You really like that sweet girl in school. She is polite, kind, selfless and appreciated by all. You wish you were just like her, but you don't know where to start. Fortunately, there are many ways to show your sweetness: be kind and caring, polite and well-mannered, avoid rude behavior, and never be mean. This article will give you some tips on how to develop that tender attitude you like so much.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Immerse yourself in the Part
Step 1. Be considerate of others
To be sweet, you must necessarily be a selfless person. Be interested in the lives of others and treat people with respect. Eg:
- Instead of talking about you, ask a friend how she spent the day. This will show her that you care about her well-being. If she tells you that she may not be having a good time, you can show her how sweet you are by offering her ice cream.
- It's your friend's birthday. Unfortunately, it falls right before the baccalaureate and everyone forgets it because they are too busy studying at the last minute. You could surprise her by bringing her a candy or balloon to school.
Step 2. Take care of others
To be sweet, you have to worry about other people's well-being. For example, if you notice that someone is upset, ask them what's wrong and if there is anything you can do to help them. This would let him know that you care, even if he didn't want your help.
Step 3. Always be polite
To be sweet, you need to be polite and behave well, even towards people you don't like. Therefore you should always say: "Please", "Thank you", "Excuse me" or "Please". Eg:
- If someone compliments you, smile and say, "Thank you!".
- If you eat in the cafeteria and the salt shaker is too far away, don't reach out in front of another person to pick it up. Instead, you should ask, "Could you pass me the salt, please?"
- If you are in a hurry and have to go through a crowd, don't push everyone. You can say "I'm sorry" or "I'm sorry" and try to slip between one person and another.
Step 4. Be generous and selfless
This doesn't mean you should donate your clothes to charity and accept everyone's requests. However, try to limit your generosity in some way to prevent others from taking advantage of it. Eg:
- Your friend forgot to bring lunch to school and has no money to buy anything. You could offer her part of your lunch or lend her some money to buy something to eat.
- If your classmate has forgotten to bring a pen or pencil to class, offer him one of your own.
- If you suspect someone is taking advantage of your generosity, you can approach the problem directly, as long as you do it in a polite and non-accusatory way. For example, if a friend of yours asks you for lunch money every day, you might try to answer: "Okay, I'll help you one last time, but I can't afford to do it every day. Why don't you bring your own lunch. home tomorrow? ".
Step 5. Try complimenting other people
This will not only boost their self-esteem and make them feel better, it will also give you a more gentle and sweet image. Eg:
- If your friend has a new haircut, tell her how good she looks. He may have doubts and uncertainties regarding his decision. Your compliments might give her the confidence she needs.
- The guy sitting next to you always draws. Instead of telling him that he draws very well, he mentions a particular detail, such as the hair or eyes of his figures. You might say, "Wow, you're really good at drawing! I really like how you make your eyes!".
- Don't overdo the compliments however; you may seem creepy, annoying or fake. The compliments you make should always be sincere.
Step 6. Help the neighbor
Sweet people are always the first to offer their help, even if it's not required. There are many ways to help others, with simple and effortless actions, such as holding a door open. You can show your sweetness by offering your contribution in many situations, such as:
- A girl just dropped all her books. Instead of continuing to walk or laughing at her (a sweet person would never do that), reach out to her and help her collect the books.
- A boy is helping prepare a school charity sale and he is too busy. He is carrying heavy material and the boxes fall from his arms. Reach out and offer your help to carry some things.
- An elderly man in a wheelchair is coming out of a bar, but the door is closed. You could show your sweetness by holding it open for him. Don't forget to smile and say "You're welcome!" if he were to thank you.
Step 7. Use a softer tone of voice
Sweetness is associated with gentleness and tenderness, so try to speak in a softer voice. This doesn't mean you should whisper or speak falsetto. Just soften your voice and speak softly and gently. This will help you look kinder.
Part 2 of 3: Avoiding Negative Behaviors
Step 1. Don't swear and don't use vulgar terms
To be sweet, you need to be polite and therefore avoid bad habits, such as swearing. If you get angry or hurt, bite your tongue and try not to scream curses.
If you really have to swear, avoid vulgarity and use expressions like "Damn" or "Curse"
Step 2. Don't insult others, don't bully and don't gossip
Sweet people are polite and appreciate everyone - or at least, they act like that. Always try to avoid insulting, speaking badly behind others' backs or never abusing anyone. It is not just about negative behaviors, but attitudes that would show everyone that you are able to think badly of others. This would lead people to wonder what you think of them.
Step 3. Don't react to bullying or swearing
Instead, just ignore bullying and pretend you don't hear insults or bad words. Bullies crave attention, and by reacting you would only give them importance.
Step 4. Maintain good posture, don't cross your arms and don't put your hands in your pockets
To be sweet and polite you have to be available. You can convey this feeling of openness by keeping your back straight, head up, and shoulders slightly back (without them bothering you). Hunching your back, crossing your arms, and keeping your hands in your pockets are attitudes that can make you appear disinterested, unsociable, or angry - characteristics certainly not associated with a sweet personality.
Step 5. Do not use drugs and do not engage in destructive behavior
Drugs are harmful and vandalism can get you in trouble with the authorities. Sweet people behave well and tend to avoid causing problems. Avoid vandalizing or destroying property (private or public) and taking drugs. Some substances, such as hallucinogens, can lead you to do destructive acts, while others can cause permanent damage to your health.
Part 3 of 3: Looking The Right
Step 1. Consider changing your look
Everyone can be sweet, regardless of their appearance or clothing, but certain styles and images are often associated with specific personality types. Simple tweaks, like a gentle smile, may be enough for you, or you can resort to more radical changes, like a full makeover, which includes a new hairstyle, new makeup, and new wardrobe.
Step 2. Dress simply and discreetly
Sweetness is associated with youth, so avoid wearing too low-cut or "sexy" clothes. Instead, choose simple and sober attires.
- If you are a girl, you can wear: a turtleneck sweater and a knee-length skirt, a blouse and jeans or a summer dress. Avoid dresses that are too low-cut or show off the navel. You can always have a feminine look, but make sure the clothing is discreet.
- If you are a boy, you can wear: long pants and shirt, neutral colors or a simple t-shirt with jeans. Avoid wearing garments with inappropriate designs or slogans, undershirts, or dresses that are too loose. You will need to have a polite and discreet image.
Step 3. Avoid the studs and ridges
Everyone can be sweet, regardless of their outfit, but some shapes are associated with toughness. Wearing a lot of spikes and studs can make you look tough and intimidating and consequently less helpful. Sweet people often have a gentler appearance and it's easy to get close to them.
Step 4. Consider wearing light-colored clothing
Light shades, such as pastel colors, pink, lilac, light blue and white, are often associated with sweetness, purity, innocence and delicacy. Wearing these colors could help you create a sweet image.
Step 5. Wear little makeup if you decide to wear it
Sweetness is associated with youth, so avoid putting on a lot of makeup or you will look too mature. You can wear light eyeshadow, mascara, and light colored lip gloss or lipstick. Your makeup should be simple and innocent, so avoid glamorous or dark styles like smoky eyeshadows and dark lipsticks.
You can wear makeup that makes your eyes look bigger, to have those doe eyes that are often associated with youth and innocence
Step 6. Maintain hygiene
Sweet people are youthful, and youth is associated with good health. You can look healthier by taking care of yourself. This means that you should wash every day, clean your face, brush your teeth and comb your hair. If you sweat or have a strong body odor, try using a deodorant.
Step 7. Maintain a neat appearance
Being always in order allows you to show others that you know how to take care of yourself and thus to make a good impression. To achieve this, take care of your clothes and the items you use. This means you should comb your hair, mend tears in your clothes, and wash it when it's dirty. You should also be careful not to soil or damage the items you use. Eg:
- You can protect your textbooks with hard covers and put them away carefully, so as not to bend the corners.
- Avoid biting pencils and always keep them pointed.
Step 8. Smile often
A smile will make you look kinder, happier, and more helpful.
Advice
- When someone treats you badly, try not to react violently. Stand up for yourself, but remember that many sweet people are too quiet to really get angry. Don't get trampled though; you can answer kindly, but not too much.
- Eat something sweet! Studies have shown that sweets can help you behave kinder.
- You smile. You will look kinder and happier.
- To better understand others, try to be more empathetic.
