Anyone, sooner or later, has to face being made fun of, but some people are forced to go through this situation almost daily. Bullying causes severe suffering and has severe psychological repercussions on the victim. You must find ways to ignore and cope with the bully, as well as identify appropriate strategies to overcome this situation to live a healthy and happy existence.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Ignore the Bully
Step 1. Ignore the banter
Unless it becomes a constant problem, if someone is making fun of you, the best way to handle the situation is to ignore it. In this way, you do not give the bully the attention he seeks; eventually he will get bored and leave you alone.
When an individual starts teasing you, pay no attention to him; continue in your activities and act as if you have not heard
Step 2. Step away from the bully
If ignoring it doesn't help, consider distancing yourself from the situation. While this continues to not give him the attention he desires, it also sends the clear signal that you do not tolerate his behavior; by doing so, you are not forced to hear his words.
- If someone targets you in the locker room or school corridors, grab the books you need and go to class.
- When a colleague makes fun of you in the office, find something else to do; go to another room, have a coffee or go to the bathroom. Probably, the bully gets back to work before you have even returned to your station.
Step 3. Find a "relief valve"
If constant banter makes you sick, consider finding an emotional outlet. Physical activity allows you to get rid of anger and stress, as well as increase self-esteem.
- Dedicate yourself to boxing or Kung fu to vent accumulated aggression.
- Yoga and long-distance running are perfect activities for managing emotional tension and clearing the mind.
Part 2 of 3: Confronting the Bully
Step 1. Firmly tell him to stop mocking you
Sometimes, ignoring the bully leads nowhere; if so, it is important to defend yourself. Remember to maintain eye contact with the person as you firmly ask them to stop their behavior.
- Be concise and direct;
- You can say, "I don't like you making fun of me. Stop it."
- Stay calm during the confrontation; emotional behavior or crying would only "stimulate" the bully.
Step 2. Keep it ironic
Most banter hurts in the moment, but it's not really a problem that lasts weeks or months; if you understand how insignificant the bully's words are, try to respond with humor.
Try to be witty or maybe try to shoot her bigger than the bully
Step 3. Seek adult help
If you are a child or teenager and you need support for someone to stop bullying you, it is perfectly acceptable to ask for support from an adult; bullying is a serious problem and is not tolerated in most schools. Ask a teacher, coach, parent, or adult you trust to help you handle the situation.
- Most schools have regulations against this kind of behavior, which are punished with disciplinary measures in order to ensure the safety of all students.
- Be persistent. If an adult doesn't take your concerns seriously, talk to someone else; you have every right to feel safe.
- Be prepared to describe specific examples; you have to make the adult understand that you are being bullied and not that you are trying to put the other guy in a bad light.
- If the bully is a family member, consider turning to another family member for help. could speak to him privately and thus put an end to his behavior.
Part 3 of 3: Overcoming the mockery
Step 1. Expand your circle of friends
By surrounding yourself with more trusted friends, you have more people who can defend you against a bully who makes fun of you. If the bullies are your own friends, consider finding others. While it is quite normal for peers to make fun of each other, it is not fair for a friend to do it constantly, despite your requests to stop. Friends shouldn't hurt each other.
- Join a club, join a team, or engage in another extracurricular activity to find new friends who share your interests and values.
- Volunteer for a local organization after work.
- Be a good friend yourself. Remember how painful it is to be a victim of teasing and never laugh when someone is being made fun of. Stand up for others who are being bullied.
Step 2. Don't dwell on the bully's words
Let go of all negative feelings and focus on the positive ones. Remember all the things you are good at and surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself. Understand that you can't control the bully, but you can manage how you react.
Step 3. Find a person to talk to about this situation
Constantly being the victim of taunts can damage psychological well-being. Over time, you may feel helpless, useless, and anxious; all of this can have negative repercussions on academic performance, at work or in social life. If you feel you need additional emotional support to handle the situation, seek professional help from a counselor or psychologist.
- Your school psychologist can provide you with other tips for dealing with bullying.
- There is nothing to be ashamed of in consulting a counselor, analyst or psychologist.
- These professionals also help you improve socialization skills to avoid becoming the target of a bully again in the future.
Advice
- Remember that bullies are unhappy and insecure people.
- Don't be a bully yourself in reaction to how you are treated; remember how bad you were when they made fun of you.
Warnings
- Sometimes bullying reaches the physical plane; if you fear you are in danger, seek help immediately.
- If you are severely depressed or are thinking about suicide, see a mental health specialist without delay.
