Sometimes one of the hardest aspects of starting a new relationship is knowing if your potential partner is interested in you. Guys seem to be even more complicated to understand and determining their level of interest can be quite challenging. A hint of a hound's nose, combined with common sense and direct conversation, can help you tell if it's about love.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Reading his Body Language
Step 1. Observe his eyes
A guy who has a genuine interest usually conveys it with his gaze. Some types of behavior may seem contradictory, but this depends on his personality.
- A guy interested in you will likely try to seek your gaze frequently. He'll look you in the eye when you speak, and you might even catch him staring at you from afar.
- A shy guy may avoid eye contact because talking to you makes him feel nervous. If he seems to be looking around awkwardly, as if he doesn't quite know where to turn his gaze, this may indicate that he likes you. If he just looks at his cell phone or someone else, he might not be interested.
- The pupils tend to dilate in case of sexual arousal. If he has dilated pupils (the black part in the center of the iris is larger than usual), then he may be interested in you.
Step 2. Observe his posture
Like many mammals, male humans take different positions than usual when trying to impress a female of the same species.
- It will not cross its arms or legs. The crossed limbs clearly indicate distance and a scarce predisposition to have an approach;
- He may lean towards you as he talks to you;
- Likely, he'll stand straight and pull his shoulders back to look taller and impress;
- It may also appear to be pushing the pelvis out slightly. Alternatively, some men subconsciously (or consciously) settle their genitals when talking to a person who piques their interest.
Step 3. See if it tends to touch you
One of the most reliable signs to tell if he is interested? This guy is always looking for an excuse to have physical contact with you. If he touches your arm or hand as you speak, he is likely testing the waters to see how you react to this behavior.
- Encourage him to touch you by reciprocating. Touch or lightly squeeze his arm, look him straight in the eye as you speak. If he's interested, you should be able to tell from his response.
- Remember that you should compare the way he touches you with the way he behaves in daily life. If he appears to be hugging anyone he meets, this gesture may not have any special meaning.
Step 4. Look at his facial expressions to see if he blushes or smiles
A guy interested in you will probably smile at you a lot and laugh at your stories, even if they're not very funny.
- If a guy is shy, he probably blushes when you talk to him. Look for any redness on your cheeks or if your palms are sweaty (you might rub them on your clothes or move your hands nervously)
- He may be more likely to make a strange or embarrassing comment, then blush from the nervousness. Try to make him feel comfortable;
- Nervousness is undoubtedly a sign of interest. Do your best to make him comfortable by being kind and encouraging him to talk to you.
Step 5. Find out if he imitates your gestures
Without doing so intentionally, both men and women reflect the movements of a person they are interested in as if they were a mirror. This means that they reproduce the usual gestures of this individual in order to send a precise message: they are similar and therefore compatible.
You can test this by trying something you don't usually do, like placing your hand over your mouth or stretching. See if he imitates you
Part 2 of 3: Recognizing the Flirt
Step 1. Compare the tone of voice and gestures that this guy reserves for you with those he has with others
The key to knowing if he's flirting is to understand the differences between the way he talks to you and the way he generally addresses people.
- Some guys try to make their voices particularly deep and more manly when talking to a girl they're infatuated with;
- Sometimes, guys whisper or talk very calmly with someone they're interested in. This could lead you to approach to hear it, or indicate that you share a secret bond.
Step 2. Look for enthusiasm when you talk about your interests
If he seems particularly interested in everything you do or say, he is probably interested in you, not your passions in and of themselves. Few people share exactly the same hobbies and tastes; broadly speaking, people look for common interests when entering into a potential relationship.
Make sure you reciprocate and ask him about his interests as well. Showing enthusiasm for his passions allows him to understand that you too want to know him better. Also, by encouraging him to share what he thinks, you will seem less self-centered
Step 3. Look at her clothing and personal hygiene habits
If he knows he's going to meet you, he may be taking extra care to better prepare himself. Determine if he seems to be dressing more elegantly or combing his hair more carefully than usual.
- If he seems to have put some extra effort into his look, it would be nice to compliment him about it;
- A guy who's willing to prepare to look pleasing to you is probably a better candidate than one who is apparently anything but willing to impress you.
Step 4. See if he's flirting explicitly
For example, using classic goofy pick-up phrases or winking are traditional and obvious signals from a flirting person; boys who have no other ideas about courtship will resort to these tactics.
Part 3 of 3: Distinguishing Between Love and Attraction
Step 1. Try to have meaningful conversations
You should be able to talk to a person you have a certain sentimental interest in on a variety of topics. Make sure you can have a real bilateral dialogue with a guy.
- It can be about any topic - from dreams to past relationships, from hopes to favorite celebrities;
- If he doesn't make any contributions to a conversation or doesn't seem to care about your opinions, there are two possibilities: he doesn't reciprocate your feelings or he's not a good match.
Step 2. Arrange a "chaste" date
Try to invite him on an outing or an afternoon that doesn't involve any physical contact, especially if you are generally in a relationship like this. Having fun together in a way that doesn't involve romantic or passionate gestures is important for nurturing a healthy relationship. It also allows you to differentiate between a guy who is interested in you as a whole and one who is only interested in your body.
Step 3. Go through a difficult time together
Of course, you cannot predict when such an experience will occur. However, if either of you is faced with an emotionally complicated situation, it is often in these cases that you can gauge the depth of the feelings a man has for you.
- Openly express the emotions you feel about the event and also encourage your partner to do so;
- Communicate to express your emotional needs, but remember that teens often hesitate to share how they feel. This doesn't mean he's not interested in you.
Step 4. Be direct:
express your feelings and observe his response. If you are in love with him and want to know if he reciprocates, explain to him how you feel.
- If you confess that you love him, remember that he may not respond immediately. This does not mean that the relationship is over, maybe it takes time to process the idea.
- When you explain how you feel, observe his body language. If it seems to convey physical discomfort immediately, you may not be reciprocating.
- If he doesn't respond and seems to be indifferent, then it may be that he doesn't really care about you.
Step 5. Talk about the future
Bringing up this topic has a double purpose. First, it can be a way of assessing whether you have common goals and values, which indicates long-term compatibility. Secondly, it can make it clear to you if he's only interested in a short story.
- Start by talking about your personal goals and thoughts about the future;
- Next, ask him if he can imagine a future shared with you;
- Remember that future goals and prospects can change a lot, especially as a young person. Periodically re-evaluating these ideas is crucial.
Step 6. Spend time with her family
If a guy invites you to get to know his family members, he probably loves you. He would hardly introduce them to you if he wasn't interested in you. Getting to know his family also allows you to better understand his past and imagine the kind of environment he is likely to recreate in the future.
- Reciprocate and invite him to spend time with your family too;
- If his parents (or yours) say or do something embarrassing, you will have something to laugh about later;
- Boys are often very attached to their mothers. If you can impress her and she appreciates you, there's a better chance he'll feel proud to take you home;
- Be kind when you talk about his family. There are people who are ashamed of their family situation, and you risk turning them away if you make fun of their relatives, even if only for a joke.
