You don't have to put up with bullies. They use intimidation and insults to demean people who feel reluctant or unable to defend themselves. If you are tired of listening to bullies, their intimidation and the orders they give left and right, it's time to take a stand. You can learn to deal with them safely and intelligently, relying on the people around you and putting yourself out there to stop bullying forever. Defend yourself. Start reading the article from the first step to learn more about the issue.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Confronting a Bully
Step 1. Look him in the eye and tell him to stop
If a bully brings his face close to yours, he raises his hand as a traffic auxiliary, trying to create a barrier between you and him. Look him in the eye and say quietly, but firmly, "I want you to stop immediately."
If he continues to invade your territory or make fun of you in any way, just repeat the phrase "Enough! I want you to stop immediately. Stop". Don't say or do anything else, but hold your position and repeat the same words
Step 2. Find out how bullies think
Bullies tend to pick on those they consider reluctant or unable to stand up for themselves. They choose easy targets with which to "confront" them by provoking them with words and actions. The best and fastest way to end bullying is to stand up and say firmly to stop, repeating the process until he listens to you.
If you try to negotiate, seek his friendship or express your annoyance, you will give him more comfort and make the situation worse. Don't complain, try not to cry and be steadfast. He will get bored and lose interest when you try to defend yourself, because he will have no reason to continue. There is nothing to enjoy after saying "Enough". There is nothing to be mocked in people who show their pride
Step 3. Walk with your head held high and watch the bullies from top to bottom
Pay attention to how you physically face them. Even if they are bigger than you (and often they are), stand up straight and look them in the eye. Keep your eyes cold. Scrutinize them. Look at them as if you know something they don't know.
Think of your favorite movie characters that have character and great willpower. Imagine Vin Diesel, Arnold Schwarzenegger or Clint Eastwood standing in front of the enemy looking at him from above: "Come on, punk. Let's have a good time!". Put yourself in the shoes of Meryl Streep in Diavolo as Prada, Angelina Jolie in “Wanted” or Wednesday Adams from the Adams Family. Be imperturbable
Step 4. Plug your ears
Don't listen to the things they say and don't take them seriously. They do it to show themselves superior, not because they believe what they say, because they are true or because they try to help. They try to beat you down to feel better, because they are insecure and faint of heart.
Formulate a mantra to recite if you are a constant victim and repeat it over and over in your mind while the bully talks to you. It could be the lyrics of a song you like, a prayer or a phrase that gives you courage. If he approaches, with a cold look tell him to stop. Keep calm and repeat your mantra
Step 5. Defend yourself wisely
Don't get sucked into an exchange of insults. You will almost always lose in any kind of direct verbal confrontation, even if you are wittier, funnier and clever (in fact you are). Bullies rig the game. Don't try to get it off with witty replies and stinging insults, as this will only make the situation worse.
- Don't go along with their game. Don't give them any opportunities. Tell them to stop, look at them from above and offer a target that does not arouse their interest.
- Alternatively, play stupid. Professional wrestler Steve Austin, known as "Stone Cold", used to interrupt wrestlers who talked nonsense by shouting "What?" and move confusedly when they spoke. In this way, he ruined the party for them.
Step 6. Ignore online bullies.
The best thing you can do to resist faceless bullies hanging out online is ignore them. If you are being bullied online, through email, messages, Facebook or other social networks, you need to disengage as much as possible. Avoid getting sucked into an exchange of insults or discussions on any web platform, especially "public" ones. As tempting as it may be, don't be tempted to throw mud yourself.
If necessary, change your privacy settings, delete from your friends who are bothering you or open a new account if necessary. Just because it doesn't harass you in person, it's no less dangerous
Step 7. Learn to punch
It is not recommended to get drawn into a fight, but you will be able to have more confidence and character if you are sure you know how to defend yourself, if that is the problem. Learn to throw a real punch, holding up the comparison with those who take advantage of you.
- Stand correctly. Put one foot forward and balance your body weight by spreading your legs. Keep your torso still and keep moving, jumping on your toes. They won't be able to hit you if you keep moving.
- Clench your fist. Put your thumb on the bottom of your fingers, not inside your fist and not on the side of your fingers, as if you have an insect you don't want to escape. Don't hold it too tight.
- Target the weak points. If you have to throw a punch, aim for the places where you have the most damage. Hitting in the jaw will hurt you more than the target. Aim for the nose.
- Keep your elbows bent towards your torso. Throw punches and direct hits, not uncontrollably. If you keep your body straight, your punches will be more powerful, so keep your elbows bent.
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Put yourself in a defensive position.
Put the non-writing hand near your chin to protect your face, and the one you write with near your cheek instead. When in a defensive stance, unlatch your fists at a slight interval to avoid getting hit.
Part 2 of 3: Reporting the Bullies
Step 1. Collect the evidence
Whenever you are bullied, report it as specifically as possible. Write who was involved, where and at what time. If you have injuries, take photos of any cuts, scrapes, or bruises on your body. If you tear your clothes, keep them. If someone saw what happened, talk to them to get them to come forward and report the misconduct.
Keep any evidence of cyberbullying you are a victim of by making copies, saving a screenshot, or printing hard copies to keep. Use this material as proof
Step 2. Report bullying to an authority
As soon as you understand that you have been the victim of an act of bullying, report the problem with evidence and testimony to the competent authority in charge of these problems. Make sure you use the word "bully", claiming that you feel unfairly targeted, intimidated and harassed by these people's behavior.
Step 3. Tell your parents
If you've run into a bully at school or elsewhere, it's always best to start by telling your parents about it. Get them on your side and tell them all the details. It is up to you to defend yourself, but having the support of your parents is important.
Step 4. Tell the teachers, school principal or school counselors
Wait and calmly present your situation to the appropriate authority. If you have been bullied when you leave school, telling the usher intent on work will probably not be enough. If the kid who is bothering you attends your class, tell your teachers. If he is older than you, consider talking to the school director.
Step 5. Talk to law enforcement if the problem persists
If you are not in school or if the behavior continues and you fear it will not stop, contact the police. Provide the evidence you have collected and follow their instructions.
Step 6. Tell the truth
Don't tell what happened to make a good impression. It's better to be honest and make sure you take the necessary steps instead of trying to make a good impression. If you've given an unpleasant response to a bully, confess it. If you gave the first punch, admit it. In this situation your words are worth more.
Part 3 of 3: Defending Other People
Step 1. Be nice to anyone who is bullied
Bullies prefer people they see weak as targets. Those who have few friends or are more physically defenseless become easy prey. Because bullies lack self-confidence, they choose targets to intimidate and dominate. By making friends with those who are probably at the mercy of bullies, you will deprive them of some good opportunities to harass and in the union you will find more security.
You may be tempted to divert bullies' attention to another guy so that they lose interest in you. "Hey, if they harass him, it means they won't do it to me!" Never think that. On the contrary, take the side of the victims and everything will turn out for the best
Step 2. Look for evidence of bullying
When walking through the corridors of your school and neighborhood, keep an eye out for signs of bullying. Whenever you see an older guy picking on a younger one or anytime you see a classmate looking down and nervous, start paying attention and learning how to fight bullying.
Step 3. Surround yourself with friends
Walk through the corridors of the school with friends and go home with other kids from your neighborhood to stay safe as a group. Bullies will be less likely to pick on a group of kids.
- If you are facing a bully, stay in a group. Follow a plan. Tell them to stop, staring at them and advise your friends to talk the same way. Trust yourself.
- If a bully starts picking on a friend in your group, don't laugh and don't join in these bullies. Don't try to divert them elsewhere, or you will find yourself engaging in the same aggressive behavior.
Step 4. Show respect if you want respect
Behave kindly and kindly to multiple people in order to earn the respect of others. You won't be a victim of harassment if you are known as a guy who has character, self-confidence, and who doesn't fear confrontation. Be kind to anyone, more or less known, even those who are not your great friends. Do not take the opportunity to exploit or make fun of others for your personal gain.
Step 5. Shut out the bullies
Once you have built a network of people around you, use it to ignore those who harass you and those who use bullying tactics to intimidate others. Eliminate these people.
If a bully confronts you by telling you not to talk to him or by intimating his presence in certain activities, be direct about what you are doing. “We don't like the way you behave. If you stop insulting and harassing everyone, you will be welcome”
Step 6. Get involved
Stand Up to Bullying is an organization that frequently holds rallies and events to support victims of bullying. Try to educate teachers, students and other communities about the consequences of bullying and how to eliminate it.
Get in touch with an organization like Stand Up to Bullying or search for other anti-bullying organizations in your area by sharing your experiences. Ask for help and see if you can bring your support. Take the initiative by taking the first step in fighting bullying
Advice
- Always surround yourself with friends who support you. Who knows… maybe they had the same problem with these people.
- Don't let bullying poison you. Bullies are so pathetic that they talk to people with arrogance. Just ignore them, walk away or change the subject if you were already having a conversation. If the phenomenon becomes very serious, talk to someone, preferably an adult, or ask for a change of class.
- Talk about it. You can ask your parents if it is possible to go to a therapist or you can just discuss the matter with them at the dinner table.
