Whether you want to get close to a girl you don't know or avoid fidgeting in the company of the person you're interested in, one thing is certain: talking to women can be a daunting task! However, when you realize that they are like everyone else around you, their presence won't seem so terrifying. If you have confidence in yourself and learn to communicate correctly, you can feel more relaxed and comfortable in front of a girl.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Gaining Self-Confidence
Step 1. Be yourself
As much as you want to get a girl's approval, changing your personality isn't the right way! Even if it works right away, in the long run you won't feel honest or happy, and at some point, the other person may find out who you really are. So, get to know yourself. Accept everything you think and feel on an emotional level. If you are sincere and confident, you will attract girls and feel good about yourself too.
- Don't be overly generous or aggressive when you want to get a woman. This behavior could be false or even offensive. Of course, that's not the image you want to give of yourself!
- Also, don't try to please yourself at all costs. Appreciate your flaws and don't let them distract you from your goal.
- By loving and accepting who you are, you will feel more comfortable with others. It doesn't matter if things don't go the right way. Your happiness depends only on you. Loving yourself is the key thing.
Step 2. Take care of yourself
Adequate personal hygiene will allow you to feel good in your skin and have a more groomed appearance. Shower in the morning, wash your hair, use deodorant, and put on clean clothing before going out. When you are in the company of a girl, the last thing you need to worry about is the smell emanating from your body! So, take care of yourself so as not to feel in trouble.
Put some perfume or aftershave on your neck and shoulders. However, don't overdo it! Prevent those around you from being disgusted by it
Step 3. Dress well
If you can, browse the stores looking for clothes that fit your body. You don't have to spend too much money, just find something that looks good on you and makes you feel comfortable. In addition to flattering your figure, clothing needs to fuel your self-confidence and make you focus on the girls rather than your looks.
- Try to observe the people around you to get a clearer idea of the trends of the moment, but remember that the clothes you choose to wear must reflect your style.
- Ask for advice from the shop assistants. Be kind and they will be happy to guide you in choosing your combinations.
Step 4. Do what you like
You can have fun with a girl by getting involved in what she likes, but remember to take time for yourself and cultivate whatever you are passionate about. If you love science fiction TV series and read comics, don't stop. Never be ashamed of your interests, because thanks to them you are a satisfied, authentic and pleasant person to hang out with.
When you like a girl, it's only natural that you get completely absorbed in her. However, don't cancel yourself out, but try to give yourself some space to focus on your passions, such as sports or video games
Step 5. Relax
Tension in front of a girl will produce similar behavior: she will do the same. If you look around imagining something to say or that allows you to escape from this situation, it means that you are not focused on your interlocutor. So, before you approach her or during moments of silence, take a deep breath. Don't get distracted and give it your attention, regardless of the anxiety you are feeling. Keep a positive attitude and think that nothing unpleasant will happen, in fact it is very likely that everything will be for the best.
Generally, people are absorbed in everyday life and therefore have no interest in embarrassing others or hurting them. If you think you've made a mistake or are embarrassed, don't worry. Those around you will soon forget it
Step 6. Be honest about your intentions
If you're interested in a girl, it's a good idea to start making friends with her, but if you have feelings for her, don't hide it. Try to win her over by giving her your attention. If you don't show your true feelings, she won't understand your intentions and will feel betrayed or distressed should she find out. On the contrary, don't fool her if you just want to be her friend. Remember the saying (even if a bit trivial): honesty always pays!
Remember to respect its limits. Don't insist if he doesn't return your interest. That way, she'll be grateful to you and is more likely to want to be friends with you, even if she doesn't have the same feelings as you
Part 2 of 3: Communicate Effectively
Step 1. Look her in the eye
When you approach a girl for a chat, keep eye contact. This way, you will demonstrate self-confidence and interest in what he says. However, don't stare, especially in moments of silence. Look at her just enough to let her know that you are paying attention to her, then turn your gaze elsewhere.
- Don't worry if you have some difficulties at first. We all have them when someone looks us in the eye! To familiarize yourself, practice in front of the mirror, then practice with friends and strangers.
- It is difficult to look people in the eye, but in this way you will not be surprised to physically observe your interlocutor and you will be able to show her respect and interest with charm and education.
Step 2. Engage her in a conversation
Greet her like you would anyone else: say "hi" and bring up the right topics. To break the ice, ask for her opinion on clothing trends, talk about a class you're taking, compliment her when she makes a good point, or offer to help.
This will make you feel more confident with the girls and can strike up more interesting conversations. Nobody holds back from a pleasant conversation and they will be favorably impressed by your way of interacting with ease and expansiveness
Step 3. Listen carefully
Women appreciate when someone pays them their full attention. Put your cell phone aside and try to understand what your interlocutor is saying. Don't interrupt it. Show your interest by nodding and responding when she is done speaking. It's not nice to have a conversation with someone who doesn't listen, so try to express your consideration.
- To make her understand that you got her message, respond by rephrasing her speech, saying for example: "So, you are saying that …".
- When you answer, be respectful and don't judge, regardless of what you think. To show that you are a sensitive and caring person, consider their thoughts and opinions before replying.
Step 4. Show genuine interest
To build a trusting relationship with a girl, you need to communicate on a deeper level. Ask her for something more personal, ranging from her interests and desires. Show her that you are interested in learning more about her. This way, you will look more self-confident and feel comfortable when you are together. Plus, you'll get rid of the tension that could arise if the conversation revolves around you - all you have to do is ask questions and listen!
For example, try asking her what kind of music she likes. If you listen to the same songs, you can share this interest. If, on the other hand, you have different tastes, you can tell her: "I've never listened carefully to that genre. Can you give any advice to an inexperienced person?"
Step 5. Pay attention to what he feels
When you show a girl that you like her, she may open up to the point of sharing her concerns with you. It's a huge show of trust, so you need to listen to her with interest and put yourself in her shoes. Don't judge her and don't make fun of her. You definitely don't want to be treated like this, so avoid.
- For example, you can tell her, "Okay, the exam was really hard, but you did your best."
- Also encourage her to achieve her goals. If she wants to be a photographer, encourage her, no matter what you think. Tell her, "It's great to have such a big dream!"
Step 6. Make her laugh
A sense of humor allows you to be charming and charismatic. With a little irony, you will lighten the situation as you get to know each other and prepare the ground for dealing with more serious issues. You don't have to be a born comedian or step your hand! Try making a few jokes or telling funny anecdotes from your past to make her laugh and ease her embarrassment.
- Humor is not always appropriate. For example, avoid making vulgar or sexual jokes in front of a girl you just met.
- By spending more time with her, you will learn to understand what amuses her and you will come to joke with a familiar understanding of only the two of you. Be patient and see how your sense of humor matches his. You will laugh with laughter in no time!
Part 3 of 3: Behave in the Most Appropriate Way
Step 1. Respect his personal space
When you first meet a girl, just shake her hand. Be relaxed and always use common sense: do not cling to her, do not bring your face close to hers and do not touch her in the least appropriate places, such as her face. As the knowledge progresses, use your judgment to understand to what extent you accept physical contact. Start by brushing her hand or shoulders when you speak and staying with her in circumstances that require it, such as parties and concerts.
- If you want a relationship, increase physical contact slowly and naturally. Try hugging her and flirting with her if she agrees.
- Don't touch her if she doesn't want to. Respect their personal spaces and take a step back if they feel uncomfortable.
Step 2. Be polite
Be kind to a girl. If you swear, don't mind controlling your body's noisy emissions, or indulge in vulgar jokes, rest assured that he won't want to see you. Show respect and politeness by holding the door open and saying "thank you" and "please".
Step 3. Treat everyone the same
Talk to anyone - guys, transsexuals, and so on - like you would a girl. Show everyone respect and kindness and listen to what they have to say. Avoid getting into a fight. Violence is not a good way to impress someone! When you are in the company of a girl, your behavior must indicate that you are a transparent and mature person.
It's not easy when you discuss or interact with unsympathetic individuals, but don't get emotional. Breathe deeply and check your words. In the end you will be proud that you did the right thing, even if there are no girls next to you that you want to impress
Step 4. Don't talk behind your back
Talking badly about someone who is not there has the same effect as having an unpleasant fight in person, and sometimes it can be even worse! Avoid gossiping. By giving rise to the rumors, you will be unripe in the eyes of a girl and will wonder if you speak badly of her too when you are not together. So try to have respect.
At the same time, don't discredit her or tell your friends about her confidences. These rumors could get to his ears and earn you a bad reputation. So try to be trustworthy and he'll soon see you as a faithful friend
Advice
- Don't go into the balloon if you do something embarrassing. Admit your mistake, laugh and catch up by making a joke. By easing the situation, you will feel more comfortable and ease the embarrassment with the people around you, including girls.
- Be kind, especially if she's shy. Hook up the button and break the ice slowly. Don't invade his space.
- Pay attention to your body language to gauge how you feel and how you should act.
- If you're interested in getting a girl, don't be afraid to flirt a little! However, let it go if she seems uninterested or uncomfortable.
- Unless you're engaged to a girl, don't be jealous when seeing other people.
- Remember to be friendly to his friends and family, no matter how much you like them.
- Defend her when you can, but don't get involved in a fight.
- Walk confidently and don't be afraid to catch his eye.
Warnings
- Don't persistently seek physical contact or a relationship if she isn't ready.
- If you try to hide your feelings or impress a girl, your attitude won't go unnoticed and you won't be happy with it.
