Having a crush on someone can make you very shy around that person, especially if you don't know them well. However, you will never know if a boy (or a girl) likes you if you don't talk to him! The first rule of starting a successful conversation is to banish your self-harming thoughts and show confidence in yourself. Once you have the right mindset, you are ready to start following the other tips in this article for a provocative and successful conversation.
Steps
Method 1 of 1: Start a Conversation with the Person You Like
Step 1. Meet her gaze in a provocative way
If you can catch her eye before you talk to her, do it. It will subtly indicate that you are interested in her and will offer you the opportunity to measure her interest. If she often catches your eye and doesn't look away, she probably has an interest in you too. Don't stare in a general direction; keeps glancing at her until he meets her gaze. When it happens, smile.
Step 2. Start with a compliment
As anyone who has had an experience with a stalker will tell you, there is a fine but defined line between flattering and annoying. With this in mind, choose the compliment with common sense. Saying something like "You always look great in that shirt" can be strange if you don't know the other person well and implies that you keep an eye on them constantly (even if you do, it's best not to blurt it out right away). Instead, opt for something generic but cute like “You have a dazzling smile today. What makes you so happy? " or "I think what you said earlier in class is very interesting." A good compliment should give the conversation more momentum instead of awkwardly hanging in the air after saying it.
Know how to compliment. Even the best compliment in the world will have no effect if it doesn't come in the right way. Keeping a half smile when you speak will give your voice a pleasant inflection (try this trick a few times when you answer the phone and see if you notice the difference). As you speak, keep eye contact with the person you like. Keep the tone of voice high but turn down the real volume: speaking softly immediately communicates intimacy and can bring people closer to be able to hear. If all this seems a bit difficult to you, do the test in front of the mirror. It is a good technique to know
Step 3. Scroll through the conversation
It may be tempting to stop talking and stare at the person you like with your mouth open, but hold on. Do not allow there to be a long pause in the conversation or the atmosphere will become awkward. Instead, have a list of spare topics ready to use if the chatter breaks down. Ask her what she thinks about a recent event that you both know, a homework assignment, or plans for the weekend or vacation.
Ask open questions. For example, instead of saying, "So, are you planning something fun during the break?" (whose answer can be a simple "yes" or "no"), say: "What will you do to keep yourself busy when there is no school?". A question that involves a detailed answer is always best to get the conversation flowing
Step 4. Find an excuse to leave before you've exhausted all conversation topics
Follow that old proverb which goes: “Let them want more and more”. Find a way to politely escape the conversation before it becomes monotonous. Cutting contacts in this way, while the other person is still interested in talking to you, automatically generates in her the desire to see you again as soon as possible.
- You don't have to lie to do that, a simple “Hey, it was good but I have to get away” is fine.
- When you leave, make a brief comment about how much you enjoyed the conversation. This will prevent the person you like from thinking you are leaving because they said something wrong. As you did for the compliment, express it with a smile and lower your voice slightly.
Step 5. Next time use your first conversation as a point of reference
Starting a conversation with the person you like will be easier next time, as you can always refer to something you discussed during your first conversation. Follow the same steps again.
Advice
- Make sure you have fragrant breath. Nobody wants to talk to someone who has bad breath.
- Don't make it too obvious that you like the other person. Show some signs of interest and if the other reciprocates, he probably likes you.
- If the person you like starts touching you in a provocative way, gently reciprocate if you feel comfortable.
- Avoid the "friendship zone". Starting a conversation with a compliment immediately makes it clear to the person you like that you are interested from a sentimental point of view and you are not just looking for a platonic friendship. If you skip this step, you risk being confined to the so-called "friendship zone".
- Don't start with something about his private life. You will give the impression of being intrusive and rude.
- Sometimes an awkward moment can actually help spark a conversation. Simply make sure that the embarrassment does not get to the point of pushing the person you like to avoid you, but is just enough to trigger the conversation or help the person you like to get out of the moment of embarrassment. This can help the other person to admire you so as not to simply point to her or laugh at her.
- Make sure you look good when you are with the person you like.
- For effective conversation, learn how to develop communication skills by reading other articles on wikiHow.
