If you have younger brothers or sisters, you will want to do your best to make sure they are happy and lead a good life, because you have love for them and are a good big sister! But, if you're not sure what to do or are looking for ways to improve your relationship with your brother or sister, read this article for some helpful tips and advice.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Set a Good Example
Step 1. Show respect for everyone
Having respect is a very important quality for anyone, because it helps to get along with others and to be successful in this world. If you want your brothers or sisters to have an easier life, set a good example by respecting them, your parents, your friends, your acquaintances, strangers and even yourself!
Don't respond badly to your parents or teachers or be rude to them, or even to people you don't like at school
Step 2. Be a responsible role model
Responsibility is another very important quality for living. Avoid things like drugs or alcohol. Instead, try to get good grades in school and help around the house. You can also get hired for a job for the purpose of earning your money, so show your brothers and sisters that you can get what you want if you work hard.
However, stay humble about all of this. Never flaunt what you do in front of your brothers or sisters or in front of your parents. Let the responsibility and its benefits speak for themselves
Step 3. Don't swear
Speaking well is usually a sign of good manners and intelligence, so you want your brothers and sisters to be able to express themselves as reasonable adults. Achieve this by not teaching them a lot of bad language and instead trying to speak using good vocabulary and the best grammar you can master.
Step 4. Be peaceful in your actions
Kids who learn that violence makes them popular or that it's a good way to solve problems will only have one outcome in life: problems. Don't let your brothers and sisters see you behaving violently, whether it's towards them or anyone else. Rather, solve your problems by talking about them.
Step 5. Be proud of who you are
Teach your brothers and sisters to love and respect each other for who they are by always setting a good example and doing the same. Take care of yourself, never blame yourself for whatever you are or do, and always work to make yourself a better human being. Pursue what you adore and ignore detractors.
Step 6. Do the right thing
Always do the right thing, even when it's hard. Protect those who cannot protect themselves and teach your brothers and sisters that it is worthwhile to stand on the side of the defenseless. You should also apologize or admit your mistakes when you do something wrong. Teaching your brothers or sisters to always do the right thing by setting a good example will make both you and their humans better.
Step 7. Do not give orders or view your brothers and sisters as inferior
This sets a bad example for them, teaching them that it's okay to talk to people like this or treat them like that. Also, if you behave in this way, they will not respect and appreciate you, so disrespect will inevitably lead to arguments. Treat them as your fellow man because they actually are.
Part 2 of 3: Creating a Good Relationship
Step 1. Spend time with your brothers and sisters
It doesn't matter how you do it, but, if you want to start having a better relationship, then you will need to spend more time with them. Find ways to play it together or just to hang out. Do whatever you like to do together.
Step 2. Raise their self-esteem
Your brothers and sisters will have a much happier life and will definitely love you more if you help them love themselves and feel secure. Do this by complimenting them when they perform well and focusing on their triumphs instead of their mistakes.
Step 3. Create a space of trust
Your brothers and sisters should be able to trust you so that they can turn to you when they have problems they may not be able to talk to your parents about. Establish a space based on trust by not only letting them know they can talk to you, but by not making fun of them when they tell you something serious, you should never judge or stab them in the back or go and blurt everything out to your mom and dad.
Step 4. Celebrate who I am
Be happy that they are who they are instead of trying to make them look more like you. Embrace the hard work they put into the things they love and try to join them often in benefiting from these activities.
Step 5. Look at life from their perspective
Arguments happen and it will happen that you will get angry at each other. However, if you stop and try to see things from their point of view, you may find it easier to stop fighting. People usually make a mistake because they think they're actually doing everything right, or at least trying. Understand that you make the same mistakes and that you will have a far better relationship with your brothers and sisters if you embrace their way of seeing things.
Step 6. Offer your help when asked
If your brothers and sisters ask you for a hand in doing anything in their life (provided it doesn't harm them), do whatever you can to help them. It could be something small or big - nothing is too much for you! Either way, if they don't want help, you should respect their wish and step aside. Sometimes people have to do things for themselves, and you better respect that.
Step 7. Encourage them in life
You should encourage your brothers and sisters to want more from life: they should aim for the stars and pursue what makes them happy. They will be happier people throughout their lives if they do what they adore. This means that you shouldn't make fun of them about their tastes. Instead, try to help them carve out time to pursue their passions and even join them sometimes so they don't feel alone.
Step 8. Protect your brothers and sisters
Whether they are bullied or dating people who lead them down a bad path, you should help them keep away from the things that get them in trouble. Defend them when you can and try to get them away from bad company by allowing them to hang out with you and your friends or by finding them a new place to make different friends.
Step 9. Always make them feel welcome and useful
It can give you a bad feeling to feel unwanted, especially from a sister you really love or admire. Make sure your brother or sister never feels this way by finding ways to include him or her in your life. If you're trying to do your homework and it bothers you, kindly ask them to leave you alone for a while first. There are times when younger brothers or sisters don't realize they are annoying.
Step 10. Be a sister, not a mom
Don't try to parent your younger brothers and sisters, your parents are always there to fill this role, and the same goes for other authority figures when yours aren't around. You should keep an eye on them, but treat them more like they are your friends. This will create an easier to manage and healthier relationship.
Part 3 of 3: Doing the Possible and the Impossible
Step 1. Make them feel better
Whether your brother needs a hug and advice or just a silent shoulder to cry on, you should be there for him, giving him comfort when he needs it. Make sure he knows he can talk to you, and keep an eye on his mood to see when he's sad.
Step 2. Do something sweet
It's fun to joke around your sister, but you should do something really nice for her every now and then. You will find lots of little ways to help on any given day, because you may be particularly needed, but you can also look for some nice things for her to do, such as fixing a broken toy, doing household chores that have been assigned to her. or cut grass in the garden (if you are old enough to do it).
Never blame her for doing something nice for her. That makes the cute act selfish, because it switches to just you, not her
Step 3. Compliment your younger brothers or sisters
Make them feel good about themselves by congratulating them when they get good results or you just feel like saying something nice to them. This can mean a lot, especially if you have a rough relationship and sometimes fight. It shows the great affection you have for them and that you can find good qualities in them, even though you complain a lot.
Step 4. Buy nice gifts
When it's Christmas or your brother's birthday, don't buy something discounted, which could be good for anyone; opt for a perfect gift for him, even if it doesn't cost much. Choose an object that reminds you of a beautiful moment spent together in the past or connected to something you enjoy doing in company. This will show him that you really care.
Step 5. Share with your brothers or sisters
Now is not a good time to be selfish - you and your brother or sister should share everything you can, be it the delicious part of dinner, a computer game you both love, or a family legacy. Be generous to each other, because if you can't be generous to your brothers or sisters, who else will you be?
Step 6. Keep in touch
If you live far from your brothers or sisters, perhaps because you live in different houses or because you are older and have left home, you should make sure you keep in touch with them. They still need all the wonderful things you have provided them in the past and nothing can replace a big sister who is always there and who has affection for them. Call when you can, write "letters" via Facebook or email and visit each other whenever possible.
Advice
- Remember, your sister will imitate what you do, so don't be a bad influence for her!
- If you yell at your sister, apologize and do something so that she forgets about it, she will always forgive you and won't remember, but next time try to stay calm.
- Don't turn spending time with them into an excuse to lead. They will not accept it willingly and it will hurt the relationship. Although your sister is years younger than you, you should treat her as someone who has feelings, just like you, just like you.
- Try to understand that since your sister is younger than you, she will imitate your attitudes because you are her role model and she wants to be like you.
- Engage in activities with them. Try doing the things they love.
- Try to have some fun secrets and treat your sister like she is your best friend.
- Offer to help and tell them that if they want to talk to someone, they can count on you.
- Make them laugh. They will know that you are funny and will begin to love you even more, further enjoying your relationship, which will mature as a bond of friendship.
- If you have something in limited quantities, for example there is only one cookie left in the box, let your sister eat it, or at least propose to divide it and give her the larger half if there is one. You can always go and buy more, what matters is that she remembers your nice gesture.
- Remember that your sister or brother can spend time with your friends, let him have fun with them too!
- Do little things for them to show that you care. When they come home from school, don't totally ignore them, greet them with a smile and ask them how their day was. Being a cold, indifferent rock won't do your relationship any good and is comparable to perpetually grumpy and aggressive behavior.
- Offer to go buy some ice cream or something to snack on every now and then.
- Treat your sister's or brother's friends with respect.
- Give them all the unconditional love you have.
Warnings
- Be helpful. When they need your help, take the opportunity to be a good role model by giving them a hand, never getting them down for not being able to do it on their own. Never ignore a call for help, even when you don't think they really need it - you don't want someone to do that to you, do you?
- Accept them. If they like a genre of music that you don't like, that doesn't mean you can't jump and dance together in your bedroom.
