As human beings, it is natural to look for a loving partner with whom to share life. However, it is not always easy to find it. Even after finding someone special, it is difficult to maintain a happy and above all healthy relationship. Communicating openly and honestly is key, but there are many other things to consider when trying to answer this question: Is this relationship good for me? To answer, the first step is introspection. Here are 7 steps to tell if a relationship is bad.
Steps
Step 1. Ask yourself the following questions
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Do you feel you need the other person? You think that without a person in your life you would lose something mentally, physically or emotionally. This could be due to a previous relationship or your childhood. Whatever the reason, this feeling puts your relationship to the test and it's best to try to deal with it and get over it.
- Find ways to improve your self-esteem and confidence in your means.
- Learn to feel comfortable in solitude.
- Find activities you love to do on your own, like reading a book or going for a walk.
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Are you always trying to make the other person happy? Do you do it even at the cost of your happiness? While this may seem unselfish to you, it can also hurt you a lot. Dedicating too much energy to the other person's happiness will eventually create an effect that will drain your well-being. You might ask yourself these questions:
- Do you get the same behavior in return?
- What benefits do you receive by behaving in this way?
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Are you trying to change the other person? This is a common problem for many people, and the results are almost never in their favor. If you don't like a person for who they are, don't expect to be able to change them. In some cases it can help someone who has already shown intent to change; however, it is never a good idea to force those who do not want to change to change.
- Don't try to be a superhero.
- Try to solve your problems and let others do the same.
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Do you feel needed, controlled or loved? Does your partner take care of you or does he want to consume you? Does your partner need you because he loves you or tries to keep you on a leash? Does your partner fall into the category described in step 1 of this article? It can be difficult to understand. Here are some signs to look for:
- Is the other person unhappy when you are not with them?
- Do you continually feel abandoned if you organize activities without her?
- Does he call or write to you too often?
- Do you get jealous when you hang out with your friends and not her?
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Are you yourself? Are you playing the character you think the other person wants from you, or are you really yourself? If the other person doesn't accept you for who you are, your relationship isn't positive. Ask yourself:
- Do I have to completely change my personality when I am with my partner?
- Do I feel pushed by my partner to be someone I'm not?
- Does this person fully accept not only my strengths, but also my shortcomings?
- Are you overlooking the obvious downsides? Are there some personality traits of your partner that bother you a lot? If so, do you always try to avoid the feelings that these aspects provoke in you? It's always best to deal with your chest issues. Let your partner know how you feel and what troubles you. If you feel like she isn't willing to commit to change, then you probably need to go further.
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Are you too in love to assess the situation objectively? Don't let love blind you. Think rationally when dealing with problems in your relationship. Loving someone to the point of no longer being able to think logically, and understanding what's best for you, will only make your problems worse.
- Would you forgive another person who hurt you in the same way as your partner?
- Do you always find excuses to justify your partner's actions?
- Do you always wait for things to change in the future and don't give importance to the present?
- Find someone who complements you and you love spending time with.
- Don't rush things. Spend time really getting to know your partner. Build your relationship step by step.
- Only start a relationship for good reasons.
- Do your best to be happy alone. That way you don't have to depend on someone else to stay healthy.
- Be open and honest. Let your partner know exactly how you feel.
- Don't stick with a person who belittles you.
