Anyone can have to deal with annoying classmates, guys who get on the nerves and make you lose the light of reason. Even if you don't have the authority to discipline them, you have the strength to manage your physical and verbal reactions to their behaviors. Ignore them so they don't get the satisfaction of knowing they can annoy you. At the end of the day, you won't regret keeping your cool and cool.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Managing Personal Emotions and Reactions
Step 1. Stay calm and focused on yourself
Annoying people tend to bring out the worst in us. When you begin to feel frustrated and disoriented by the behavior of those around you, take a moment to recover.
- Take a long, deep breath and then slowly squeeze out the air. Keep breathing deeply until you are in full control of your words and actions.
- As you breathe, try to repeat a mantra, such as "serenity", "tolerance" or "love". Focus on a word rather than the mate who is bothering you.
Step 2. Choose to remain silent
When a kid in the class is annoying, harassing you or provoking you on purpose, or even unintentionally, the only thing you can control is how you react. Don't feed his negative behavior with another equally negative one. Choose not to speak. Silence is not synonymous with weakness or cowardice. Rather, it can be the hallmark of a strong individual who is in full control of his emotions.
Although in some situations it is better to postpone, in others our attention is needed. If a classmate mistreats you or other kids, step in to defend what is right to defend
Step 3. Check your non-verbal reactions
In addition to witty jokes and stinging comments, we can also convey our annoyance by glaring, muttering and making bewildered faces. If you really intend to ignore a rather irritating classmate, you need to limit or scale back your physical reactions to their behavior. Don't moan, sigh, or roll your eyes when he does or says something that gets on your nerves.
Step 4. Evaluate what happened from the right perspective
In the moment it is easy to become obsessed with the behavior of others when it is harassing. Their quirks can wear down our thoughts and make us lose our temper! To avoid exaggerated reactions, ask yourself: "Apart from this moment, does his attitude, although intolerable, negatively affect my life?". The answer will certainly be "no".
Part 2 of 3: Ignoring the Clowns, Competitors and Chatters
Step 1. Pay no attention to the class fool
The clowns or buffoons in the class devote time and energy to raising the mood of their peers. When you are in the mood to accept their jokes, you have fun. When you're not in the mood, their attempts and their sense of humor can make you lose your mind. Since they benefit from the reactions of their "audience", the best way to ignore them is to show complete indifference to their jokes.
- The class clown wants to please and is very sensitive to criticism. If you can't shut up, a punctual remark could momentarily put an end to his quarter of an hour of comedy.
- If it gets you in trouble for something you did, don't react badly. Keep calm and ask the teacher if you can speak privately once the lesson is over. When you are face to face, explain your side of the story and apologize for any inconvenience you may have caused. Work with the teacher to develop a plan that avoids further such situations in the future.
Step 2. Limit your interactions with the guys who compete
Overly competitive students feel stronger at the thought that they are better than others. Their determination to demonstrate how superior they are can fuel a sense of inadequacy and low intelligence in the rest of the class. If a rather competitive mate asks you how you did a task, they are just looking for a way to brag about their grades. In this case, walk away. If he continues to annoy you, tell him that you prefer to be discreet on this subject.
For example, you might say, "I'm sorry, I prefer not to give this information", "You did a flawless test in class. Thank you for telling me how much you took. As for my grade, I prefer not to tell" or "Stop asking me.. I don't want to tell you the grade I took."
Step 3. Ignore the talkers
Often, overly talkative classmates have problems with embarrassment and selfishness. It is very difficult to ignore this category of people. Their incessant chatter is disturbing and out of place. Try to get away from it and keep your focus on the lesson or task you need to complete. If necessary, politely ask for some silence or to lower your voice.
- For example, you might say, "I'm having a hard time listening to the teacher. Could you lower your voice or stop talking?" or "Your chatter is distracting me. Can you shut up so that I can pay attention to the explanation?"
- If you have not been able to hear what the teacher said, raise your hand and ask if he can repeat it: "I'm sorry, in the buzz I lost the thread of the explanation. Could you repeat it, please?".
- If you no longer know what to fish for, ask your professors for help. Stop at the end of the lessons and report who is annoying with his chatter. Teachers could rearrange their seats and speak privately with the person concerned.
Part 3 of 3: Ignoring aloof, shy and less insightful classmates
Step 1. Do not think about the most apathetic and detached companions
When a teacher tries to involve a poor student, the inability to be an active member of the class can annoy others. While it may seem like a waste of time, remember that it is the teacher's job to follow everyone. Instead of thinking about your partner's disinterest, use the time the teacher takes to anticipate homework.
If you have to work in a group with this pupil, don't waste your energy trying to help him. Rather, ignore him and do your best to make up for his lack of participation
Step 2. Be patient with shy classmates
If you share the desk with an extremely shy guy, the interaction difficulties between you might bother you. Unlike the little participant pupil, do not ignore it. Do your best to engage him in conversations.
- Before starting a project, first try to get to know it. If she feels in tune and comfortable with you, she may be more inclined to talk.
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Try to break the ice somehow.
- Offer to play "two truths and one lie". Say two things true and one wrong about yourself. Encourage the shy partner to guess which statements are true and which one is false.
- Make jokes and riddles.
- Ask him a series of random questions, such as: "What do you like to eat?", "Where were you born?", "What is your favorite carousel?", "Do you play any sports?" or "Do you have a pet?". Allow him to do the same with you too!
Ignore Annoying Classmates Step 10 Step 3. Keep busy when less discerning peers speak
Even if you don't have learning problems, other peers may not have difficulty understanding the topics of study. If someone needs continuous clarification, don't embarrass them because they struggle to grasp the meaning of a lesson. Even when talking to the teacher, do your best to control your physical and verbal reactions. If it doesn't improve despite further explanations and insights, dedicate yourself to your homework or other activities.
Advice
- If a classmate's gossip affects you negatively, talk to a teacher.
- Count to ten before reacting.
