The relationship that is established between best friends is among the most important that can be experienced in life. That's why you want to do everything you can to make sure your best friend is happy to spend time with you. Most of the time this happens naturally, but sometimes it's good to remember the things that make some friends more special than others.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Enjoying Life with Your Friend
Step 1. Plan activities to do together
Some of the most precious memories you can have are the times you go out with your best friend. Plan your outings together and make sure you really stick to them. The most important thing is to make sure you make a commitment to spend time with him outside the home, school or work.
You can do pretty much anything you want with your best friend. Take a day off to spend entirely with him, or set aside an hour to have a coffee. The important thing is that you enjoy the time you are together
Step 2. Stay together
Best friends don't need to be crazy to have fun. Sometimes it's enough just to spend time in each other's home. Invite your friend when you have nothing planned to do. Enjoy his company and relax.
There are some fun things you can do without even having to go out. Watching a movie, playing video games, making sweets, etc. Staying indoors does not mean sitting quietly on the sofa
Step 3. See each other regularly
This will make your bond even stronger. It doesn't have to be a big deal. You can have lunch together every day or you can both take the same bus to school. Even if it's only for 20 minutes, meeting each other consistently is an important component of being best friends.
Interacting with others regularly helps keep your mind healthy, as well as making you a great friend to someone. Science has shown that it reduces the likelihood of suffering from anxiety, depression or stress. If you suffer from these problems, doing social activities on a regular basis will help you feel better and strengthen your friendships
Step 4. Share funny memories
As you spend time together, situations will arise that will make you laugh out loud. Keep them in mind and remember them in a future time. When you do, you will laugh again and think about all the happy moments spent together.
Step 5. Be spontaneous
You don't have to follow a script to be someone's best friend. Amaze him whenever you feel like doing it. He will appreciate that you think about him even when you are not together.
Not sure what is most appropriate to do? If you are not with your friend and you see something that reminds you, or something you think they may like, call or text them to tell them. Ask them to spend time together if you haven't already planned it. Just look for it
Step 6. Make friends with his family
Being someone's best friend probably means spending a lot of time in their house. Get to know his family members and befriend them. When you see them, ask them questions about their life and ask how things are going. Try to remember details that you can use at your next meeting. You may not always get along, but in general you should be friendly with his or her household.
If you have a best friend, you may be invited on a vacation with his or her family. If you are lucky enough, make sure you behave yourself and treat his relatives with respect. If you don't, you could seriously damage your friendship
Part 2 of 3: Supporting Your Best Friend
Step 1. Be there for him when he is sad
We all have times when we feel unhappy. If your friend is upset, talk to him and encourage him to tell you why. Try to see things from his perspective and give him affection. He will understand how important he is to you and will return the favor when you need it.
- Most of the time people prefer those who commiserate with them rather than those who offer them solutions. As tempting as it may be, when your friend confides, don't try to tell him how to solve his problem. If you really feel like you have to say something, wait until he has calmed down at least a little.
- If it is truly in crisis, something more may need to be done. Help him by running errands for him and taking care of the basic things for him. When he has recovered he will really appreciate it.
- Something horrible could happen to him, like a death in the family. This is why he may have attitudes that are not part of his character, but don't fall into the mistake of thinking he doesn't want your help. If he's facing a tragedy, stay by his side even if he doesn't seem happy to see you. Your best friend still needs you and will never forget that you supported him all along.
Step 2. Allow your best friend to support you
Support is a two-way street. For it to be effective, you need to trust the person offering it. Go to him if you are sad or angry about something. Be honest and tell him why you feel that way. Not only will it make you feel better, but it will help build trust between you and strengthen your friendship.
Step 3. Encourage your best friend
You should try to support him every time, not just when he's sad. Encourage him to try everything he wants and to give his best in doing it. This will put him in a good mood and give him the energy to pursue his wishes, which he will certainly appreciate. He will always remember who encouraged him to achieve his dreams.
Even if you don't approve of what he wants to do, you should still support your friend so as not to hurt him or put him in trouble. You don't necessarily have to follow everything it does. Seeing you support him, even though you disagree, will mean a lot to him
Step 4. Be loyal to your best friend
Do not tell third parties what they confide in you. Don't try to force him to do something he doesn't want just for your own gain. These things will betray his trust and ruin your friendship forever.
- This may mean having to decide who to be loyal to when two of your friends are in conflict. After all, you should be on your best friend's side. This kind of unconditional loyalty is very important.
- If you want me to share his secrets with you, you should first confess some of yours. If you feel like you need to take a weight off your chest, your best friend should be one of the first people you turn to. This will make it easier to be loyal to one another.
Step 5. Accept his flaws
No one is perfect, so you don't have to expect your best friend to be. Don't try to change or reject sides of your character that you consider negative. He most likely knows who he is, exactly as much as you do. Over time, you may realize that it was her quirks that attracted you in the beginning.
Part 3 of 3: Becoming a Good Friend
Step 1. Be kind
Kindness makes those who give it and those who receive it happy. People want to have those around them who are friendly. Treat everyone with respect and do little things to help those in need. You will be surprised at the impact that even the smallest gesture can have.
Step 2. Consider friends as equals
You shouldn't feel superior to them, nor should you treat them like royalty. People don't like people who think they're better than them. Likewise, they feel uncomfortable when it is evident that someone is feeling inferior. After all, we are all human beings. Try to always keep this in mind.
If you are constantly fighting against these ways, try to think first about what you mean and how people might interpret it. It doesn't have to look like you're trying to be mean to your friend or yourself. If you monitor them carefully, these attitudes will naturally change over time
Step 3. Be nice
It's no secret that people love to laugh. Make jokes when it's appropriate. It's okay to make fun of someone, but don't say anything that's overly mean. You'll be happier arousing comedy for the little things and everyone will want to spend more time with you.
Don't worry if you're not an innate comedian. A good way to be nice is to surround yourself with people, things, and programs that make you laugh. Watch comedies and listen to comedians. Take some time to relax when you have stressful days. It won't happen overnight, but you'll soon be more comfortable making funny jokes
Step 4. Be yourself
There is no point in trying to be different just because you think you might like someone more. Unless you are intuitive at all, anyone will be able to see beyond your actions. Nobody wants to go out with someone who puts on airs. By being yourself you will attract friends who like you for who you are, not for who you are trying to be.
Advice
- Having your best friend around should make you feel good. If you don't like spending time with him, then you should re-examine the people you surround yourself with.
- Don't expect anything in return if you do something for your friend. You have to do it because you want it, not because you can get something out of it.
- Don't get involved in a fight between two friends, unless they are both yours too. If they learn that you are trying to make them up, explain that they are your best friends and that you don't want to see them argue.
