Alpha males are the embodiment of masculinity. They are the guys who always seem to be the leaders of the pack, demonstrating casual authority in every situation. If you want to be seen as an alpha male, try to emulate the qualities you see in other natural leaders, such as their posture and manners.
Steps
Method 1 of 4: Looking Your Best
Step 1. Keep your hygiene flawless
You must always be clean and fragrant. Shower every day, use deodorant, and wear clean clothes.
Avoid too intense cologne. Excessive odor can make people uncomfortable and aggravate the health conditions of asthma sufferers. You must have a strong personality, not a strong smell
Step 2. Dress well
Try to look better than the guys around you so that you stand out. For example, wear printed fabrics, collared shirts, nice pants, and possibly a tie. Don't wear t-shirts that advertise a favorite brand or group; your brand is you. Read this article if you want more tips.
Dressing well doesn't necessarily mean wearing a suit. Your clothes should look good on you, they should be comfortable and appropriate for the situation. Remember: clothes are like a shop window. If you exude strength and self-esteem and command respect with your presence, your clothes will be a secondary issue
Step 3. Go to the gym and get fit
Staying fit won't make you an alpha male, because it has to come from within, but it will help you get better. It also sends another signal: a man who takes care of himself can take care of others as well.
Step 4. Express confidence with body language
The way you move communicates a lot to those around you, without you saying a word. Your posture, your hand gestures, your position - it all sends signals to the people around you about your place in the world. Those signals need to be strong and confident, not small and defensive. Here are some examples of body language that communicates confidence:
- Stand or sit with your back straight. Don't hunch your shoulders. Show your full height in the presence of adult people.
- Assume the pose with the fingertips of both hands together and palms apart (the so-called “bell tower” pose). This hand position denotes confidence, as long as you don't touch your mouth with your fingertips.
- Put your hands behind your back. This posture suggests openness and trust.
- Make eye contact (if appropriate in your culture). Look at the person you are talking to. To avoid staring at it, try moving your gaze from one eye to the other, then to your mouth. Look away briefly from time to time.
- Put your hands in your pockets, thumbs out. This signals confidence and a little boldness.
Step 5. Don't be afraid to be the center of attention
Stand with a firm posture, use expansive gestures, show yourself relaxed and comfortable in your environment. Read this article for more tips on how to look completely comfortable in any situation.
Step 6. Practice
If you are not used to appearing or feeling confident, it may take some time to succeed; it is completely normal. Work to build your self-esteem habit. If you are wrong, remember that tomorrow is a new day. It will get easier and easier with practice.
- Try an authority pose before a challenge to help you feel stronger. If you need a quiet place to exercise, go to the bathroom.
- Remind yourself of your past success and take a moment to be proud of yourself.
Method 2 of 4: Work on Yourself
Step 1. Develop new skills
By learning new skills and developing new skills, you keep your mind and body snappy and fit. This helps you develop a well-rounded skill set that will make you the go-to guy when people have doubts. Become a man not only of style but of substance, studying the things that interest you and gaining familiarity and practice in every language. Learn to box, build a shed, walk on hands, perform a spin kick, survive in the woods or win a street fight. Develop your mind by learning about architecture, art and music.
Step 2. Be sure of who you are
Evaluate every aspect of who you are and accept it. Never try to hide or change yourself just to please others. Instead, be the best version of who you already are.
- Take advantage of what makes you different. Are you a nerd? Be the best nerd you can be. Are you in a wheelchair? This means that you do arm training every day. You are gay? Be a confident gay man. Don't let other people make you feel bad for who you are.
- You will likely find that you have some flaws, such as not believing enough in yourself or making too many judgments. Say to yourself: "We all have flaws, that doesn't make me a bad person. I'm working on it and I'll become a better man."
- A self-confident man does not allow himself to be caged by narrow definitions of masculinity. An insecure man might think he must always be 100% macho, but a self-confident man is not afraid to wear pink, bake cookies, cry if he has to, play tea with a little girl, or do other things considered "feminine", if that's what he likes. If other people think he's unmanly … that's their problem. He already knows he's a man.
Step 3. Take Your Responsibilities
An alpha male is not a slacker and does not leave other people to deal with what he has to do. Do your homework, on group projects, housework, and any other tasks in your everyday life. Never say, “Someone else will take care of it.” Take the initiative.
Step 4. Be confident
This aspect cannot be stressed enough. If you have a high concept of yourself and unquestionably believe in your abilities, men and women will respond alike. Do not confuse self-esteem with arrogance. Self-esteem demonstrates a calm inner strength, security and reliability. Arrogance is just a low self-esteem turned outwards and the perception that people will have is that of an empty and insecure man, the exact opposite of an alpha male.
Step 5. Find good role models
A good role model is confident, capable, respectful, and kind to others. Look for people who have qualities you admire and observe how they behave in different situations.
- Observe how they talk, how they stand and how they behave. Alpha males tend to have an upright posture and walk calmly and confidently.
- Observe their appearance, especially their hair and clothing. Alpha males follow men's fashion and know how to use it to look more attractive.
Method 3 of 4: Interacting with Others
Step 1. Listen
An alpha male, as a true leader, spends more time listening than talking. Listen actively and attentively to others; you will see that people will react positively. The more you listen without judging, the more people will open up to you and may even tell you things they never tell anyone. This is because they will naturally trust you - a hallmark of the alpha male.
- Always think everyone has something interesting to teach you. A great man always learns new things and strengthens his skills.
- Validate a person's feelings when they open up to you. This helps her feel more positive and think that confiding in you is the right thing to do. It's a good way to show compassion - an essential trait of any leader.
Step 2. Treat people well, even if they have nothing to offer you
Be respectful when talking to children, the elderly, the homeless and people with disabilities (regardless of whether they are smart people or not). A weak man always approaches people who can help him and ignores or is rude to those he deems useless. A truly exceptional man treats people "below" him as equals and believes that everyone deserves respect and dignity.
Don't discriminate. Avoid prejudice against women, people of color, religious minorities, the disabled, the poor, overweight people and those who are part of other minorities
Step 3. Empower other people
While an insecure man may try to bring other people down, a self-confident man wants to share his skills and confidence with others to help them perform at their best. It encourages them and celebrates their achievements.
A great man can mentor some people and be proud of their achievements
Step 4. Use humor to your advantage
This doesn't mean turning into a clown, but being able to smile with real pleasure, not to take yourself too seriously, even jokingly laugh at others without sounding sarcastic or stinging.
- A good joke can sometimes ease a tense situation.
- When you make fun of other people, be aware of their insecurities. Tease only things that you know the other person isn't insecure about. For example, if your sister is happy to be short, it's okay to tease her about how small she is. But if that causes her insecurity, you should pick another topic to tease her about.
Step 5. Show your appreciation for the efforts of others
Let them know that you notice the commitment and good work. Thank them when they do something for you and compliment them on a project they have worked hard on.
Step 6. Be honest
Some think alpha males lie and cheat to get what they want, but this only applies to men who are anything but alpha males. If you find that you have to fool someone into believing that you are worth their time and energy, in reality it is proof that this is not the case. Make sure you earn everything you get by adopting a policy of total sincerity. Be exactly who you are, always; who loves you, will follow you.
- Don't hide your intentions. Let other people know what you want.
- Understand the difference between being an honest man and an honest idiot. Sometimes making a statement using a lot of tact ("I think the blue dress looks better on you") is better than brutal honesty ("You look awful in that dress").
- Strive to be worthy of the trust of others. A bad, immoral, or bigoted man is not a good leader.
Step 7. Show empathy
A great man cares about other people and is not afraid to prove it. She takes time to listen and consider their points of view and often helps them when they are in a difficult situation.
Step 8. Above all, be a leader
This doesn't just mean taking control of a situation, but doing it right. Start in your immediate vicinity by becoming a workplace leader, help your team achieve their goals, or simply establish yourself as your dog's pack leader. Practice being the kind of leader people will want to follow, not just the first one who volunteered for the job.
Method 4 of 4: Be Confident of Yourself When Going Out With Someone
Step 1. Learn to flirt
Knowing how to create a romantic connection is essential to being seen as an alpha male. Being confident, fulfilled and attractive doesn't necessarily mean you have what it takes to interact with a potential partner, but it will provide you with a huge advantage.
- If you want to prove to someone you are "friends with" that it would be worth going out with you, read this article.
- Make your intentions clear. Don't assume that people can read your mind. They need to know that you have some interest.
- Work on reading the signs that someone is interested. If your flirtation works, the other person will turn to you, smile and laugh, adopt open body language, and want to talk to you. If, on the other hand, the person is not interested, he will turn away, seem uncomfortable or bored, will adopt closed body language and will not speak much.
Step 2. Accept the rejection nonchalantly
Insisting on someone who has already said "no" to you makes you look desperate and makes the other person uncomfortable or nervous. Politely end the conversation, smile at her so she knows you won't be mad at her decision, and turn your attention to someone who can work better with you.
- Keep in mind that there are many reasons why someone might reject you. Maybe she already has a partner, maybe right now she doesn't feel ready for a relationship, maybe you are not compatible (for example if she is a lesbian) or maybe she has an ideal type who does not look like you. Still okay. You probably wouldn't date the first one you meet on the street, because you like a certain type of person. Well, other people have types too.
- Don't think you are entitled to something. An inferior man might complain that women never give him a chance, while a great man knows that no one owes him anything and can always look forward. Getting discouraged from time to time is normal, but it doesn't have to be an excuse to get rude.
Step 3. Be affectionate with your partner
Never let your partner know how much you care about her. Find ways to show her how you feel: touch her, do something for her, spend time together, compliment her, and so on. Show her how much you appreciate her and what an important place she holds in your life.
Step 4. Be willing to be vulnerable
It takes strength to reveal your inner feelings and talk about your difficulties. This gives your partner the opportunity to help you and show you how much they care about you.
Step 5. Treat your partner with dignity and respect
Show her that she is important to you and that she deserves the utmost respect. This is crucial if you want her to feel lucky to be with you. Show her how much she matters to you.
Advice
- Don't fixate on women. If you invest your time in improving yourself, the admirers will come to you.
- Practice being your own leader. Work on your posture at home, even when no one is looking at you. Sit up straight in a chair, act decisively, and read a book about something that interests you instead of watching television.
- Stay focused. Nobody is born a leader: the respect inherent in the position must be earned. Becoming an alpha male takes time to develop confidence, balance and knowledge. Rest assured that you will reach your goal and this achievement will already be in sight!
- Focus only on your strengths and work on your weaknesses. Men gain confidence over time. Each is a mix of alpha and beta, depending on the choices they make in life.
