Getting a guy to ask for your number can sometimes be tricky, whether you have your eye on the cute coworker you usually talk to or on a guy you met at a party. You will need to let him know that you are interested and at the same time give him some signals that prompt him to ask you out. The secret is being able to make yourself understood without exposing yourself too much or appearing disinterested. So how can you get a guy to ask you for your number in no time? Read on to find out.
Steps
Part 1 of 2: Part 1: Show interest
Step 1. Show your brightest side
Being lively and pleasant is already a good way to flirt. Sometimes a guy might be afraid to ask for your phone number because he doesn't see you interested. It is up to you to make him understand that you are, that you would like to see him again and leave him your contact. Be lively, joke a little with him, give him a pat on the arm and show him that you are not someone who takes himself too seriously.
If you are in some club, you can dance with him but without appearing too serious, avoid always looking for his gaze. Keep it light and carefree
Step 2. Flirt with the guy
Don't be afraid to flirt a little, but don't overdo it. You can lightly touch your hair, touch his arm or laugh a little more than usual. Don't overdo it, he may feel overwhelmed or realize you have a crush on him. A few more tips:
- Give him some compliments. Tell him you like his shoes or that he has a nice smile. Stay vague, naturally avoid telling him "oh my God, you're the sexiest guy I've ever seen!" or will reverse.
- Lower your tone of voice. Speaking softly will make you appear more intriguing and the bright side is that he will have to get closer to you to hear you better.
- Take it lightly. Flirt a bit and then take a step back. It is always best not to appear too caught up or too hasty.
Step 3. Use body language to communicate
Another way to grab the attention of the guy you like is by signaling him through body language. The way you move and look at him can suggest that you are interested, prompting him to approach and ask for your phone number. Here's what you can do:
- Look for his gaze. Look him in the eye so he realizes he has your attention. If the looks become too intense, look elsewhere for a while.
- Wet your lips from time to time. It will make him guess what you are thinking.
- Lean towards him. Your body, shoulders and legs must be facing towards him, so that he can understand that you like him. If you turn away, your body language will suggest that you are interested in something else.
- Touch it occasionally. This will give him a clear signal: you are interested and would like to see him again. Just a light and playful touch, on the knee or forearm, will be enough to make a difference.
Step 4. Ask him some questions
Let him know that you are interested in learning more about his life and thoughts. Obviously, if you are in a club, don't start asking him if he believes in life after death or what his fears are. Wherever you are, there are ways you can let him know you like him just by showing a little interest in him. Ask him questions about:
- His hobbies and interests;
- His favorite band and the movies he loves to watch;
- His favorite team;
- What does he do for weekend fun;
- His opinion on any of your interests.
Part 2 of 2: Part 2: Throw Hints
Step 1. Tell them you have common interests
If you want the guy to ask you out, you can let him know that there are things you both like. This way he will have an opportunity to ask you for your phone number, because it will be easy to find an excuse to do so. Here is a list of things you can mention to make him feel comfortable and ask you for your number:
- Mention a movie that's currently in theaters if you think both of you might like it. He might ask you to go see him with him.
- Name a musical group you like. If both of you are talking about music, you can introduce a band that is doing concerts in the area. You can say something like “have you ever heard of (group name)? They are about to give a concert at the end of the month”. You'll leave him a clue.
- Talk about sports. If you're the kind of girl who loves sports then you might say "I've been a fan of (team name) for years but have never been able to go to a game yet!" The boy will have an opportunity to ask you out.
- Talk about your favorite dish. Maybe you both love Mexican or Oriental food. If there is a recently opened restaurant nearby, or if you are dying to try something new, make allusions and see if you can make the most of them.
Step 2. Tell him about your plans
Let him know what you are going to do in the next few weeks, it could be a good way to get him to ask you for your phone number, maybe he can decide to come with you. While you are talking, find a way to name something you are about to do, if he is interested he may ask you to participate. If it does, then it will have to ask you for your phone number. Here are some things you might say:
- Name a party you will go to on the weekend. He might want to go too.
- Talk about the wonderful lessons you are taking, whether it's kick boxing or mountain climbing. Introduce the speech, he may want to try.
- If you are planning something for the weekend with some friends you have in common, start talking about it and try to figure out if he would like to come too.
Step 3. Try to let him know that you enjoy his company
You don't have to tell him directly "please, please ask me for my phone number!" to point it out. If you have been in contact for some time, whether you see each other after school or during your lunch break at work, you can make an indirect comment that will make him understand your interest in spending more time with him. Here are some phrases you could use:
- “I always have so much fun when I talk to you”;
- "What a nice chat, I don't remember the last time I laughed so much";
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"It's always so nice to talk to you."
You can also find an opportunity to specify that you don't have a boyfriend. He may be hesitant to ask for your phone number because he is not sure if he has a free field
Step 4. Take out the phone
Even if you have to avoid being rude by starting to text your friends or answer calls in their presence, at some point in the conversation you can take your mobile phone out of your bag to give them the idea of asking you for the number. You can pretend to check if you've received a message, or show your phone to show him a photo of your cat or something related to the conversation.
- Pulling out the phone, even if only for a few seconds, might suggest "hey, you have a beautiful girl with a phone in front of you, what are you waiting for to ask her for the number?".
- Don't hold your hand on the phone for too long, he may think you're not interested in him.
Step 5. Leave the field right on the sweet spot
If you want the guy to ask you for your phone number, then you can't take it too long, until it reaches the point where both of you will have nothing more to say to each other. Rather, wait for the moment when the conversation gets more interesting and before there is a break apologize and tell him that unfortunately you have to go and that it was very interesting to talk to him. If it works, he'll probably say "I'd like to continue our conversation" or "I'd like to spend time with you".
- If the boy catches the signal, he will surely ask for your phone number. If he doesn't, be patient, sometimes it takes some time for a guy to come forward.
- And then, if you think he is interested but perhaps he is too shy to ask you for your phone number, where is the problem if you are asking for his?
Advice
- Don't engage in strange behaviors. If you can get him to ask for your number then smile and wave, don't panic!
- You don't need to change your personality to get their attention. Be yourself but be interested.
- Worst case scenario, you ask him for his phone number. Even so, you clearly state your intentions, it's the clearest gesture you can make to let him know you like him. If he says no, get over it. But don't be in a hurry, make sure you know him well as the conversation can quickly precipitate.
- Don't rush, relax, take a deep breath, slow things down and wait, nature will take its course.
- Don't be discouraged if it doesn't work on the first try. If you're trying your luck with a particular guy, keep trying it one step at a time. Don't get caught up in a rush.
- Don't send him the first message! He was the one who asked you for your number, remember?
- If you really understand that this is not the case, forget it, he may be married or have different sexual tastes. Move on.
