Even if you survive an abusive relationship, it always leaves mental or physical scars. Not to mention the financial damage or the trust in others that would be lost. Such a relationship must be avoided at any cost.
Steps
Step 1. Identify it now and nip it in the bud
Leave now, don't give the attacker a chance to sink his fangs deep into you. You just have to leave.
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At first they are always charming and full of attention.
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Step 2. Look out for the first signs that your partner is trying to bully you
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Does he treat you badly and never apologize? It lets you wait for an hour or more, but doesn't tolerate your five-minute delay?
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Does he sometimes start insulting you and then have a good laugh? Do you criticize your weight, your appearance in general, your age or anything else that makes you feel bad?
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Step 3. You must understand that violence in a relationship is not limited to physical violence only
Verbal abuse is almost as brutal and demeaning.
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Do you try to isolate yourself from your friends and family?
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Does he always complain about your friends, asking you to spend less time with them and more time with him?
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Will your cooking never be as good as that of his mother or his ex?
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Does he force you to do things in bed against your will (threesomes, anal sex, etc.) by telling you that if you don't indulge him he will leave you?
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Whenever you go on a date, do you come home feeling despondent and nervous?
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Do you feel nervous as soon as someone mentions their name?
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Does he make you feel guilty when you try to rebel against his attitudes?
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Does he keep texting you repeatedly when you walk away from him?
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Do you alternate sweet words with threats?
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Do you feel confused about your relationship?
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Step 4. If you answered yes to half of these questions, you are in the early stages of an abusive relationship
There is only one thing to do: cut all bridges without delay.
Step 5. When you decide to leave, you don't have to talk to him about it
Just get out of the house.
Step 6. Call him or write him a letter explaining exactly why you left
Step 7. Refuse to talk to him again
Step 8. Don't reply to his emails / sms / phone calls
Step 9. Ignore it when you see it on the street
Step 10. Even if he stalks you, sooner or later he will give up and go after someone else
Step 11. Never sleep with him again
You would lose control again.
Step 12. Take some time before starting a new relationship
Try to rebuild what he destroyed.
Advice
- Remember that it is much better alone than in bad company. Don't prolong an abusive relationship just to not be alone.
- Don't tell your next man what happened to you. Somehow most men believe they have the right to abuse what they consider "spoiled merchandise".
- Learn the lesson and keep looking for early signs of bullying and abuse in your next relationship.
