Self-confidence is an important quality, failing which people are often afraid to try new things or to prevent others from taking advantage of them. Fortunately, this trust exists within each of us and can be developed by taking risks, failing, understanding why we failed and, therefore, trying to improve ourselves. This article describes in detail how you yourself can use this learning process to learn to trust your abilities.
Steps
Part 1 of 5: Build Your Self-Esteem
Step 1. Believe in yourself
This is the key to learning to trust your abilities. You don't just have to be confident in front of others; this trust must come from within. Through introspection, try to understand what your best qualities are. You may think you have nothing special inside you, but you don't. Your inner confidence will make you look better in the eyes of others and feel in control of your destiny.
Step 2. Start writing a journal
Every day write us something you have done that you are proud of, whether it is a kindness to someone or something positive that you have discovered about your character. Whenever you feel unmotivated, open your journal and remind yourself that you are a great person in many ways.
Step 3. Do something that makes you feel strong
Realize one thing you've always wanted to do in your life. Start taking classes, drastically change your look, or try your hand at something you excel at.
Part 2 of 5: Keep Negativity at bay
Step 1. Don't focus on your flaws
When we shift our attention to things about ourselves that we don't like, it is easy for these negative thoughts to lower our self-esteem. Instead of focusing on the things you don't like about yourself, try to highlight all your strengths and focus on those. Look beyond the negative image you have of yourself and take note of the virtues that make you the person you are today.
Step 2. Try to think positively
If you keep seeing only the negative side of things, you will lower your self-esteem. However, if you try to see the good in you, you will be able to discover new things about yourself that you like.
Step 3. Don't make self-criticism in front of others
People will tend to treat you exactly the same as you treat yourself. If self-irony is your forte, others will also begin to treat you that way. By having respect for yourself, you also show others that you demand the same of them.
Step 4. Exercise
This is also essential: it is a panacea for health and good mood. The endorphins that are released into the circulation during physical activity will put you in a good mood and increase your self-esteem.
Step 5. Smile often and be friendly
Being nice to others and smiling will make you look confident. People will start to believe that you are a caring and cheerful person, who loves being around others, and therefore they will want to have you around too. Participating in various activities will give you an opportunity to make new friends and use your newfound confidence in yourself.
Part 3 of 5: Use Body Language to Show Confidence
Step 1. Improve your posture
Having good posture not only improves your appearance, it will also make you feel stronger and proud of yourself. Others will feel this strength and respect you more. Head up, shoulders back and stand straight!
Step 2. Be aware of your body language when talking to others
Body language is often more talkative than verbal! Try not to be too defensive. Move slowly - quick movements are synonymous with nervousness and uncertainty. Get into whatever position you feel comfortable with (as long as you don't look listless or sloppy). If you are comfortable, others around you will notice and relax as well.
Step 3. Imitate people who flaunt confidence
Look at how confident people show themselves to others and then try to mimic their body language. Eventually it will become natural to you and you will be able to do it better.
Part 4 of 5: Stand Up For It
Step 1. Learn to speak for yourself
Do not let others speak for you, because that way they could easily take advantage of it. If you learn to stand up and show people that you don't intend to tolerate being treated with contempt, they will understand that you have faith in yourself and show you the respect you deserve.
Step 2. Celebrate your individuality
There may be things you want to change about yourself, but you need to learn to accept yourself for who you are before you start changing. Don't compare yourself to others and don't worry about other people's judgments. Try to go your own way and do only the things you really want to do.
Part 5 of 5: Establish Relationships That Help You Grow
Step 1. Maintain close relationships with the people you love and who love you back
It is essential to have people in your life you can rely on, people who love you and who will always be there for you. This includes family, friends and partner.
Advice
- Love and believe in yourself.
- You smile! It will make you feel better and others will want to have you around!
- Don't let others interrupt you when you speak.
- Try new things so you can have new experiences.
- Take some time for yourself. Pamper yourself a little from time to time so that you feel special.
- Whenever you feel that you have lost faith in yourself, search for it within yourself, because it will always be there. A quick reading of your journal should help you find it.
- The only person you need to impress is you. Try to live life happily instead of continually trying to meet the expectations of others without ever being able to do the things you really enjoy.
Warnings
- If you try to pretend to be too confident in front of others, they will think that you are insecure, arrogant, and seeking attention.
- If you think people don't like how you behave when you try to be yourself, try to understand that their opinion doesn't matter. If they want to behave like unwilling robots, let them do it; you know that what really matters is being yourself.
- If your friends don't like the real you and they think you should change your appearance or way of acting, they are not true friends. Look for others and you will be happier.
