Does pleasing girls seem like an impossible undertaking to you and you don't know where to start? In some cases it is difficult to attract their attention positively. By saying or doing the wrong thing, you can turn them away and lose their interest in a heartbeat. If you want women to like you, it's important to learn to stay calm, have charisma, and treat them well.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Treating Girls the Right Way
Step 1. Be yourself
It is better for a girl to see you for who you really are. If you pretend to be different, your relationship will be short-lived. You can't play a part forever.
- Forget all the tips you've read in men's magazines and heard in movies. Behave as naturally as possible.
- Try not to think too much about the answers when you have a conversation with a girl. Of course, it's important to take the interlocutor into consideration when it's your turn to speak; you certainly don't want to risk sounding rude or offensive. For example, some of the jokes you make with your male friends may not be appropriate.
Step 2. Be honest
It is often easy to tell when a person is lying, making up stories, or exaggerating. With dishonesty you will lose the trust of the girls. Express your feelings frankly as well. Don't tell a woman that you want to meet her parents or take a trip with her if you don't really care about taking your relationship to the next level.
Studies suggest that sincerity fuels trust, allowing you to build better relationships
Step 3. Be courteous and considerate
Cavalry is not dead and respect never goes out of style. Girls want to feel special. There are some simple gestures that show a woman that you really care about her.
- Hold her door, grab her heavy suitcase or help her with small and unexpected gestures.
- Repair something that hasn't had time to fix or doesn't have the skills to fix.
Step 4. Be interested in his personality
Ask her questions about her life and the things that matter to her. Don't talk too much about yourself and let her tell you something. Show her that you care as a person.
Step 5. Give her your full attention
Make eye contact when she talks to you so that she knows you are listening. Ask her questions about what she said or respond by showing that you are actively involved in the conversation.
Pay attention to the physical and verbal cues it gives you, as well as your own. Texting, reading the newspaper, watching television or looking away are rude attitudes, which make her understand that you don't care about her and what she has to say. If you notice that she is the one doing those gestures, you are losing her interest
Step 6. Be patient
Do not try to initiate physical contact if it is clear that she is not ready. Patience is the virtue of the strong. Find subtle ways to let her know that you are attracted to her. Compliment her about her appearance or personality.
Part 2 of 3: Taking Care of the Appearance
Step 1. Maintain a winning attitude
Nobody likes negative people. Being nice, positive, and friendly makes you more palatable. We are all more beautiful when we smile. The stronger your smile, the more attractive you are. You might even make up for your naturally unattractive looks.
Step 2. Exudes confidence
Using positive body language makes you seem more confident in the eyes of others. Straighten your back and shoulders, keeping your head up. Look people in the eye to express your admiration. Avoiding the gaze of others can make you appear nervous or insecure.
Step 3. Develop a refined and uncluttered style
Being tidy and wearing the right clothes is more important to being attractive than your physical appearance, which you cannot change. Make a commitment to showering, brushing your teeth, and shaving. Style and cut your hair. Wear clothes that look good on you. Girls will notice your style.
Part 3 of 3: Avoiding Wrong Behaviors
Step 1. Be original
Don't say trivia or hookup phrases you've seen on television or read on the internet. Avoid clichés if you want to get a girl's attention. Look for original compliments. By telling a woman that she has a good laugh or a great sense of humor you make her realize that the attraction you feel is not purely physical.
Step 2. Give her space
Show her that you are not possessive by encouraging her to spend some time with friends. It's good for both of you to keep a life out of your relationship. Don't get jealous if she has male friends. Jealousy is extremely unpleasant.
Step 3. Respect his decisions
Don't be pushy. You both need to feel free to make the choices you prefer, knowing that they will be respected by your partner.
If he rejects your advances, don't make a scene and accept it. Don't be angry if he rejects you. If you respect his decision, he may change his mind in the future. If you behave aggressively or talk badly about her, you will regret it. Other girls may find out about your rude attitude and you will ruin your chances with them too
Step 4. Don't be too inaccessible
A little bit of strategy can be fun, but it gets annoying in a short time. You can pretend you're bored or aloof to let a girl know you're not going to chase her desperately, but don't give her the impression of being disinterested.
Advice
- Girls are different from each other, as are boys. Some approaches will work better than others.
- Do not overdo it. You don't have to become the nicest guy in the world; you just need to be the nicest in the class or office.
