If you want your woman to be in the mood for it, then you will need to set the stage physically and mentally. A woman's arousal is said to depend on how she spent the last 24 hours before entering the bedroom. Listen to her, be patient, and do everything you can to show her how much she matters to you. Above all, remember to be careful of his wishes!
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Demonstrate How Much You Appreciate Her
Step 1. Give her some compliments
Make her feel wanted by letting her know how much you appreciate her. Perhaps she will have a hard time letting her guard down if she doesn't realize you want her. Self-esteem can be difficult to bring out. So tell her you like her more often, even when she least expects it.
- Appreciate its attractiveness. Reflect on the parts of the body you prefer, specifying what pleasure they arouse in you. Don't just say "You look great", but try to be more specific: "You have beautiful eyes" or "How toned your glutes are. Yoga is giving you good results."
- Admire his mind or his personality. Tell her how much you like her way of expressing herself or the way she passionately explains her ideas. Explain how her kindness, understanding, or organizational skills blow your mind. Don't limit yourself to just the outward appearance.
- Compliment her on a particular gesture or situation. Talk about something that happened recently: "Today I was really impressed with the way she handled the situation with your sister. I know this is frustrating, but you have been really patient and have actually shown that you can cope with her."
Step 2. Go out of your way to help her
Don't offer to wash the dishes or unload the car, just do it, without asking, if he needs a hand. Surprise her by making dinner or cleaning the garage. Take the kids out at night so they can have some peace and quiet. By dedicating yourself to your relationship, you can nurture your bond in and out of bed.
Many women who work full-time complete more than half of the housework and take care of the children. If she says she's too tired to have sex, maybe it's time to relieve her of some responsibilities by taking them on indefinitely
Step 3. Try to understand what ignites his passion
Cuddle up next time, ask her what her fantasies are. When you are intimate, pay close attention to what drives her crazy in bed. If it works, don't stop!
Don't assume it's possible to make a woman lose her mind using universal tactics. Each has its own wishes and preferences
Step 4. Listen to them
Show that you are humble and understanding in your relationship and do everything you can to listen to her when she talks. If not, he may think you don't appreciate his opinions. If she doesn't feel respected, she may have a hard time opening up to you.
The next time an argument arises between you, don't just think about proving you're right. Apologize and consider his state of mind. Make them feel appreciated
Step 5. Always take care of your appearance
Brush your teeth, shave your beard and stay fit. Take a shower and try to look nice. Do everything to be treated like the first times you dated. With a little more effort on your part, she won't forget how attractive her mate is.
Part 2 of 3: Spending Qualitatively Important Moments Together
Step 1. Train together
Many women say they experience some sexual arousal after engaging in physical activities that increase circulation in the pelvis and throughout the body. Therefore, try spinning, rock climbing, yoga or couple yoga. Alternatively, you can run, cycle or go on a long hike together.
Exercise could be a great way to ignite the passion in your relationship. In fact, when you train, you are intent on using your body in a conscious way and, when you play sports with your partner, you are focused on interacting with her physically. In these cases, give her some compliments about her figure and try to impress her with your physical prowess
Step 2. Commit to something she is passionate about
If she likes to read, go out with her and take her to the bookstore, write her a romantic note or spend a day reading a tête-à-tête book. If she likes sweets, surprise her by giving her chocolates or planning one evening a week to enjoy delicious desserts. Show her that you listen to her when she talks about her interests.
Choose something you like too! Find out if there is any relationship between your passions and hers
Step 3. Rent a sexy movie
Your partner probably doesn't like erotic shows, but even a hot scene in a drama or romantic comedy could make her melt. A Northwestern University study shows that women get aroused more easily with eroticism than men.
Step 4. Find an excuse to get dressed up
Put on a suit and tie, shave and shine. Suggest that she wear a fitted top or one of her favorite dresses. Then take her out for a romantic evening together. A flawless appearance can lead you to be more confident in bed.
Part 3 of 3: Ignite the Passion in You at the Right Time
Step 1. Surprise her
Hug her from behind and kiss her neck. Touch her abdomen and breasts. Slide your hands along her body, making her feel how much you want her. Make your body adhere to his back and move slowly.
Step 2. Take your time for foreplay
Dim the lights, turn off the phone and try to be fully present in this moment of intimacy. Slide your hands over his body. Kiss her softly at first, then with more passion as the atmosphere warms up. Slowly, but carefully, undress her and let her clothes fall to the floor. Look her straight in the eye and smile.
- Give her a massage. Massage her feet or back so she can truly relax. Warm up her muscles as you offer her your loving care.
- Run your fingers or lips over its joints. The neck, the inside of the elbows and the back of the knee are the most sensitive areas of the body.
- Touch her thighs. Work slowly up and down your legs. Grab her buttocks and dig your fingers into her hips.
Step 3. Speak in a thin, sensual voice
Whisper a tempting compliment or invitation in her ear in a seductive way. Tell her how much you want her. Gentle lip contact combined with a softly spoken phrase can help get her aroused.
Step 4. Try using sex toys and other objects that stimulate pleasure
Buy some toys intended for the sexual stimulation of the woman. Give it to him as a gift, hinting that you will try it together later.
Step 5. Take control, unless you want to
Some people like to dominate in the bedroom, while others prefer to be dominated. Figure out whether or not your partner likes to take control under these circumstances. Keep in mind that sometimes she may want to be in charge and sometimes she may like it when you take the lead. If she's always waiting to be invited to the bedroom, she probably loves being dominated.
