Do you often end up in detention at school? Do you stay home in punishment every weekend? Do you always quarrel with your mates? If these situations sound familiar to you, it's time to do something to stay out of trouble before the situation escalates. Don't worry: no matter what terrible trouble you find yourself in, if you make an effort to find good influences and become passionate about something, in no time you will be able to get back on track. Here is a little guide to learning how to stay out of trouble.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Staying Engaged and Active
Step 1. Join a sports team
Playing sports, whether it's a school team or your neighborhood team, is a great way to avoid getting into trouble. Whether you prefer to play football, basketball or tennis, team sports are a good way to meet interesting, athletic and energetic people with whom you can learn to do different things than always getting in trouble. You don't have to be a champion to join a team and start making meaningful connections with other people.
- You could set yourself the goal of becoming the team captain, in order to invest all your energy in this project.
- Playing sports will enable you to do weekly exercise, which will help calm you down by preventing you from channeling your energy in the wrong way.
Step 2. Join a group
If you are really not a sporty type, you can always look for a group from your school, your church, or your city. You can participate in an art, French, cooking, debate, or any other kind of course that allows you to focus on something that you are passionate about and that you care about and that has nothing to do with disturbing people. your professors or don't do your homework.
You can take a few trial lessons so you can see which one is right for you
Step 3. Volunteer
Volunteering is another great way to stay out of trouble and put things in perspective. You may be less likely to make trouble at school or in your neighborhood after spending time with people who really need. If you are too young to do it alone, go with your parents to any volunteer event, whether you need to help people learn to read, clean a park or work in a kitchen. Find something that is meaningful and do it at least once a week.
While you don't have to plan all your time to be able to stay out of trouble, doing a small number of things that you consider meaningful each week will help you focus on what's important
Step 4. Be an active student
You don't need to be perfect to stay out of trouble, but it sure doesn't hurt. Being an active student means arriving on time, not skipping school, raising your hand when you have questions to ask, and doing the work early so you can attend class. If you focus on being a good student, then you will stop thinking about ways to annoy your parents or your professors.
- Look for a subject that really interests you and study it so that you know as much as possible. You don't have to find everything interesting, but choosing at least one or two subjects that you are passionate about can make all the difference.
- Set goals to improve your grades. You don't have to have the highest grade on every assignment, but you can aim to go from a 6 to a 6+ in Math, for example.
Step 5. Read as much as possible
Reading will help you improve your vocabulary and comprehension skills, becoming smarter and more experienced and learning to see the world in a new light. Plus, if you read, then you won't get in trouble. Immersing yourself in a story can help you forget the passing of time and be transported to a new world. A world where you are only an observer. Start by reading for 20 minutes before bed every night, and you'll turn it into a habit that will keep you company for the rest of your life.
Read different books, from science fiction to fantasy, to find out which genre you are most passionate about
Step 6. Create something
Being creative is another great secret to not getting into trouble. You can write a play and put on a play with your friends, write a story, draw, make a ceramic vase, decorate your room as if it were a forest and try your hand at a whole host of other activities. Using your mind to create something completely unique and original is an optimal use of your energy and will help you not waste all your creativity by finding ways to break the rules.
You can sign up for an art class after school, or ask your professors if they have any extracurricular projects to get involved with
Part 2 of 3: Finding positive influences
Step 1. Follow your instincts
You may have had problems in the past because you didn't follow your instincts. If you feel that an action might turn out to be a bad idea or that you don't want to go out with a particular person, then follow your instincts. Don't be afraid to follow your feelings if they are telling you to run 100km away. If something doesn't convince you, even if you can't quite understand why, then there's a good chance you're not wrong.
In general, if a friend suggests you to do something and if even for a single moment you are not convinced, then it is appropriate to withdraw
Step 2. Spend time with your family
If your family can make you feel safe and loved, then you should spend more time with them so that you surround yourself with positive energy. It sure isn't so cool to watch a movie with mom and dad or help your sister's daughter with her science homework, but your family will always be there for you and it's important to build a strong bond with them.
- If you are with your family you won't have a chance to get in trouble, right? As they say "Loose hands do the devil's work": the more time you spend with your family, the less chance you will look for trouble or get into trouble.
- Create a weekly plan. Plan a family night, time to do housework, and time to help your brothers or sisters at least once or twice a week.
Step 3. Don't hang out with the wrong people
Often the people who could get you in trouble are your best friends. If that's the case with you too, maybe you should start looking for new friends. It's definitely not what you want to hear, but if you really want to avoid having problems then you can't hang out with the same people who make you have them. If, on the other hand, you have decided together to stay out of trouble, that's another matter; but it doesn't happen often. It's time to slowly step away from people who damage your reputation and who don't make you look nice and kind.
At this point, you might think you can still stay out of trouble even if you continue to hang out with people who always end up there; unfortunately you will always be associated with them and you may be blamed for something they did even if you did not participate. Unfortunately, there are things in life that aren't right at all
Step 4. Hang out with people who have positive influences
If you have friends who do well in school, who have meaningful goals and live positive lives, you may be infected with their lifestyle and do the same. If you only have friends who get in trouble and who have negative influences on you, then you will have a better chance of composing yourself like them. While it may be difficult to make new friends, shop around at school or in your neighborhood and try to find people who seem kind, friendly and willing to let you join the group even if you have fallen behind. You will soon see that you will easily stay out of trouble, just having fun with new, more open-minded people.
You might consider making new friends by joining school groups or playing sports (more on that later) or engaging in other activities
Step 5. Try to develop positive relationships with your teachers
Another great secret to not having problems is having a good bond with your teachers or at least some of them. This does not mean that you have to act like a licker or try to be their best friend, but it does mean that you have to be a good student, get to school on time, ask for extra help, and ask interested questions in class to show that you are attentive.. If you have had a problematic relationship with one of your professors, remember that you can always make up for it with a lot of work and effort, even if it will take some time.
Being viewed positively by professors is a great way to avoid getting into trouble. If you enter into their good graces, they will be less likely to punish you or look for faults or mistakes in your behavior
Step 6. Find someone to take as an example
Having a good example that you can really refer to can help you make the right choices. Your example can be your mother or father, your older brother or sister, a professor, a friend of the neighborhood, the president of an association, the pastor, the grandfather, or anyone else who encourages you to do something positive in the community. life. You need to be able to go to this person for advice not only on how not to get into trouble but also on how to do something meaningful in your life.
A person to be taken as an example and to whom you can go regularly could become one of the most important and lasting influences in your life. It is important to look for someone who lives a life you admire. It does not mean that it has to be perfect: if he has made mistakes in his path and has learned from them, it is even better
Part 3 of 3: Avoiding Conflicts
Step 1. Don't gossip
One way to avoid any conflict is not to gossip, neither about your teachers, nor your classmates or your friends in the neighborhood, or even your cousins. Gossiping sends negative signals and in the end you always get caught. Instead, try to say positive things about people, even if no one else does.
If you talk badly about someone, it's easy for them to find out. And if it happens, you may find yourself in serious trouble
Step 2. Don't try to reason with irrational people
One of the reasons you might get into trouble is because you feel the need to express or explain your reasons to people who simply don't want to listen. If you and a guy at the gym or on the street can't really communicate, then stay away. Resist the urge to set the record straight, tell people why you don't like their behavior, or poke your nose into business that doesn't concern you. Instead, try to keep unstable or irritating people at a distance, and you'll have a much better chance of staying stable.
Talking to people who don't want to listen will get you nowhere. It is just a waste of time and energy
Step 3. Don't argue
Obviously if you're the kind of guy who always ends up having fights, that's easier said than done. But if you really want to avoid having problems, then you need to learn not to get involved in fighting. If someone taunts you, gives you nicknames, or approaches you with contentious intentions, learn to breathe slowly, walk away and stay calm. Getting into fights with these kinds of people, getting hurt and ending up in the Headmaster or in punishment in your room is no fun. So the next time you get into an argument, remember that while it can be rewarding for a moment to punch someone like that, it will hurt you in the long run.
Literally, go away. If anyone approaches threateningly, raise your hands and walk away. This doesn't make you a coward - it makes you smart
Step 4. Don't answer your professors
You certainly won't be the best friend of all your professors, no matter how hard you try, and there will definitely be one or two professors you won't get along with. Even if you really disagree with something they say, you should always try to be polite, do your best, and avoid an argument. If your professors ask you to do something, do it (unless it's completely unreasonable). Now's not the time to be tough and say what's really on your mind.
When you are in school, you need to be polite and think about studying. As you become an adult and work, you can begin to question authority and the world around you more openly. But first, you need to stick to the rules of the game
Step 5. Be nice to everyone
Being friendly and kind will help you a lot in staying out of trouble. Say "please" and "thank you" and be nice to everyone, from the neighbor who passes by your house every morning to the traffic assistant. Developing a habit of good manners and having good social interactions will help you in life and keep you out of trouble. If you are rude or mean to people, you will have a reputation as a malicious person and no one will be on your side when it comes to you.
Be nice to your family members too. Don't think they know you so well that you don't have to be nice to them
Step 6. Heal yourself
You may think that a fair amount of rest, a healthy diet with three healthy meals a day, and daily exercise won't help you stay out of trouble, but you are wrong. Taking care of your body means taking care of your mind and if your body and mind are in good condition you will have less chance of getting into trouble. For example, if you are hungry or tired from playing video games all night, you may be calling an adult badly even if you don't really want to.
Plus, if you focus on your well-being, you won't have time to get into trouble
Advice
- Be a friendly person.
- Don't insult your classmates and don't be mean in school. Professors will have a hard time being on your side.
- Even if your friends are being bullied don't fight for them, but tell a professor. If it's gym time, defend your friend in every way and tell a professor, but don't go any further.
Warnings
- Don't start a war of insults. They don't end well.
- Don't look for problems.
