Do you love someone but have you treated them very badly? Losing the love of your life is one of the saddest things that can happen to you, especially when you know you are solely responsible; but if it's really the love of your life and you are his, it's possible to put things right.
Steps
Step 1. Be honest
You have betrayed the love of your life - you have to look inside yourself to understand why and be 100% honest with your partner. All the trust he had in you has fallen apart and lying will only make things worse: don't hide and tell openly what you did.
Step 2. Apologize
Apologize and beg her forgiveness. What you did is only YOUR fault… not hers. You have to tell him because he will have a hard time accepting your actions.
Step 3. Eliminate all contact with your "flame"
If you haven't already, cut any type of bridge NOW! Your partner must clearly understand that any kind of relationship with that person is over and that it no longer means anything to you. Let your partner know that you want to be alone with him.
Step 4. Communicate
It will be very difficult for your partner to trust you again: if you really love him and want him back, you will have to face some sacrifices. Tell him everything he wants to know, be honest and open: if he wants to know your password or wants to check your phone, you have to let him. You need to show that you want to be honest and completely transparent in any aspect of your life - this is an important step in regaining his trust and showing him your love.
Step 5. Be accommodating
The love of your life will feel so much pain and the only person she will be angry with will be you: if she asks you to do something, do it. If he asks you for more space, give him it. If he asks you to spend more time with you, stay close to him. Show him all the desire you have to be with him / her.
Step 6. Fight
Yes, you were really wrong. But if you really love this person and you know they love you then you will have to fight for what you did: remember all the happy moments spent together. Give him some flowers, a postcard with a meaningful phrase, some small thoughts … anything useful to show him that he is at the center of your thoughts. Make her feel loved. Show her that you couldn't love anyone as you love her: after all, she is the love of your life.
Advice
- Girls are hard to understand: they usually say one thing but mean another. Pay attention to this aspect. If he has a hard time letting go then he still loves you. Use this handhold or he'll leave you once and for all.
- If she doesn't want to talk to you, leave her alone. Give it the space it needs. IF he truly loves you and you are the love of his life he will be felt sooner or later.
- Don't blame someone and don't try to justify your actions - this will only make the problem worse.
- Her friends will try to protect her and will most likely suggest that she break up with you once and for all - don't refuse anything she says. Accept her and react by trying to put the pieces back together and showing her your love by respecting her and doing what she asks for.
