can be terrible. My sister drives me crazy." You can also ask questions about her parents or even pets.
Step 4. Talk about his hobbies
- If he plays a sport, ask how his last game went.
- If she has other interests, such as playing in a group or writing in the school newspaper, ask her to tell you about these activities.
- Have you recently entered a contest of some kind? If she participated in the math Olympics, or got the part in a school play write her to congratulate her.
Step 5. Write something that comforts her
If the person you like just got a bad grade, lost an important game, or faced a sad event, write something like "I'm very sorry about what happened. How are you?"
Part 3 of 3: Rules to Remember
Step 1. Take your time
With a message you have 160 characters to write something effective. Don't be in a hurry to answer. Send your response when you have had some time to think.
Step 2. Avoid spending too much on messages
If you don't have a rate plan that provides free messages, or unlimited messages, take note of the number of messages you send. You don't want your parents to get a nasty surprise on their next bill.
Step 3. Avoid abbreviations
Abbreviations will make you look superficial and immature. Use abbreviations with your friends and use full sentences and capitalization when writing to the person you like.
Step 4. Use smiley faces with caution
Sad smiles and smilies are fine, but make sure your feelings are reciprocated before sending flirty smilies.
Step 5. Make sure that the person you like also initiates conversations
Don't write them too often. Writing once or twice a week is enough. Don't sound desperate.
Advice
- Use a light tone. Never make heavy statements like "I love you" in text.
- Don't be too obvious. It will make things strange.
- Try to wait the same amount of time it takes her to respond before posting your responses.
Warnings
- Think twice before texting sexually. The person you like may withdraw if you are too direct in the beginning of the relationship. Also, don't let them push you into sending inappropriate photos or engaging in explicit conversations. Don't do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable.
- Do not write if you are under the influence of alcohol or drugs. You could send a message that you will regret.
