Being patient means persevering and maintaining self-control in situations that need understanding and involve a lot of tolerance and intensity on an emotional level. Patience often refers to a vice or a virtue, and practicing it requires effort and sacrifice. However, one can learn to be patient. Love relationships have many circumstances that require patience, and patience is essential for a healthy and lasting relationship. If you want to learn to be patient, follow the steps in this article.
Steps
Step 1. Focus on your mental attitude
You may have thoughts, beliefs, or ways of doing things that are not conducive to practicing being patient. To learn, you should first have attitudes that promote patience.
Step 2. Try to be conscious in situations that test your patience
Take note of your emotional, physical and mental reactions, by doing so you will be able to recognize the ways you react to certain situations that require a lot of patience. This will help you to deal with your relationship problems and be patient at the same time.
Step 3. Eliminate thoughts that revolve around what you feel "must" or "should" happen
Impatience is often the result of unfulfilled aspirations. Remember that life is unpredictable and there are so many circumstances that you cannot control. For example, try replacing thoughts like "my husband needs to lower the toilet seat" with thoughts like "it would be nice if my husband lowered the toilet seat". This will make you realize the immediacy of the problem until it is manageable without straining your patience.
Step 4. Practice dialogue with yourself
When relationship problems involve a high level of patience, mentally recite that you can handle and will handle the situation with calm and self-control. For example, if during an argument with your wife / husband, you notice that you are getting impatient, try repeating to yourself: “I am able to keep patience. Now I calm down and listen”.
Step 5. Check your ego
Determine how impatient your being is due to the desire to always be right and that everything is according to your plans. To develop patience, you need to realize that a relationship consists of 2 people and your perspective is only part of the equation.
Step 6. Encourage dialogue
Make a commitment to stay calm even in the face of circumstances you don't tolerate or things you don't want to hear. Relationships require an honest and open dialogue and if you feel comfortable sharing thoughts and emotions, passive-aggressive behaviors that test patience will be reduced.
Step 7. Take note of the dynamics of your relationship
You will notice that you both have different strengths and weaknesses and you will need to work together to have a relationship that works. You can learn to be patient by focusing on each other's efforts and being aware of how much each of you contributes to the success of the relationship.
Step 8. Invest time for personal reflection
You can't be in a relationship alone, but you can only learn to be patient with your own efforts. Take some time to think about how to be patient in your life as a couple.
