The idea of approaching an otaku girl with sentimental intentions could make you uncomfortable, whether you are an otaku yourself or otherwise. However, dating a girl who belongs to this community is no more complicated than dating any other girl. All you have to do is find the right girl, attract her interest, and get noticed.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Meet an Otaku Girl
Step 1. Beware of stereotypes
The problem with all categories is that they tend to reduce people to a mere stereotype. Before approaching an otaku girl, remember that she is a human being with her own manias, beliefs and personalities. He will have some characteristics of the "typical" otaku, but he will still be a one-of-a-kind person.
The same reasoning is possible when, after you meet her and start dating, you need to impress her. There is no magic formula that can work with all girls who can be classified as “otaku”, and this also applies to the steps listed in this article. Use his interests as a starting point, but remember to tailor your approach to the individual
Step 2. Log in
This type of girl often frequents chats, forums, and social media. He is generally comfortable with virtual interaction and can enjoy an online meeting as much as an offline one.
- Browse forums dealing with anime, manga, and other aspects of otaku culture. Join groups on Facebook and other social media that cover these topics and participate in discussions as much as possible.
- When you meet a girl who looks interesting, follow her blog or social media profiles. Don't start following all of her accounts at once, as such a straightforward approach could scare her.
Step 3. Venture into the real world
Not all otaku girls are glued to the phone or computer 24 hours a day. Most of them have real-world lives, and if you want a more traditional date, the best way is to track down girls with this passion in their natural habitat. In a nutshell, visit the places connected to their interests, where it is likely to meet them in their free time.
For example, try visiting shops that offer a wide range of anime and manga. Spend time in the arcade. Go see movies that attract a lot of female fans or, if you feel like daring, attend a comic fair
Step 4. Approach the right way
Once you've found a girl who seems interesting to you, all you need to do is make a good impression. You don't necessarily need a bright and insightful pick-up line; just start an interesting conversation.
Talking about TV series, movies, and similar topics can be a good way to start, especially if you've noticed her looking at something in particular with interest. If you don't know her interests well enough, you could just start the conversation by openly admitting your ignorance. on the subject and asking her to give you some advice
Method 2 of 3: Make Her Fall In Love With You
Step 1. Discover his passions
In Italy the term "otaku" is used to indicate die-hard fans of anime and manga, but in Japan this word refers to anyone with a strong interest in something. Even if the otaku girl in your life is a huge fan of anime, it will help to know which series and genres she is most interested in.
- The Japanese concept of "otaku" resembles our idea of a fan girl and nerd. A person can be an anime or video game otaku, but it doesn't stop there: anyone who loves something obsessively can be called an "otaku".
- The Italian concept of "otaku" refers to fans of a part of Japanese - or Asian in general - pop culture. This includes anime, manga and video games, but we must not forget more niche sectors, such as J-Pop music or Korean television series.
Step 2. Do your research
Knowing the title of his favorite series is not enough. If you want to impress her, it's best to do some more research into what she likes so you know what you're talking about. You don't have to love everything she likes, but it would be advisable to have a basic knowledge that allows you to follow the long monologues she will do about her passions.
Another benefit of research is being able to find out more about the kinds of things he loves, instead of just knowing a few examples. For this type of girl, anything that arouses her interest is a good opportunity to delve into related fields and broaden their knowledge. If you understand something more about her tastes, you can in turn introduce her to something that she might like, which will help to make a good impression on you
Step 3. Make an impression by recognizing his interests
Take her to places linked to her passions. Give her gifts related to what she loves. An otaku girl will certainly appreciate some healthy romance, but the more classic actions will only impress on a superficial level, without touching her deeply.
- Remember that your gifts don't have to be expensive to impress. Generally otaku girls also like inexpensive gifts, as long as they are related to their favorite characters and TV series. A simple Totoro plush can be enough to make a girl who adores the characters of Studio Ghibli fall at your feet.
- If you are a traditional courtship type, you can stay true to yourself by adding a few simple details. Take her to dinner and to the movies, but choose an animated film (if you know this genre interests her). If you want to give her a piece of jewelry, choose something that is inspired by her passions.
Step 4. Don't belittle it and don't try to change it
Some otaku girls may be a little ashamed of their interests, but most see nothing wrong with them. In any case, it is important to let her know that you do not find anything strange in her passions. Downplaying her interests could push her to walk away.
Many otaku girls appreciate their interests being niche. Having a passion that few share is something unique that makes her feel special
Step 5. Compliment her
Otaku are full-fledged girls, so don't forget to compliment them every now and then, always trying to be honest and creative. As always, it is better to show appreciation for something particular and specific, rather than something superficial.
- Occasional compliments on her appearance will always be welcome - as is true for most women. Instead of saying something general like "You are very pretty", try to appreciate something specific, like a particular characteristic: "I love the color of your eyes", or an accessory: "These glasses look really good on you!".
- In addition to the physical appearance, it is important to appreciate his personality. Point out her intelligence, her cheerfulness, her generosity, and other special characteristics.
Step 6. Notice his quirks
That is, find out what bothers her. Otaku girls are generally very passionate. Most of their liveliness will be directed towards their passions, but they can be equally passionate about something they don't like. If you find that she doesn't like something, do everything to avoid the topic.
For example, if you notice that she is very attentive to grammar, it would be better not to send her a message like “What are you doing today? A dp! ". Check what you write and be careful not to send her messages with grammatical errors
Step 7. Don't make her feel uncomfortable
Some otaku girls are very outgoing, but most tend to be introverted. While she isn't "shy" in the strict sense, she doesn't necessarily have to enjoy being in crowds or other chaotic situations. A relationship needs compromises on both sides to work, but if you want to work your way into their heart, you need to learn when and where to take them out and when it's just best to stay home.
Even if the girl in question is outgoing, she may find herself uncomfortable in certain circles. Even if she likes to be in the company of a small group of friends, she doesn't necessarily have to appreciate a nightclub full of strangers
Method 3 of 3: Making the Relationship Last
Step 1. Give her room for her hobbies
An otaku girl needs space and time for her own interests, to cultivate alone or with other friends who share her same passions. Let them do it. Wanting to be in her company is nice, but imposing your presence won't be pleasant for her or you.
- When she's into her interests, enjoy yours. Go out with friends, spend time alone, or take the opportunity to go somewhere your girlfriend didn't want to come.
- If you feel the need to be with her all the time, ask yourself why. You may feel neglected or jealous. Find out what the problem is and talk to her about it before it damages the foundation of your relationship.
Step 2. Find a balance
When you were trying to impress her, it is possible that you have only focused on activities that interest your girlfriend. In a more stable relationship, however, it is important to find a balance. Try to take turns: if one day you do something she likes, the next time you choose.
- Try to really take an interest in what he does. If he wants to watch one of his favorite movies with you, pay attention to what you see instead of looking at his cell phone all the time. If it drags you to a convention, look for something that might interest you.
- You can also have his passions explained to you in more detail. If she likes a particular video game, for example, you can ask her how to play it.
Step 3. Trust her
Your girlfriend may have many male friends with whom she shares her interests, but if she is romantically engaged, she is unlikely to give them romantic attention. An otaku girl is deeply passionate about everything she loves. If you fall into this category, it won't let you get away easily.
If you trust her, she may trust you more easily as well. By showing confidence in your relationship, you will show her that she has no reason to doubt your affection
Step 4. Let your guard down
If things get more serious between you, you need to show her that you are comfortable with her. Since many otaku girls are introverted, they will feel overwhelmed if they think they can't relax in your presence. Relax when you are together and she will calm down too.
This aspect is also to be taken in moderation. You don't have to show up to her all dressed up, but it's not okay to wear a stained T-shirt four days straight either. Be natural, but look after yourself and be respectful
Step 5. Be more than just a boyfriend
Even if you love virtual characters, you are a human being of flesh and blood. Instead of trying to be the perfect boyfriend, it's important to be friends with him first. Make her feel accepted and comfortable if you want to make your relationship last.
