Deciding whether you want to bother to get out of the house (to go to a concert, bar, game, etc.), or stay home in the warmth can be stressful enough. A good option would be to use a wikiHow like site to organize your outing. However, you will have to choose a place to go yourself from the ones you prefer. Unless you, your friends or your colleagues decide to leave the decision to fate, to decide where to go and get that famous aperitif.
Steps
Step 1. Start by putting aside all the little fears on your mind
In doing so, you will be able to process your thoughts clearly and concisely. You will then be able to understand if your instincts are telling you to leave or to stay.
Step 2. Once you have made a decision, the first thing that comes to your mind, stick to that, leaving all the little doubts that get in your way
Step 3. If you have decided to go out, prepare to go out and stop thinking about it until you have walked in the door
Step 4. If you can't stop worrying about these little things (your look, the people you will meet, etc.)
) think about the people who will accompany you. Are they friends you feel safe and comfortable with? Friends who are capable of entertaining you in any situation? Or are they people you don't know well yet and don't trust too much?
Step 5. If the latter is the case, take heart and go there anyway
You won't get to know these people better if you don't start dating them more. Try to meet new people and avoid always surrounding yourself with the same people.
Step 6. If you are just trying to be lazy, put on some cheerful music and wear something lively
Take your cue from some magazine or blog dedicated to fashion. Then, call the people you are going to date and talk to them about where you will go. This way, you will reassure yourself and be more in the mood to go out.
Step 7. Think about what you will miss if you don't leave home
If this is a regular event, it shouldn't be a big deal in case you don't feel like going there. But if it's a one-of-a-kind opportunity, like going to a famous band concert or something really unusual, it will be much easier for you to regret it.
Step 8. If it's an opportunity to be seized, you shouldn't let it slip away
The people who accompany you and your appearance will not affect the experience. To enjoy it, you just have to look and be there.
Step 9. If you think you want to go out but are afraid because it is a new experience for you or people you don't know well yet, go for it
Go with the flow and be aware of your emotions. If you feel afraid, keep having it, but GO anyway.
Step 10. Tell yourself it's just a new experience to add to the list
If it turns out to be a bad experience, what does it matter? You'll remember it next time, learn from it, and maybe even laugh at it. After all, what's the worst that could happen to you? Maybe, you won't enjoy it.
Step 11. Go home if you feel uncomfortable
If you're not having a good time once you're out, apologize to your friends, and tell them you prefer to go home (maybe another among them might feel like you), or prepare an escape in advance.
Step 12. However, if you still have doubts and just don't feel like going out, then don't
Don't regret it, enjoy the quiet at home, invite a friend over, rent a movie or spend quality time with your family.
Advice
- Try not to worry that they might decide not to invite you again. If they are true friends, they will, but sometimes even good friends get tired of asking if they get rejection every time. Don't feel left out if this happens to you too. Self-invited! They will be surprised and happy to have you with them.
- Don't force yourself to go there for fear of what others might think. Don't let them force you to do what you don't want to do. If you think you will disappoint someone by not going there, just try to be as courteous and honest as you can (don't lie) and tell them it will be for next time. If you leave someone in the lurch, most of the time they will no longer want to go to the event. Explain that he can have fun alone or let him read this article.
- If you decide not to go out and then regret it, try writing an essay on this experience and reread it the next time you have doubts. It may help you find the courage you need.
- If your friends tell you how much fun they had, smile and ask them to tell you everything. Don't be bitter and think about the happy moments you spent at home. There will be other opportunities to go out and have fun.
- If you have work to do and are not sure if you will be able to go or not, it is best to try to finish what you need to do, especially if you are not even sure that you would have fun going out.
- Make sure you have a backup plan in case you want to go home. Book a taxi, tell a friend you might need a ride, or ask your parents to stay at your disposal until a certain point in the evening so you have time to decide if you intend to stay or go home.
Warnings
- Be careful when dating new people. Find out what kinds of things they do when they go out and about. You may find yourself in a situation that makes you feel uncomfortable or puts your safety at risk otherwise.
- Be careful. Make sure others always know where you are going.
