How to Invite a Girl to the Prom

2024 Author: Samantha Chapman | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 09:13

Have you chosen the girl to take to the prom but you don't know how to ask her to accompany you? Create a special moment for both of you by crafting a truly memorable invitation.

Steps

Method 1 of 2: Probe the Ground

Step 1. Find out if she has already said yes to someone else

In that case, stand back: asking him would be nothing more than self-sabotage and the chances of getting a positive answer are almost nil.

• Observe it, especially if you don't want to ask others for advice. Girls usually tell if they're on a date, so keep your ears open.
• Ask her friends or a friend of her friend. This step, however, is risky, as she may discover your interest. Be stealthy and bypass the source of the information by sending a friend on an advance.
• Ask her. If you're very direct and don't care about the consequences, ask her if she's already busy for prom.

If she shyly says no and looks at you full of expectations, go ahead and invite her. If he says no but confesses he doesn't know who to go with, wait a couple of days and ask again

Step 2. If you are not friends, approach her under any pretext:

a science project, ask her who was invited to that party you are both going to, etc. Take social opportunities to make friends with her.

• Don't be tense when you talk to her. True, it's hard to stay calm when we like someone, but remember that if she says no, you can ask someone else, who may turn out to be even more special than her.
• When you speak, ask her questions about her interests and aspirations. The conversation will naturally turn to you after some time.

Step 3. Flirt subtly

You will allow her to see you in a different light. Everyone has their own courtship strategy, but here are a few general rules.

• Give her a few small compliments on both her personality and her physical appearance. Obviously, avoid vulgar praise. Focus on:
• Eyes. You could tell her that the shirt she's wearing makes them stand out.
• Smile. Tell her she has a smile that would be the envy of a toothpaste commercial.
• Style. Tell her that her way of dressing seems original to you.
• Hair. Compliment her hairstyles.

Step 4. Don't touch it at first

Girls hate guys who do. To test the waters:

• Touch his hand, arm, or shoulder when you want to reiterate a point in the conversation. This is how the barrier of physical contact breaks down.
• Areas to exclude include the thighs, belly, and neck. If it's not your girlfriend, don't touch them.
• When you are closer, touch her in a playful way, perhaps tickling her. First make sure she's in the right mood.



Step 5. Date other girls to better understand the female world and to let the girl know that you like that the other sex loves you

Also, seeing you with others will subconsciously convince her that you are the ideal guy to hang out with.

Method 2 of 2: Invite her



Step 1. Best to invite her in person to understand her reactions

However, turning down someone live is more difficult, and if she doesn't want to go to prom with you, you may be putting her in trouble. Take courage, especially if you believe he will say yes.

• If you don't want to ask in person, write her a romantic but not gooey letter. Let her know that you like her but are not obsessed with her. Give it to him or put it in his backpack.
• Asking via text message is the last resort. It's not the best, but it's safer for both of us. In person, she may feel forced to say yes to you so as not to hurt you. With a message, however, it will probably be more direct. Ask her if she already has a prom date. Does he answer you no? Step forward.



Step 2. Keep yourself presentable, or she won't go anywhere with you

• Brush your teeth before school and keep your breath fresh, especially if you have to talk to her.
• Shower every day, especially if you play a sport.
• Do not bathe in perfume: a spray will suffice. Try to wear clean clothes, so you still have a pleasant smell.
• Dress well. You don't have to put on a suit to ask, but wear clean clothes.



Step 3. Smile when you look at it

Incidentally, smiling to improve your mood, even in the most painful moments, has been shown to work. And if you look happy, you will have a better chance of conquering her.



Step 4. Breathe deeply and relax

Don't forget to be yourself: if you always make jokes, don't get serious all at once. Nerves won't allow you to create the perfect mood, but you can try.

Think about the situation in terms of risk and reward. The risk is that she will tell you no. So what? You will feel embarrassed for an hour, then it will pass. The reward is a yes, and you don't want to give up on this possibility



Step 5. Ask him:

the moment has come. There are many ways: the one you choose will depend a lot on your personality. Here are some ideas:

• Be inventive, especially if you are friends or if she expects your request:
• He arranges candles in front of his house to form the word "Dance". Do it before she gets home and wait for her.
• Write the word “Dance” on a piece of paper, laminate it and break it to create a puzzle. Alternatively, you can buy a puzzle and write on it.
• Grab a bottle of fizzy drink, remove its label and make your own by writing "Do you want to go to prom with me?".
• Be direct. The following methods are proven, therefore quite foolproof:
• "I know we're just friends, but if you haven't made any commitments with anyone to go to the prom, would you like to go with me?".
• “I've been wanting to ask you for a while but I haven't been able to do it so far because I get nervous when I'm in your company. Do you want to go to the dance with me? ".
• "I've been waiting for this day for a long time, so I'll ask you directly: do you want to go to the prom with me?".



Step 6. Accept a possible rejection

Really, it happens to everyone. Don't get angry and don't insult her - she definitely has her reasons.

Smile at her, look her in the eye and say, “Of course, I understand. I hope we can remain friends”. You never know, your good education might strike her

Advice

• Invite her when you are alone.
• If you feel nervous, take a deep breath and ask him. Will a refusal really turn your life upside down? Probably not, there will be other (better!) Opportunities.
• If you know that she will say no, don't invite her to avoid creating embarrassing moments, especially if you are friends.
• Ask in a relaxed way. However, if she likes you and can't wait to give you a positive answer, she'll find your anxiety tender.
• If you're going to prom together, allow her to have a memorable evening.
• Don't underestimate or overestimate yourself.
• You can only ask him in public if you know he will react well. If she's shy, don't take the risk of embarrassing both of you and getting a two of spades.
• Inviting her creatively will show her that you care.
• Behave politely towards him, otherwise the refusal will be assured.
• Don't invite her just because you think she's sexy, like her personality too, or stick with another girl.
• Watch the other kids for examples and imitate them.
• If he tells you he needs time to think about it, smile and don't insist until he gives you an answer.

Warnings

• Do not persecute her: she will tell her friends that you are desperate and will reject you.
• Don't brag about your achievement if he says yes: it won't want to be a trophy.
• Don't lose your temper if he says no. You will find the right girl.
• Be yourself if you want to make her fall in love with you.
• Don't beg her - it's childish and annoying and she'll tell you no.
• Don't view the act of inviting her as torture. Have fun!