Sometimes a disagreement can turn into an argument which then results in a quarrel. If you're constantly arguing with your best friend, here's how to stop.
Steps
Step 1. Find out exactly why you started arguing or arguing
Sometimes, we end up arguing about really insignificant issues. Sometimes you forget where a disagreement comes from and you get to argue about nothing.
Step 2. Think
Step 3. Sit down and talk about it quietly
Pay attention to his speech and ask him to listen to yours.
Step 4. Carefully consider all his objections relating to your behavior
Look at the way you act from his point of view, taking into account that he is your best friend. Try to change your attitude for the sake of your friendship. After all, you don't want to lose it.
Step 5. Get away for some time
If you can't reconcile immediately, don't contact him for a week. When you start to miss him, it means that it is time to tell him what you are feeling.
Step 6. Avoid any word or gesture that could fuel disagreement or provoke a fight
Step 7. Talk about the good times we spent together
Step 8. Tell him your opinion on the way he is treating you and ask him what he thinks about it
Step 9. Show your consideration by not excluding him when you go out with other friends
Don't make him jealous.
Advice
- Remember that when someone or something seems to hurt you, nothing can actually hurt you, unless you allow it.
- Talk to him before the problem gets out of hand.
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Try being on your own and start asking yourself a few questions:
- What led you to argue with your friend?
- Did it hurt your ego?
- When you intend to talk to him calmly, invite someone you trust to moderate the conversation and act as a "go-between" so you don't lose control of the situation.
- If you have the impression that a fight is about to break out, it is best for each of you to walk away and go your own way. Don't contact him for a while. Give yourself the space you need. Once the anger has subsided, go back to him and calmly tell him that you didn't like what he said (or did).
- You can always find a compromise.
- Gradually resume intercourse. Ask him for a pencil sharpener or an eraser, then try asking him: "Do you need help with your homework?". Soon he will forget the fight and everything will return to normal.
- Don't be hard. Keep calm. If he has a problem, talk to him about it. Help him find a solution.
Warnings
- If you throw up everything you think about him without first letting go of your anger, you risk taking all your grudge on him.
- If the fight is taking on enormous proportions, you need to walk away.
