Have you ever found yourself in the situation where you are not sure if a girl likes you? Many kids follow the three-clue philosophy. If you're interested in a girl, try looking for three irrefutable proofs that she likes you. If you can't find them in a few days, they probably have no interest in you. You can always ask him, but there are other ways to get a better idea of how he feels about you.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Analyze Non-Verbal Communication
Step 1. Pay attention to his body language when he is around you
If you touch her sometimes, does she also reciprocate the gesture or avoid contact? When you talk to her, is she reaching out to you? When you chat with her, does she assume an open shoulder posture or keep her distance and is she not very expansive? These aren't foolproof criteria for knowing if she likes you, but they can help you get an idea. Some girls are more comfortable than others when they become familiar with boys and do not disdain physical contact with them, even if they have no sentimental interest.
Step 2. Look for clues that he is trying to avoid you
If she avoids you or makes an excuse to leave every time you want to be with her, she probably doesn't care. If he thought about how he might impress you, he might find some excuse to be closer to you, not the other way around. Don't view these suggestions as a gospel, though - there's still a chance she's extremely shy. However, if you find that she always has a few doctor's appointments when you happen to be together, that's probably not a good sign.
Step 3. See if she flirts with other guys
She's probably not interested in you flirting with other guys, but she may be trying to make you jealous, so don't immediately think about the worst. Also, you can't know if he's really flirting with someone or if his is just a friendly attitude.
It would be wise to compare how much attention he pays to other guys and how much he pays to you. Again, if she's a very shy type, maybe she feels more comfortable talking to guys she doesn't like than when she's with someone she cares about - and maybe that someone is you
Step 4. Pay attention to how her friends behave when you are around
Girls often confide in friends when they are interested in someone. If her classmates laugh at you or her, they may enjoy the thought that she likes you. They may engage in immature behaviors and make fun of both of you.
Not all friends act this way, but if you pay attention, you may find that some of her friends winks or nudges her. Keep your eyes peeled for these kinds of clues
Step 5. Notice if he looks away
Sometimes when you like a person, all you want to do is look at them. If you catch her eye on you often, she might like you. If she's looking the other way, maybe she's trying to hide her interest, or maybe she's just focused on what she's doing. If you can make eye contact even from a distance, that's a great sign.
Step 6. Look her in the eye
If she is interested in you, she will probably try to make eye contact all the time when you talk. Maybe he will smile all the time and also pay attention to what you are saying.
Method 2 of 3: Pay Attention to Verbal Communication
Step 1. Listen in what tone he speaks to you
If you find that it gives its best when you are around, that's a good sign. However, if he sometimes harshly addresses you, don't give it a damn. Maybe you get the impression that he is in a hurry or does not want to be with you at certain times. Sometimes, she might just be grumpy or having a bad day. Pay attention to what you are talking about, not to a particular circumstance.
For example, if he tries to engage you in interesting conversations, he may think you are an interesting person
Step 2. Wait for her to speak to you first
If you are always the one taking the lead, he may assume that no commitment on his part is needed in your relationship. Talk to her a few times, then leave a window for her to find you. If he doesn't, he might not like chatting with you.
For example, if she asks you how the football match or your piano performance went, it means that she is attentive to your interests. This is also a good sign
Step 3. Keep an eye on her way of communicating
If she likes you, she may ask you to help her with many things, perhaps with her homework, just to be closer to you.
- He may ask you a lot of questions about your interests. He might even just tell you how excited he is that next year you're going to live in the same neighborhood, or something. Watch out for these clues.
- If she's top of class and asks for help with her history assignment, she probably just wants to talk to you. But be careful - he may really need help, so don't be under any illusions.
Step 4. Realize how nice he is towards you
It sounds easy, but in reality the simplest clues are the most important at times. If she is nice to you and asks you a few questions, she probably likes you. There is a legend that girls sometimes act mean to get attention - that's not true. Maybe she jokes with you by making a face, with no intention of insulting you. Accept her taunts, as they are probably a good sign.
For example, if she makes fun of you for being late for school, she probably cares. If she tells you that you are stupid because you got a bad grade on a test, maybe she doesn't like you
Method 3 of 3: Being Direct
Step 1. Ask her out
Even if it scares you, you will find answers to your many questions. Stop poking your nose trying to guess his every intention. Everyone will continue to respect you if you go to her and ask her for a date. They will admire your courage and wish they have the guts to do the same.
- Even if she's just a girl who works in a bookstore, go over to her and ask her if she'd like to have lunch with you sometime. Bad that goes, he tells you no and will probably be flattered in any case. If she replies badly, then it wasn't worth wasting your time with her.
- For example, try asking her what plans she has for the next day at lunchtime. Ask her if she would like to eat a piece of pizza with you. It's that simple!
- It would be worth finding out if she has a boyfriend. If she's already busy, she's probably more interested in him than she is in you. In this case, the best thing to do is stay away from them. Even if she doesn't have a boyfriend, keep in mind that she might be interested in someone else!
Step 2. Ask her if she likes you
This is another way to be direct and have your question answered. However, the advantage of this method is that you don't have to ask her out and neither does she! If you are small in age, it may be difficult to arrange a date, so asking her if she likes you is a great way to start. You will be able to start from here once you have received the answer.
You don't have to explicitly ask if she likes you. Try to tell her that you feel there is a good harmony between you and that it would be great if something more than a friendship could arise. Then ask her what she thinks about it
Step 3. Ask one of her friends if she is interested in you
It's not the bravest way to deal with the situation, but it could work. Try to pick one you have good relationships with; if he knows you're a good guy, maybe he's willing to help you out and tell you the truth. It will probably be difficult to listen to her, but at least you won't be harassed by doubting whether she likes you or not. If he refuses to answer you, maybe that's a good sign! However, it may also just tell you that it doesn't know anything about it.
Advice
- Remember that you may like her, but she may also pretend you don't.
- If she genuinely smiles when you look at her, it's a good sign that she likes you.
- If you look into her eyes and smile back at you, she might be interested.
- If he touches you while talking to you, that's a good clue.
- If, talking to you, he tells you that he is having a great time in your company, this is also a good sign.
- If she doesn't like you, remember: the sea is full of fish.
- If she misbehaves with you, there is a 50% chance that she likes you and another 50% that she isn't interested in you.
- If you assume that you know a person's feelings towards you without asking them direct questions on the subject, some misunderstanding may arise and you run the risk of suffering unnecessarily.
- Don't get her to do something against her will.
- Do not rush. You may have to wait a while before you can figure out if she likes you or not.
- Don't touch her butt, breasts, or between her legs without her permission. They are offensive gestures, whether she likes it or not.
- Don't be rude and don't make fun of her because she might be a sensitive girl (even if she doesn't show it all the time). If you make fun of her, you risk hurting her feelings.
- Don't be too outspoken when you try to make a girl jealous (perhaps by kissing others) because, believe it or not, if she likes you, she'll be sick every time you flirt with someone else.
- If you are direct and tell her that you care, you risk putting yourself or her in an awkward situation.
