Are you too shy to ask the girl you like to come to the prom with you? Have you ever wondered how some guys get to know someone will say "yes" before they even ask? Asking a girl to dance with you is all about destroying your fear of being rejected and being yourself. Because a guy who has nothing to lose is what a girl wants.
Steps
Step 1. Find out if she already has an appointment by asking her or her friends
Try to ask him casually, to find out safely. Try asking "So who are you going to prom with?" If you know any of her friends, you can also ask them, but be aware that they might tell them.
Step 2. Don't ask them on prom day
Chances are you think you're not your first choice (don't even ask him 6 or 7 days before prom. Chances are he has found someone else already). Ask her to come to the prom with you 2-3 weeks in advance. That way, his chances are reduced to 10-20% (and your chances of failure too). Plus, it will give her time to decide what to wear.
Step 3. Make sure you are alone (not too much) before you ask her to come to prom with you, so you will both be comfortable
Take a deep breath and go to her. Compliment her and start talking. Don't ask him right away to take your mind off. No matter how nervous you are, take your time. He will have already made up his mind before asking him anyway. If she says "no", don't ask her why. Just say "Oh, ok, okay". Don't make it obvious that it hurt your feelings. If you are concerned that she may reject you, but you really need a date, do something that will take her breath away, something so "nice" that she will not be able to say "no".
Step 4. Get her home for the prom; if you don't drive, meet up there
Try not to be in the car with parents or relatives.
Step 5. Tell her she is cute
This is very important, as many girls invest a lot of time in looking good for the prom… and for their knights. Let her know you appreciate. If she compliments you, thank her. Don't wait for her to do them first.
Step 6. Accompany her to the dance; stay by his side unless he wants to talk to someone or go somewhere for a few minutes
Step 7. Make sure you give her your own space
Step 8. If it is an informal dance and a slow dance starts, her friends will most likely push you against each other
Don't get upset or angry. It is their way of being encouraging. Smile at her and talk to her; make her laugh. She will probably be as nervous as you are. If she doesn't seem to want to dance, let her go.
Step 9. Ask her to dance
You can be formal and ask "Will you give me this dance?" but if she's your friend, you might be more casual, like with a "Would you like to dance?" or "Shall we dance?".
Step 10. Talk to her a bit during the lenses
Talking makes everything less awkward.
Step 11. If you want to dance with another friend, ask her permission first
Going without consulting her is disrespectful and could give the wrong message. If she does it to you, don't blame her. Don't ruin the night for either of us. If she asks you to dance with a friend, say "yes".
Step 12. Hug her at the end of the dance
Tell her you were fine. It will probably say the same thing.
Step 13. Remember, guys:
girls think boys who dance in groups are cute; standing against the wall doesn't work. Most likely, she won't expect you to ask her to dance if you don't already dance your own.
Step 14. Keep exiting
When you see her again a few days after the dance, talk to her but not about the dance. Leave it in the past, even if it went well, and focus on building the relationship to make it serious.
Step 15. Be nice and clean
People don't like people who don't take care of themselves.
Step 16. Remember, no means no
If she says she doesn't like you, or says no and seems convinced, then forget it! Nothing could hurt her more than an annoying guy who won't leave her alone. Not only is it rude, but it can make you even more hateful.
Advice
- Don't forget about her; remember that she is your date, so always treat her with respect.
- Hear what he has to say. Be a gentleman. Be charming. And while you have to be nice and composed, don't be 'mushy'.
- Take a shower, use a deodorant, brush your teeth and make sure your breath isn't bad. Don't overdo the perfume. Most girls don't like men with too much perfume on. And dress well.
- Go easy. It doesn't have to be absolutely perfect.
- Make sure you talk to her and show her that you are interested in being her friend. And don't worry about being yourself; is why she likes you (if she said yes).
- She will almost certainly not like being called "sexy" or anything like that, rather call her "wonder", "beautiful" or "gorgeous".
- Take it easy. If she says "I have to think about it," don't call her for confirmation. Wait for her to call you back. If he doesn't call 3 days before prom, take him for a no.
- Remember this quote from Alfred Lord Tennyson: "It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved." It could be an encouragement in case he rejects you.
- The dances, like the first dates, never establish anything definitive. If you feel like the night was a disaster, the next time you see the girl you can only do better. Likewise, you should consider additional outings and dancing in case everything goes for the better.
- Don't prepare what to say or practice in front of the mirror. Trying to memorize and then deliver a prepared speech will only make you more nervous. Let go.
- Don't embarrass her by dancing!
Warnings
- Don't make it too strange. Make it a memorable evening for both of you.
- Never ever ever ask her to go out through someone else; girls appreciate courage.
- Someone might look at you badly for dating a certain girl, maybe because they have something against her or they don't think it's okay for you. Ignore them. If you like it, nothing else matters.
- He may want to dance with other friends. Do not get mad. If he asks you, there's nothing wrong with that. Remember he said "yes" to you!
- Don't be creepy!
- Never ask him over the phone or via text message.
- Remember that no means no!
- Absolutely Not ask him when he is with friends.
- If she runs away, she's probably shy. Do not fear; you may still like it.
