Usually we talk about "alpha males" and there are tips on how to become one, but remember that there are also alpha females and that their role is just as important. An alpha female is a leader at work, at home, and with friends. However, no matter how born leader you are, you can still improve your leadership skills and status in all areas of your life by becoming an alpha female in the workplace and in your interpersonal relationships.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Changing Attitude
Step 1. Believe in yourself
This first step is certainly the most difficult, but it is also the most important. You must understand that your opinions and ideas deserve to be considered. If you don't see yourself as competent, worthy of being listened to and respected, no one else will.
Step 2. Pretend to believe in yourself until it comes naturally to you
The most immediate way to learn to believe in yourself is to pretend you are. This will make your self-esteem more credible. You need to convince yourself and everyone around you that you are confident and capable.
Step 3. List your best features
Determine what you prefer about yourself, identify your skills and talents that you find particularly noteworthy. Maybe you are a good listener, creative and sympathetic to your friends. Keep this list in a place where you can read it every day to remember your strengths.
Step 4. First, set yourself new goals
For example, make a commitment to meet and network with three new people a day. You will learn to feel more comfortable with people of different types and you will develop a network of contacts. Once you have achieved one goal, propose another one for the future, in order to encourage yourself to be more and more enjoyable and popular.
Step 5. Evaluate yourself honestly, but don't denigrate yourself in front of others
You have to be critical of yourself, but do it in a healthy way, to grow as a person. So avoid being negative. Try not to criticize yourself to the point of doubting yourself. Make constructive criticisms in private, not in front of people; if you do, you may give the impression that you don't have a good opinion of yourself, prompting others to do the same.
Step 6. Earn the respect of the people
As an alpha female, your goal is to be seen as important and worthy of respect. It's not a change that can happen overnight - you need to commit to nurturing relationships that can show your integrity and honesty. These two traits (along with good expressive skills, charm, and a strong work ethic) will help you forge a well-defined character in the eyes of others.
As much as you want to be liked by most people, remember that this won't always be possible. Your ultimate goal, however, is to be respected by others, whether they like you or not. Maybe someone doesn't like you as a friend or co-worker, but you need to make sure your honesty, passion, and strength are undeniable
Step 7. Apologize only when you have to
Of course, if you insult or hurt someone or make a mistake, you have to take responsibility. However, don't apologize when you don't have to answer, otherwise you will be considered weak. Women are particularly likely to want to apologize for any minor inconvenience, but you need to learn to distinguish situations in which you should say "I apologize" or "I am deeply sorry."
Step 8. Stop making excuses
Take responsibility for your actions and acknowledge everything you do, whether it's a success or a mistake. This is the kind of honesty or integrity that is generally associated with true leaders. You don't have to blame a certain situation or other people for your mistakes.
Step 9. Stay calm when you are under stress
If you want others to turn to you or take you as an example in both moments of stability and crisis, you have to be the kind of person who remains unperturbed in the face of stress and pessimism. To see things clearly despite being in the midst of the storm and chaos, you need to put your emotions aside, whether it's an impending deadline at work or a friend reaching out to you for advice. Use your sense of humor to relieve the stress of others - you can do this with sarcastic jokes, puns, or sincere comments.
Step 10. You must know what you want and demand it
First, determine what you want from life. You probably have several wishes: you want a raise, a healthy and stable family, a good relationship, respect and power, or just to be happy in general. Once you have determined what you want to achieve, work towards it.
- Do not be afraid. If you think you are entitled to a higher salary or more respect, then don't hesitate.
- Be prepared to explain why you want something. You won't always need to negotiate or argue, but you need to be ready to do it.
- When you ask for something, express yourself clearly and firmly. Hesitation is a sign of weakness. Insist and don't give up: your perseverance will be respected over the long term.
- Don't beg or complain, or you will look weak. Instead, act as if you are absolutely capable of getting what you want, in order to show others that you take your goal seriously.
Part 2 of 3: Working / Communicating with Others
Step 1. Own a place, wherever you go
Alpha females are social leaders. They know how to be the center of attention: others listen to what they have to say and observe what they do.
You don't have to shout, to get noticed. Regardless of how much you talk, make sure your words are worthy of attention. What you say is important to people who look at you with admiration, so think before you speak
Step 2. You must be the most interesting person in the group
Ask others to tell you about themselves and show interest instead of putting the spotlight on yourself. If you want to be interesting, you must first be interested in others. Everyone likes to talk about themselves, so you will be appreciated when you listen.
Step 3. Impose your presence
When you arrive at a place, others must notice it immediately, they must realize that the atmosphere has changed thanks to your presence. Practice learning to walk with your head up and shoulders straight. Walk with determination. Act as if you expect people to pay attention to you and you will surely get noticed.
Step 4. Expand your circle of acquaintances
If you want to be an alpha female, you can't be a loner. You must be appreciated by all the people you meet. You need to cultivate relationships that may one day get you a promotion at work or an invitation to an exclusive party. Don't forget to introduce people to each other. When you are the only person in a group who knows everyone, take the opportunity to help others build relationships.
Step 5. Try to have lots of friends and acquaintances
You may not be anyone's best friend, but you can make an effort to remember each other's names and learn simple personal information. When you refer to this information later, they will appreciate you because you make them feel important. In any case, also remember to have an intimate group of friends and family that you can always rely on.
Step 6. Support other women
The character traits of alpha females are inspired by feminist ideals, such as the notion that women need to be united and support each other within society. Being an alpha female doesn't mean you should discredit other women and humiliate them for the sole purpose of elevating your status. Instead, you should strive to create a strong women's group, whether it's in the workplace or in private life.
- Use your power and influences to help others instead of isolating yourself. Get to know the women around you and understand their worth.
- This can help you become a mentor. Mentoring to other women is great for making the most of your power. You have the ability to influence others and help them develop their skills in the workplace or socially.
- You have the ability to cultivate a group mentality. It is better to develop a healthy bond with other women than to surround yourself with girls who cause problems like quarrels and drama.
Step 7. Try to cultivate some competitiveness in your life
As an alpha female, you must always be on top; this means catching up on the latest fashion trends or doing more than you have to at work to hit the boss. Don't rest on your laurels. Encourage yourself to grow, to learn about your professional field, hobbies or other interests.
Step 8. Try to be autonomous, but don't go it alone
You should be independent, not the classic damsel in distress. This shows that you are competent and that you don't need anyone.
- Knowing how to change a wheel or cook for six people alone doesn't mean you can't recognize the talent of your friends, family or co-workers and get them involved.
- Asking others to collaborate with you will make them feel important and appreciated, plus they will consider you a true alpha female.
Part 3 of 3: Looking The Right
Step 1. Dress the right way
You don't have to wear a suit to earn the respect and attention of others. Follow your style consistently. Wear clothes that are presentable, but that also make you comfortable: this will help you develop greater self-esteem and pass it on to others.
- Invest to modify your clothes. Garments that are too large or too tight subconsciously convey the following idea: you don't know your body and you don't know how to dress correctly.
- Choose accessories that stand out. You can attract the attention of others by wearing impactful accessories, such as an original necklace, shoes or bags in bright colors.
Step 2. Smile
It is a simple but important step. A smile makes others understand that you are a cheerful, sociable and reliable person. As an alpha female, looking serene and groomed helps you earn the loyalty of others.
Step 3. Take care of your body
As an alpha female, others will take you as an example to find direction in their life, so it's important to be healthy and keep fit. This helps you set a positive example for those who are influenced by you, but it also allows you to protect your body from everyday stress. Be careful not to follow fads and passing food trends that are unlikely to be effective. This way you will take care of yourself and be a positive role model for others.
Advice
- Use your power to your advantage, but don't abuse it.
- Pay attention to the women in your life. If there is someone you respect and admire, observe what they do and imitate their positive aspects. On the other hand, there may also be women who are used or who are content with what they have, without stimulation. Observe them to understand what to avoid, but you can also use your power to help them.
