Do you have a friend that you would like to make more than a friend? Although knowing your friend already well may seem like an advantage - at least you're not asking a stranger out - the transition from friendship to romance can be complex. But not impossible. You can ask a friend to go out with you without mortifying yourself or ruining your friendship.
Steps
Step 1. Look for signs that they are interested in you
Learn to interpret her body language. Is his affection fraternal or potentially romantic? Does she just flirt with you or is she like that? Is she interested in someone else?
Step 2. Find out his interests
You are more likely to be successful by inviting her to an activity or event that you already know she will like. This also shows her your interest in her as a person.
Step 3. Make her a CD
Pick some of her favorite songs or include one that lets her know how you feel about her. It's a cheap and easy way to let her know you care.
Step 4. Wait for the right time
It should be when you are alone and comfortable, relax. You can randomly insert it into the conversation. Playfully suggest that you could be her knight that night and show her how a real man treats a woman.
- You should ideally ask him in person, but it's also acceptable over the phone. DO NOT ask via email or Facebook.
- If you ask them in person, take the time to prepare. You certainly don't have to wear a jacket and tie, but neither should you ask them with your gym suit. You'll be more likely to impress if you're presentable.
Step 5. Be clear
Whether you're suggesting a movie or dinner, he might mistake your question for something friendly. Again, make it clear that it is meant to be a romantic date.
Advice
- Ask her when she is alone. She may be uncomfortable or embarrassed when she is with her friends. And he may say no, regardless of how he feels.
- Be clean and well cared for. Don't smell bad, but don't use too much perfume either. Most girls don't like it.
- Too many people get bogged down in finding the "right" way to ask a girl on a date. Relax and do it.
- On the other hand, don't be too cautious either. If she says she likes you and you did the same, then ask her out! Don't wait too long, it could make everything fade away. She may think that you don't have enough self-confidence to talk to a girl.
- Compliment her on her laugh, her smile, or her appearance. But Not do it if you are not sincere.
- Appointments to study are the least embarrassing and an excellent excuse to be together, especially if he has told you about subjects where he is not doing well and simply about problems he is having in class.
- Go easy. You don't want to ask her out after 3 days that you know her. Love at first sight is not always reciprocated.
- If you have to call her and usually see her during the day, say something like "I wanted to ask you first but I haven't seen you all day". Make certain not having seen her much that day.
- Try to play some jokes to sweeten the situation and then just say you want to go out with her; if he doesn't want to, accept it; if she agrees, ask her what she wants to do; if she says she has to think about it, don't pester her!
- Even if she said no, the fact that you asked might make her think about the romantic possibilities between you two. Do not lose hope!
Warnings
- Don't act completely different just because it's a date. Remember that he has agreed to go out with you, not who you are pretending to be.
- Don't brag about something you've done recently. It can make you look immature.
- Do not be deceived if it continues to send you signals of little interest in you.
- Be prepared for rejection. It happens to everyone. You will come out very well if you take it philosophically without bursting into tears or getting angry. Chances are he already feels sad that he has rejected you.
- Never deceive her. Tell him discreetly but immediately if you think you are no longer interested in her. Girls can guess well, so if you try to trick her and she catches you, things will get bad for you (and she's very likely to catch you).
