While research has shown that people tend to get along well with people with whom they share similar biological and physiological traits, it is possible to become friends with different types of people with a variety of characteristics. The trick is to be open, understanding, and friendly. Soon you will have so many invitations that you will need a bigger calendar.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Finding and Making Friends
Step 1. Develop your interests
To become friends with many different people, you will need to have a wide variety of interests. Thanks to your many interests, you will be more likely to have something in common with everyone and it will be easier to have a conversation and make a relationship blossom. So join a choir. Volunteer at your local hospital. Start painting in your free time. Learn to play the guitar. Start playing football. If you've always wanted to do something, you've just found a good reason to do it.
Try to understand the personality of a group you are trying to make friends with. Find out what unites them: whether a shared activity (for example a discussion group, journalistic publication, love of live music) or a set of similar character traits (friendly, sociable, quiet, etc.). If you share one of these qualities that unites a group, then let your interest / personality / whatever it is, come out
Step 2. Get in the habit of asking for other people's contact information
When it comes to making new friends, most people are pretty shy. People have a tendency to automatically assume that you are not interested in a friendship unless you specifically say so. Take a risk, get involved and ask for the phone number, username on Twitter or Instagram or friendship on Facebook. Becoming friends with someone on the internet is the first step in becoming truly friends.
When you have a person's contact information, you can invite them to meet or chat online. The more you talk to each other, the more comfortable you will feel when you meet
Step 3. Don't wait for other people to invite you - you do it
Be outgoing and active, inviting people out, and paying attention to when and where they meet. If you want to be friends with everyone you have to connect with people, and be sensitive to their habits. Again, remember that people get nervous and shy around new friends. They may want to hang out with you but are too shy to ask.
- Go out often in order to hang out with different groups. Being friends with everyone takes time and a lot of energy, because you have to be friendly, sociable, and willing to invest the time necessary to date, therefore having little to dedicate to yourself.
- Remember that you don't have to be social to be a good person; It's also okay to be shy and reserved and you'll still be able to make friends. But if your goal is to become friends with many people, you will have to make an effort.
Step 4. Accept all invitations
If you stop accepting, people will stop inviting you. And that's normal - would you keep inviting a friend who always says no? So when you're making new friends, accept the invitations you receive. How else are you going to make the friendship grow?
Remember that each group acts differently. They will use different words, find different things funny or not, or have different ways of dating and having fun. See what is appropriate for each group and act accordingly, but don't change yourself to connect with them. You are you
Step 5. Smile and remember everyone's name
When you are friends with everyone, you have to remember a lot of information. Is it Paola who likes rock music? Do Carlo and Marco play basketball? When you're with new friends, call them by name, talk about something you know about them, and smile. They will feel special, because you remembered something about them.
One of the easiest things to do to find new friends is to smile and be happy. Make jokes, laugh and help the group have fun. When they realize that you are funny, they will all become your friends
Part 2 of 3: Talk to New People
Step 1. Make comments about your surroundings or the occasion
Talking about this and that with people you don't know well is one of the hardest aspects of trying to make new friends. To start a conversation, make a simple comment about your surroundings or the occasion. Talk about the robotic voice of the physics teacher or how you can't believe Laura is wearing that dress. It doesn't take much - the conversation will improve from there.
Even a simple "Hey, I love this song!" it can break the ice. If two people start singing their hearts out, they will undoubtedly bond
Step 2. Ask open-ended questions
To progress further, start asking the people you are talking to open-ended questions that cannot be answered with a "yes" or "no", because monosyllable responses can stop a conversation. What do they think of the big event that is coming? Who do they know who will participate?
Ask the group what their plans are for the weekend. If it's an activity you think you can join, express interest, and see if they extend the invitation to you as well. Otherwise, consider carefully whether it is appropriate to go further and explicitly ask to participate. Be careful to always invite yourself. It can make you disliked by some
Step 3. Listen carefully
When was the last time someone looked into your eyes, smiled, asked how you were and really wanted to know? Finding someone who can listen is difficult, especially in these times when we are all distracted by our cell phones. When someone talks, give them your attention. He will notice and appreciate it.
Showing interest in someone is one of the best ways to let them know you like them and that they matter. Even if a person is just complaining about mom, offer your support. Help him laugh at the problem. Everyone needs a shoulder to cry on from time to time, and you could be that shoulder
Step 4. Use compliments
In addition to making people feel good, compliments are also great ways to break the ice. "Hey, I really like your shoes! Where did you get them?" it's an easy way to start a conversation. It could be one of the other person's best times of day.
Think about your friends. Which ones do you associate with positivity and which ones with negativity? It probably won't take long to find the answer. Here's a tip: you'll need to be associated with positivity, and complimenting is one way to be
Step 5. Make time for friends
Now you have a lot of friends. Your main challenge now will be finding time for them. You could prepare a fixed calendar. Monday will be dedicated to friends of the choir, Tuesdays to football mates, and so on. Just make sure you call friends you haven't seen in a long time!
This is the main downside to being friends with everyone - everyone will want some of your time. If you start feeling tired, don't ignore the problem. Take some time for yourself and get your energy back. Your friends will have patience and will be by your side when you are ready
Part 3 of 3: Prove You Are Worthy of Friendship
Step 1. Be a friend you wish you had
Being friends with everyone doesn't mean joining the most popular company or demanding respect with a snobbish attitude, but being pleasant and being a good friend. If you want everyone to like you, behave like someone you would appreciate. What kind of friend do you think everyone likes?
You can start by being thoughtful and helping others. If someone has been absent from school, offer them your notes. Need a ride somewhere? This is also an opportunity. Who knows? When you need a favor, you might get it back
Step 2. Make other people feel good
Most of us have problems with our image and we all have days where we don't feel good about ourselves. But when we meet someone who wants to be our friend and who entertains us, it's easy to cheer up. Make your new friends feel good by saying you want to hang out with them, giving compliments, and making an effort to become friends. Write them a message when they don't expect it, send them a note and let them know that you are on their side.
Even simply staying by someone's side can change their life. Recent studies have shown that having a good friend can not only make you much happier, but also extend your life. Think that a good friend is equivalent in happiness to $ 100,000 a year. Just being by someone's side is a great gift
Step 3. Find the good in people
Consider that by becoming friends with everyone, you will meet people with all kinds of personalities, attitudes, opinions and interests. You will need to be open-minded and personable enough to get along with all of these people, even if you won't always agree with them. Focus on the best qualities and the things you value - not the things you disagree with.
Be respectful so that you can politely express your agreement or disagreement when different opinions arise. You don't necessarily have to suppress your opinions and thoughts, but make sure you don't express yourself in an offensive or harmful way to others
Step 4. Make an effort to maintain friendship
Since you have a lot of friends, it will naturally be difficult in some cases to keep all friendships. What's more, friends come and go naturally - most research suggests that half of any social circle dissolves in 7 years. If you've found friends you want to keep, make an effort to do so. Invite them to spend time with you, call them and keep in touch. Friendship is a two-way street after all.
If your friends are away from you, you will have to put in even more effort. Studies show, even if it is a logical thing, that long-distance friendships are lost much more quickly and have a tendency to be replaced by local ones. So keep texting, writing on Facebook, and calling on the phone. You can still be by the side of a distant friend if you need it
Step 5. Don't speak ill of others and don't gossip all the time
While it might be interesting for a couple of minutes conversation, someone might feel offended, and you would be burning your bridges. If you continue to speak ill of others, people will notice and be more cautious with you; after all, who assures them that you don't even talk badly about them when they're not around?
Be a pleasant person, follow the golden rule (treat others the same way you would like to be treated), and friends will come in large numbers
Step 6. Don't take personal offense if someone doesn't want to be your friend
If you notice that he is often banned from programs, or you are not told about it until the event is over, understand that people may probably be subtly but deliberately trying to exclude you. While it may seem like a bad action to you, people don't have to be friends with you, and if they think your personality clashes with the rest of the group, it's their right to decide whether or not to include you. Don't try too hard to be friends with them, and go your own way.
If you have to ask every weekend what's on to be part of the group, ask someone else you know. Alternatively, invite that person out and hear what they say. If your invitation conflicts with other plans, it may invite you to join the group. If your invitation precedes the existing plan, you could both join the group activity together
Advice
- Don't be afraid to talk to other people. Meeting new people is the best way to make new friends!
- If a person wants to be alone for some time, respect them and leave them alone - avoid being clingy.
- Being clean is an essential thing to keep in mind. Take a shower every day. Wash your face and teeth. Always.
- Ditching old friends for other people is a horrible thing to do. Just try to be friendly. If you have a few trusted friends or a best friend, don't abandon them.
- Do not assume that everyone falls into a certain category, such as: sports, geek, dark, etc. Being labeled often hurts people's feelings (even if they call themselves that, don't do it. Respect their right to call themselves names, but don't "take inappropriate steps").
- Be polite to everyone, even if it's just saying "I'm sorry".
Warnings
- Remember: don't forget who your real friends are. Don't befriend someone just because they are popular or the leader of the group.
- Being friends with everyone can be difficult because not everyone is compatible with each other. You may feel torn between several friends; choose who to hang out with if you can't all hang out together.
- If for any reason you can't keep up with all the activities on the schedule, the friends will quickly disappear. Make sure you have at least a couple of trusted friends, otherwise everyone is likely to become mere acquaintances.
- Not everyone will like you, but that's their problem, not yours. You can't make everyone want to go out with you, so don't force things. You will not get any benefit!
- It is impossible to have a close group of friends, everyone has a mixed group made up of friends and acquaintances. Chances are you have to leave one party alone, to go to another party alone. There you will see your friends, but you cannot move with many other people, apart from yourself.
