Are you a girl and want to kiss someone of your sex? This is a perfectly natural impulse, whether you are a lesbian, bisexual or just curious. Whatever the reason you want to kiss another girl, you will have a better chance of success if you know how to properly read into her, making the right moves to bring her closer to you. To know how to do this, read these steps.
Steps
Part 1 of 2: Read the Signs
Step 1. Find out if this girl is interested in kissing someone of her gender
While waiting to make the first move, you should make sure that your advances are actually welcome. If this girl is lesbian or bisexual, then she is obviously willing to kiss other girls. If she's just bi-curious and open to new experiences and loves to experiment, it's worth a try. While you can always ask her what she thinks, there are other ways to know if she likes to kiss a girl:
- If you want to know if she's willing to kiss a girl, you can start by talking about some famous lesbians, like K. D. Lang, Ellen, the Indigo Girls and numerous other women. If she seems to like the subject and mentions other similar topics, then chances are she's open to kissing another girl. The fact that she appreciates these women does not make her a lesbian, but it indicates that she does not disdain this sexual orientation.
- If you know her well enough, you might even ask her if she ever kissed someone of the same sex. In case you're both bi-curious and know each other well enough, this conversation shouldn't embarrass her.
- You can also report seeing two girls kissing to test his reaction. You can say "Did you see Mandi and Anna kissing in the corridor?". Hear his opinion on this.
Step 2. Find out if she's willing to kiss you
While she's a lesbian and proud of it, that doesn't mean she wants to kiss any girl she crosses on the street just because she's gay. Read the signs to see if she likes you or not. If he flirts with you, approaches you when he talks, occasionally runs his fingers through your hair, and touches you often, then he is more than likely to want to kiss you.
- If he always compliments you on your appearance, but not superficially, then this could be a sign of interest on his part.
- If he looks at your lips and looks for intense eye contact with you, chances are he wants to kiss you.
- Just remember, if you're both straight and just want to experiment, it creates a different situation than when your friend is a lesbian, but you want to kiss her for fun. If you think it might be "cool" to kiss her without feeling any feelings towards her, she may be very offended and believe you don't take her sexuality seriously.
- If you have a lesbian friend and you know or believe you are gay and have no problem sharing it, tell them. That way, she won't get defensive if someone she thinks straight should kiss her.
Part 2 of 2: Kiss the Girl
Step 1. Find an intimate place
You'll definitely want to make sure the kiss is just between the two of you for now. Unless you're looking for an experience that allows you to kiss your straight best friend while you're both drunk at the bar, it's best to keep the exchange intimate if this girl is important to you. If neither of you has talked about her homosexuality in public, she won't feel comfortable kissing you in front of everyone or even in an unfrequented place. And, anyway, the kiss will have more meaning if exchanged while you are alone. Here are some intimate places where you could kiss her:
- Invite her to a movie. Dim the lights and watch her body language as the film rolls by. You might try kissing her while watching him or after.
- Invite her for a sleepover. If you are the right age, organizing one can be a good way to be alone together and try to kiss her intimately. Just make sure you read the signs carefully and give it a try when it's almost time for bed. If you give it a try as soon as she arrives and she has no intention of it, the rest of the night could be awkward.
- Take an evening stroll in an intimate place. You can go to a park or garden at sunset and find a quiet spot. This setting will be even more romantic.
Step 2. Look for physical contact
Lie down on the bed next to her, come closer, try to curl up and see how she responds. If you are standing, try stroking her face. If she reciprocates, by fixing your hair or removing lint from your jacket, consider this a good sign. Proceed only if she seems open to your advances. If she appears distant, tries to joke, looks around, or seems distracted, retreat.
- Try touching her hair. Tell her you like her or compliment her hairstyle.
- Touch her bracelet or earrings and tell her they are cute. This is a discreet way to get close to her.
- Gently brush her arm or shoulder. Continue to maintain physical contact as you speak.
- Lean towards her. If you are lying down, bring your body close to his as you speak.
Step 3. Make her comfortable
Make her feel comfortable and safe. She may want to kiss you too, but she may be scared of it at the same time. Talk to her and behave informally, but not too much. Make sure she understands that you like her not as a friend, but more. Here are a few sentences you can say to her to make her feel comfortable:
- If she seems very tense, calm her nervousness by asking her "Are you afraid?". If she says yes, tell her there is no need, hug her and let her go.
- If she answers "A little", ask her "About me?". If she says no, you should get closer to her. If he says yes, back down.
Step 4. Come closer
Snuggle up next to her, but if she pulls back, tries to move away or fidgets, stop immediately. If she reciprocates or gives you a gesture of affection, look at her. If she looks at you too, move her gaze to her lips. Do you notice that he is doing exactly the same thing? Then she is absolutely ready to kiss you. If her eyes are closed or half closed, put a finger of your hand under her chin and lift it to get a better look at her.
Step 5. Create the right conditions for an unforgettable first kiss
Don't push your tongue down her throat and don't treat your trade as if it were a marathon. At first, kiss her gently. If she responds in the way you hoped and kisses back, you can continue and let the exchange deepen as the moment deepens. On the occasion of the first kiss, try to be in control and make it truly romantic and wonderful.
- This does not mean, however, that the kiss has to be chaste or boring: part your lips slightly, make sure they are soft and attractive by moistening them a little with saliva. If you have dry lips, use a cocoa butter as well, but don't overdo it with the various flavors; remember that most people, at least the first few times, prefer plain cocoa butter.
- While kissing her, check your hands, do not touch her during this exchange. Hold it tight, but in a sweet and romantic way. If this is the first of many kisses exchanged with her, both of you will have memories of this moment, so make sure it is special.
- If your kiss starts to get more intense, you can let your hands wander as you both explore your bodies. In case this girl is more shy than you, she may be waiting for you to start with bolder moves. Go ahead, but make sure you don't make her uncomfortable by touching her too explicitly.
- At first, some of the best places to touch are the neck, arms, hair, and cheeks. As the intimacy between you grows, you can be a little more daring.
Advice
- If it doesn't stop you, it can be the start of something new between you.
- Don't reject her if she wants to kiss you.
- Don't try to kiss every girl you meet. First, get to know her better and become her friend.
- Try to touch it in the appropriate places only before starting to kiss her.
- If she doesn't seem to be receptive to your advances, back off.
- Smile cheerfully when you talk to her.
- Don't tell her anything obscene or provocative. Keep the words sweet and "no red dot".
- Try to have a good relationship with the girl in question before trying to kiss her.
- Just because you kissed her and she didn't do it the same way doesn't mean she doesn't like you; chances are she just wants a little pampering before kissing you.
- Do not rush. Go slowly and gently.
Warnings
- All girls want love, so don't be rude and don't force it.
- Make sure she isn't dating some other person, boy or girl, before you do it.
- If she doesn't approve of the LGBT world, she won't appreciate your attempting to kiss her.
