Do you like a girl? Are you ready to make your relationship official by asking her to become your girlfriend but you feel terribly nervous or even nauseous: what to do if she says no? What to do if you don't ask right? If you follow these simple steps, your question will almost certainly get a resounding "Yes"!
Steps
Step 1. Evaluate the reasons why you want to ask the girl to make the relationship official
If you've found a girl who makes you feel special and gets your heart racing, she's probably a great candidate to become your girlfriend. However, asking someone to become your girlfriend means making a serious commitment that could lead to marriage and it is important to understand your reasons before asking the question.
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If she is the right girl, she will possess many positive qualities that will make the relationship flourish. Here are some signs of a girl who would make a great girlfriend:
- You love spending time with her. Whenever you're not together, you can't wait to see her again.
- It makes you want to be a better person. His intelligence, brilliance, and work ethic make you want to read more books, work harder, and improve your jokes.
- He has shown you his commitment. If she's shown her loyalty by attending your band's concerts, or by bringing you some chicken broth when you were feeling sick, she's probably ready to transition into girlfriend.
- You have common interests. You have things in common, from favorite team to love of the marathon. Even if you don't have to share all interests, you will need to have enough in common to be able to find activities to spend time together in the course of the relationship.
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If she's not the right girl, or if you're dating her for the wrong reasons, you'll probably be better off single. Here are some signs you shouldn't take the relationship to the next level:
- If you express interest in other men. If you know she's dating other people and isn't going to stop seeing them, she probably won't stop even when she's your girlfriend. But give her the benefit of the doubt: she might be on the square, but you might be the one she chose.
- You may want to date this girl just because you are feeling lonely, or because you need attention in the bedroom. In these cases, the best choice is occasional attendance. Having a girlfriend is a real commitment, and you should only ask to make things official with a girl you really care about - and not based on what she does for you.
Get a Girl to Be Your Girlfriend Step 2 Step 2. Make sure she likes you
If she's giving you mixed signals, try spending more time with her until you know for sure what she's feeling.
- Avoid asking too soon! If you're just starting to meet her and ask her to be your girlfriend right away, she'll say no, because she won't know you well enough, and the resulting embarrassment will reduce the chances of a future together. Plus, he'll think you're weird (and not in a good way).
- Listen to her words, and try to notice the body language. Do you have the impression that he wants to be with you? You can understand this easily if you focus on his actions.
- Try to understand how she feels talking to friends. Without being too direct, you can talk to friends to see if she really likes you. This can help you find more confidence - and avoid potentially awkward situations if you've ended up in the friend zone.
Get a Girl to Be Your Girlfriend Step 3 Step 3. Find the right place and time to ask
It is important to think about where and when to ask the question. You will show the girl that you have put the time and effort into planning a special moment, and increase the chances of a positive response.
- Choose a place that creates the right atmosphere. It is important to choose a place where there is enough privacy to ask the question. You can avoid places that are too romantic, like a candlelit dinner, if you don't want to make your intentions too obvious and things more embarrassing in the event of a rejection. A long walk in a park or when you have a drink in a quiet place can be perfect scenarios.
- Pick the right time. Evening is the most romantic time and it will give your girlfriend a chance to focus on you, not her busy day. You can ask her out on a weekend night, but be careful, as it will already sound like a date.
- Make a plan in advance. Be mysterious. Ask her out a week early so that she thinks about your intentions. You will show her that you are playful and thoughtful.
Get a Girl to Be Your Girlfriend Step 4 Step 4. Get the right attitude
You should approach the evening with a positive attitude. Thinking that the conversation will turn out well can really help you succeed. If you have faith in the future of the relationship, she will have it too.
Avoid being nervous. Don't bite your nails and don't lock yourself in embarrassed silence. Be yourself
Get a Girl to Be Your Girlfriend Step 5 Step 5. Ask the question in the best way possible
It is important to ask the question in the best possible way, to express your intentions clearly.
- When you've gotten to know your girlfriend, it's time to ask her to become truly yours. There are many ways to ask a girl to be your girlfriend, and you should choose the one that suits your age.
- "Do you want to be my girlfriend?" Asking her to be your girlfriend is much more direct than asking "Do you want to go out with me?" Most girls will be flattered by your confidence and straightforward manner.
- Don't be afraid to use creativity if you don't want to be direct. You can ask the girl the question with a card, writing "Do you want to be my girlfriend?" on a cake or finding another creative way to grab her attention - and her heart.
- Don't wait too long, or he'll think you don't like him anymore. Girls have their limits.
- Avoid asking her to become your "implied girlfriend". This can happen when you hang out for a few weeks and get along well together. Then, one day you look at each other and you ask "Hey, are we dating?" The answer will always be No. In most cases, it's worse not to be direct.
Get a Girl to Be Your Girlfriend Step 6 Step 6. React appropriately
Whether she agrees to become your girlfriend and gives you a big hug or you reject it, your actions after the question will affect the future of the relationship.
- If she says yes, tell her how happy you are to hear that you will be spending time together as boyfriends. You are playing with your cards face up and you will no longer have to worry about playing a part. By returning her enthusiasm, you will let her know how happy you are for your future together!
- If he refuses, be understanding. There are many reasons why a girl doesn't want to be your girlfriend, such as because she likes another person, or because she sees you as a friend. Whatever the reason, it's important not to react badly or give the impression that you no longer care about her. You will show her that you are mature and responsible and this will allow the friendship to continue. Plus, you'll have a better chance of success if you repeat the question in the distant future!
Advice
- Try to make her laugh, perhaps with funny stories. Share the happy moments of your life and make her feel very close to you.
- Slow, gradual plans are the ones that have the greatest chance of success. You will have to be very patient.
- Compliment her every day to let her know you care.
- Express your intentions sincerely.
- Speak little and listen a lot to what he says.
- Ask her a lot of questions about her. Let her know that you care and that she thinks about her.
- Always ask her to go out in person, never on the phone or text.
- Kiss her at the right time.
- Tell her she is beautiful and hug her from behind to make her feel special.
- If he doesn't know you well enough when you ask the question, he'll probably say no.
