Do you know a nice girl you love to chat with and would like to deepen your friendship without sentimental complications? Start dating her more often! Maybe she can introduce you to other interesting people like her. Here's how to do it.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Creating a Friendship
Step 1. Try to hang out in the same places she goes too
To befriend a girl, you need to be a familiar face. He will not easily confide in a stranger who suddenly approaches to strike up a conversation. However, if he has already seen you around, this barrier of distrust will collapse because he will no longer find you creepy. Do you attend the same school? Do you share a hobby? Great, it's a starting point.
- It has been shown that humans learn to appreciate the things they have been exposed to for some time. For this reason the songs on the radio become catchphrases and the advertisements are repeated endlessly. The more time you spend in her presence, the more she will like you. This process is called the mere exposure effect by psychologists.
- If you really have to, try to get back into his field of vision. Do you always sit on the left side of the classroom? Can you find it every Wednesday afternoon in the same cafeteria? If you know where to find it, try to hang out in the same place from time to time. The important thing is not to become suffocating.
Step 2. Interact with her
Now that you both know each other by sight and have something in common, you need to start interacting with her. It can be anything, like a remark about the teacher's ridiculous tie or a question about the next week's tutorial. Don't be afraid to start small. You have to start with something, right?
- She is only a girl, she is certainly not a witch, an alien or an Ewok. There are billions of them all over the world! If you speak to her, the earth will not split and the world will not explode. If she is willing to be friends with you, she will be happy to answer you.
- Don't be too aggressive. Friendship develops over time and can embarrass a girl if you start treating her like she's your best friend even if you've just met, especially if she's shy.
Step 3. Be bold
Many people are too shy to make contact with others. She may want to be friends with you, but she doesn't want to make herself vulnerable by taking the first step. So go ahead and start the conversation. Ask her opinion on something, ask her a question about something you have in common, and keep the conversation going.
Notice what he wears, the things he brings with him and his interests. Observe it carefully. Did you notice that he was reading an article on wikiHow? Perfect! Ask her what she thinks or what her favorite article is
Step 4. Make her laugh
The easiest way to befriend someone is to laugh together. If you can keep her entertained… bingo! You got it. Leverage her sense of humor to share good times.
This is a great way to make your meetings light and fun. If you can make her laugh, she'll understand that you like to have fun, both in history class and after a particularly intense exercise that took you all Thursday night. Light up his days and you will see that he will continue to hang out with you
Part 2 of 3: Cultivating Friendship
Step 1. Treat her like a princess
Typically, a woman needs to know that you find her nice, even if you don't want to go out with her. So, even if you have to treat her like a normal person, she'll enjoy some little attention that you wouldn't give to a "friend". Keep the door open for her, lend her some money if she's short on change, text her if she's having a bad time, tell her she's nice before a big event. Small things are enough to make her happy. If you don't want to, she'll wonder if there's something wrong with her.
Try to be gentle. A little flirting is good, but it needs to be contained and appropriate, otherwise you risk misleading her! Just act like a gentleman in his company. Avoid attitudes that can be easily misunderstood, she doesn't have to think you're romantically interested in her, but it doesn't hurt a little more chivalrous demeanor than what you show when you play Xbox with your friends
Step 2. You must be precious to her
This is not a specific advice for a friendship between boys and girls: it is a valid note in general, for any type of relationship. Do you have friends who don't enrich your life? Probably not. So try to be important to her. It is up to you to determine what you can offer to enhance your friendship. What are you good at? What are your knowledge? Why should he need you? What makes you a good friend?
Obviously there is an answer to all these questions. Maybe you are really smart, funny, or you know a lot of different people. Have you traveled a lot or do you have an interesting hobby? Focus on what makes you special and show them. If you're good, help her with her homework; if you are nice, keep making her laugh; if you have a lot of connections, introduce them to other people they might like. Make yourself useful
Step 3. Give her a sincere compliment from time to time
Girls love heartfelt compliments. He'll appreciate it, but make sure you've made it clear you're not trying. Wearing a beautiful Daft Punk shirt? Tell him! Was she great during the volleyball match? Let them know! It's always nice to feel appreciated. So let her know your admiration, she will be happy.
This is treacherous ground. Don't say phrases like "Your eyes are shining lakes of moonlight that illuminate my soul" because she would misunderstand your intentions. It's not even worth saying "Oh my God, you're the best!" if you just got a bad grade on an exam. Compliments must be appropriate, credible, and not stupid. Try turning the situation around to compliment her in a more subtle way. For example "Did you get a 5? Well it can happen if you dedicate all your time to other activities, in fact you are very good in French / piano / sports!"
Step 4. Loan something of yours and vice versa
For example, you could swap your iPod, computer, books, or guitar. You should trust each other, sharing the things you care about most. Don't ask her anything out of the blue, or it will look weird. Wait for the right time.
Alternatively, you can create the occasion. Did you skip class the other day? Ask her for her notes. Does he have the fourth season of Archer? You have to borrow it immediately! The courtesy will be mutual, but someone will have to start as well. When you borrow something from her, she'll understand that she can too
Step 5. Laugh at his jokes
If you keep making jokes on every occasion, she'll try too. Try to laugh even if they're not funny. At least she tried, isn't she adorable? Sharing a laugh is helpful in establishing a strong bond between you, even if the joke isn't memorable.
Friends sometimes do stupid things and girls are no exception. If she makes a particularly bad joke, you can make fun of her. This type of interaction is essential for building a relationship of solidarity; if there is no malice or malice in your words, he will react with a smile
Part 3 of 3: Becoming Good Friends
Step 1. Try to be always available
He needs to know that he can count on you even in difficult times. Let her know that you will be the shoulder to cry on when a relationship goes wrong, that you will deal with the stress of exams with her and that you would accompany her everywhere, even in the middle of the night in the pouring rain. There is no need to put it into words, the facts will speak for themselves.
Girls are often emotional and sometimes completely irrational. In these cases, it is important to listen. Maybe he doesn't need a solution to his problem, even if he's complaining all the time. Just be there, by her side, to listen to her. Tell her she can handle anything and the next day she will be a new person! Ah women
Step 2. Let your friends know she is a dear friend of yours and nothing else
If they want, they can go out with her, but you will keep an eye on them: they will have to treat her well and keep it straight. After all, that's what friends are for, isn't it? In the end, she is like a sister, but without the hassle of having to fight over the bathroom.
Make it clear to your girlfriend that she's just a friend. Sometimes girls tend to be intimidated by deep, existing friendships. Address the subject without making it a problem and your girlfriend will calm down. Maybe a good friendship could even be born between the two of them
Step 3. Make your feelings clear
Some schools of thought argue that a true friendship between man and woman cannot exist, because one of the two, sooner or later, will fall in love with the other. If this happens, express your feelings. The worst thing would be to live in uncertainty, so always be straightforward and straightforward.
You are true friends, so you can do it! Hopefully she is equally sincere towards you too. If you start to notice mixed signals and suspect that she has feelings for you, let her know that you care about your "friendship". Use all your tact to let her know that you are just friends without hurting her. But you must act immediately to nip the problem in the bud
Warnings
- Don't change your attitude towards him in front of your friends. Don't make silly jokes and don't put on airs. Girls hate this kind of behavior!
- Do not speak vulgarly in front of her and do not say obscene things towards her. It's something that works between guys, but girls are different and may not like this behavior. If you have no respect for her, why should she grant you her friendship?
- Don't try too hard for physical contact, as it may misunderstand or feel embarrassed. Quick hugs, high fives, backslapping and pinching on the cheeks will do just fine. Also, never refuse her physical contact, even as a joke, or she will feel different from your other friends and think there is something wrong with her.
