Not everyone is lucky enough to be fully confident at all times, but there is some way to seem more confident. Follow the steps in this article and maybe you will gain more confidence than you would have hoped for.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Body Language
Step 1. Practice good posture
If you typically have a slouchy gait or sit in a chair all day, this may take some control. However, keep in mind that good posture is among the most important things for looking more confident.
- Stand as straight as you can.
- Try to push your shoulder blades slightly back and down.
Step 2. Raise your chin
It is not necessary to stare at the ceiling, but by keeping your head up, you will give the impression that you are awake and proud of yourself.
Step 3. Free your hands
Most people don't know what to do with their hands when they are nervous, and this could be a clear indication that they have little self-confidence.
- Take your hands out of your pockets. Keeping your hands in your pockets is not only a sign of insecurity, it also leads to a tired and slouching gait.
- Try not to cross your arms over your chest. It is a classic sign of closure on the part of the body.
- Gesticulate naturally when you speak. It's okay to move your hands from time to time, but don't overdo it.
- Stop moving restlessly. If you constantly play with your hands or touch your hair and face, you will certainly seem less confident.
Step 4. Relax
Once you have learned to have a straight posture by leaning your shoulders back, try not to appear too stiff. Loosen up a little and, if you feel constantly tense, take a few deep breaths.
Part 2 of 3: Face
Step 1. Look for eye contact
The eyes are much more than just the mirror of the soul, because they indicate how much confidence you have in yourself. You can communicate many things about yourself through your gaze.
- Maintain direct eye contact when talking to someone. Try not to be the first to look away during a conversation.
- Keep your gaze straight and look ahead. When you're not engaged in conversation or walking down the street, looking at the ground is a clear sign that you don't intend to interact with anyone.
Step 2. Smile
This will show that you are not worried and that you are actually enjoying yourself. People like to interact with happy people.
- Smile sincerely.
- Don't smile at inopportune moments, or you could be annoying.
Part 3 of 3: Attitude
Step 1. Take your mind off stressful situations
If you are planning an event or an appointment, it is easy during the wait to get too carried away by this thought, which will add to the stress. So, focus on your preparations normally, then try to keep your mind busy by doing something else.
Step 2. Seek an approach to people
Don't wait too long to get close to someone in a certain situation. If you spot someone you would like to meet or talk to, head to them right away. The longer you wait, the more reasons you will give yourself not to go.
Step 3. Involve people in conversations
A confident person usually always has something to say. Don't be afraid to introduce yourself to people.
- Speak clearly and understandably.
- Don't hesitate to ask questions. When talking to someone you have recently met, ask them a few questions to show interest in them, but also a willingness to keep the conversation going. You will also have the ability to lead the conversation.
- Don't complicate the situation. Try not to make long, inconclusive speeches. Talking too much can be a manifestation of nervousness or a sign that you are trying to dominate the conversation.
Step 4. Forgive yourself for small mistakes
Not all matches are successful, but that's not a problem. Don't dwell on every little detail that may have gone wrong. You will only become reluctant or fearful of making further attempts. Carefully evaluate what happened, learn the lesson, and move on.
