Being cool and popular doesn't mean walking down the aisles with the stench under your nose and all eyes on you. It means being friendly, chatting with everyone, and putting people you know at ease. True popularity comes from being at peace with oneself and the desire to share that well-being with others.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Attracting attention
Step 1. Don't let others tell you who you are
It's not very cool to dress up or act a certain way just to please other people or to make them think you're cool. In fact, it is just the opposite. Don't wear designer shirts or trendy sandals or whatever everyone is wearing just because someone made fun of your unique style; don't be calm or frustrated just because someone called you "hyperactive". If you have your own personality, it is best to cultivate it and not worry about criticism.
- Although it may seem impossible to "not care about the opinion of others", you can absolutely do it by ignoring the comments about yourself and looking beyond. Purely negative people don't deserve your attention.
- If someone spreads rumors about you or just talks badly about you, don't react with the same medicine. Rather, be superior and ignore the unpleasant, showing that you have better things to do than take care of what they say about you. Surely this is cool.
Step 2. Show that you have fun
An important trait of a cool and popular person is that they usually have a lot of fun, no matter where they are. While you don't need to laugh like a maniac during a chemistry test, you should strive to have fun under all circumstances. Whether you're in line for lunch, talking to a friend in the hallways, or doing group work at school, you should radiate positive energy and act like you're having fun. People will be drawn to your optimism and will want to be around you.
- To make this easier, you should try to spend as much time as possible doing what you love. Of course, no one will see you enjoying yourself if you are in punishment or if you are going to the hated gang rehearsals.
- Try to develop a negative energy that allows you to see the positive side of things and makes you laugh rather than worry.
- Focus on the present instead of worrying about how others see you.
Step 3. Do what you love
Another way to get noticed is by doing what you love. It can mean taking dance lessons, singing with friends, drawing or even sewing your own clothes. It doesn't matter what you do; matter that you are passionate. Passion will attract people and make them believe that you are interesting and worth knowing. Doing what you love will also lead you to meet more people who share your passions.
You can also get noticed by teaching others what you are an expert on. You can offer drawing, tennis, or even bowling lessons. If you want to teach and help others improve, you will certainly be considered an interesting person
Step 4. Impress others with your confidence
Those who are really cool and popular have an innate confidence in themselves and in their attitudes. If you are popular, you don't need to brag or cheer, but you should project a positive energy and vibration when you talk about yourself and your plans for the future. Stand up straight, smile and speak with authority, without breaking down. Showing confidence is key to becoming cool and popular.
- Talk about something you can't wait to do over the weekend or about a good movie or show you've seen. Express your satisfaction in what you have done and your willingness to share your opinions. That sure is security.
- Congratulate others as much as you can by staying spontaneous. Those who are self-confident do not feel jealous, see the best in people and are not afraid to say it.
- Introduce yourself to someone you don't know and strike up a conversation. It takes security.
Step 5. Express your personal style
There is no one way to dress to be cool and popular. Sure, there are shops more suited to cool people, like Abercrombie or Hollister, but that doesn't mean you'll become popular by going to them. It is much more important to wear something that fits you well, is clean and expresses your personality, rather than surrendering to some fashion. If you like humorous t-shirts, Converse or bulky earrings, wear them without fear, instead of having doubts or asking for the opinions of others.
- Don't worry about having a perfectly matched and coordinated look. Wearing uncoordinated or one-of-a-kind clothes can be a lot more interesting, as long as they fit you well.
- The most important thing is that the clothes fit you well. Garments that are too loose can make you look scruffy, and clothes that are too tight can make you look more flirty than you intended.
- Just remember to wash and take care of your body every day. It will be hard to look good without washing.
Step 6. Don't overdo it in school
You may think it's cool to act like you're too cool for school or like you have better places to be, but in reality this attitude will only make you look boring, passionless. Not that you have to lick with the teachers or keep talking about how much you love gym time, but you should be attentive and happy to be there, in order to attract the attention of others. Complaining, sleeping in class, or just talking about the best things you have to do won't even make a friend.
In fact, it's much cooler to get hooked on your favorite parts of school, and excel at them, whether you're a historian or an institute representative. If all you are interested in is bigiare, nobody will ever know you
Step 7. Be friendly to everyone
Cool and popular doesn't mean being cruel to anyone who is less "cool" than you. Rather, it means talking to everyone by being friendly, outgoing, and happy to meet new people. Not to mention that your life isn't going to be very fun or engaging by ignoring almost everyone because you don't consider them cool enough for you. Instead, try to say hello to everyone, strike up a conversation, or just be nice to everyone, unless they give you reasons not to be.
- The definition of popular is "well received". If you want to be seen well, you need to get to know many different people, so that they can appreciate you. By talking to the same 10 people all the time, they will appreciate you, but you won't be well seen by everyone.
- By treating others badly or simply by being cruel to those you do not consider worthy, you will appear insecure.
Part 2 of 3: Be sociable
Step 1. Don't be afraid to talk to new people
You might think that popular people only tend to talk to the other 5 at their level, but that's not the case. In fact, people who are really cool and popular like to talk to strangers because they are confident and are always looking for ways to make their life fun and exciting. Whether there's a new girl in school or you want to meet your classmate, trying hard to talk to new people will pay off on the road to popularity.
- Say hello and introduce yourself at the right time. Many will be happy to talk to someone new, especially if they don't know anyone.
- If someone you don't know seems shy or silent, don't take them for rudeness. Some take longer than others to open up.
Step 2. Ask others to tell you about them
Another way to be popular is to show genuine interest in others. You can do this with simple questions such as the subject they prefer or their projects for the summer. Show a sincere interest in them, in their daily interests and thoughts, and they will be well impressed with your kindness. It doesn't mean you should interview people without revealing anything about yourself, but you should try to keep a balance between getting to know others and making yourself known.
- The point is that many like to talk about themselves, even if they need to be a little encouraged. If you can get them to talk about their favorite topic, they'll like you, and you'll become more popular.
- Of course, you shouldn't ask questions just to please yourself. You should really care about their knowledge.
Step 3. Avoid bragging
Those who are really cool and popular don't need to brag because they are already satisfied and confident and know that others can see it too. You can talk about what you love without revealing how good you are in French, skiing or winning debates. There is nothing more unbearable than someone throwing it at you, and talking about how good you are will only give the opposite idea. Besides, self-promotion is not elegant. Modesty yes.
- If you are really good at something, others will find out for themselves, or through your friends, or by reading it in the school newspaper. Trust that your successes will speak for themselves, without needing to disclose them yourself.
- Instead of talking about how good you are at something, take time to congratulate other people, whether they are in your class or on your football team.
Step 4. Let others speak
If you want to be cool and popular, you should be outgoing and funny, but without hogging conversations. The truth is that people care a lot more if you care about them rather than if you are interesting, so you should focus on making them feel interesting and letting them talk instead of continuing to babble to be brilliant. Of course, you shouldn't even talk in monosyllables, but you should make others feel comfortable in order for them to like you and look cool and popular.
- When talking to someone, try not to speak for more than 50% of the conversation. Nobody likes to listen to a talkative person.
- If you are in a group, try not to monopolize the conversation. Let at least 3 people talk before telling another story or making another long comment. While you don't need to monitor every second of the conversation, you should be aware of this when you talk too much.
Step 5. Find things in common with people
Another way to be cool and popular is by connecting with people by finding common interests. You don't have to agree on everything, but you should find a way to talk about what you think is important, from your passion for Caparezza to your shared love for Kubrick. When you go to talk to someone you know, try to think of something you both appreciate, from a teacher you like to make fun of to an activity you love to do together. By focusing on these interests, people will feel they have more to tell you.
- Get to know your audience when you talk to people. Your nerd classmate might want to talk about books or movies, while the guy you play soccer with might want to talk about the game instead.
- Learn to read body language. If the person you are talking to is moving their feet, checking the phone or answering without enthusiasm, they may want to talk about something else that matters to both of you.
Step 6. Try to really listen to people
It is one thing to know everyone by name, another is to really know people. As fun as it is to meet a lot of people and be friendly, it's also nice to take the trouble to know what's going on in their lives. Sure, you may not know everyone, but at least make an effort to listen to whoever is talking to you, whether they are telling you about weekend plans, worries about grades or what they will wear to the school party. People who are cool and popular really care about people, and stand out for their ability to make anyone feel special.
- When someone is trying to tell you something, only that person should exist. Put your phone away, stop looking around and make eye contact as she talks.
- Avoid interrupting or giving your opinion until he has finished speaking.
- Concentrate on listening to the person on their terms, instead of comparing the situation or experiences to what happened to you personally. If you feel like “Just like it did to me…”, you're not really listening.
Step 7. Don't make fun of people to elevate yourself
If you really want to be popular, then you shouldn't denigrate others just to look cooler. Also because being cruel to others, especially if they don't have many friends and are looked down upon by the pass, is one of the worst and most pathetic things you can do. If you want to be genuinely respected and feel kind, you can't go around making fun of others. It won't make you look any better or cool, but as someone who is so insecure that you have to make others feel worse to feel better. it's definitely not cool.
If you hang out with people who constantly denigrate others, it may be time to find new friends. But first, talk to your friends about it to see if they are going to change their attitude
Part 3 of 3: Get into the fray
Step 1. Join a sports team
One way to be cool and popular is to be part of a team if you are good at it. Of course, if you have 2 left feet and hate sports, there is no need to torture yourself. But if you like sports or have played basketball, soccer, tennis as a kid, then a team can give you a way to meet new people, gain leadership skills and work with others. All these skills will help you become cooler and more popular.
By joining a sports team, you can also meet many people that you may not have the opportunity to meet at school. It will help you expand your social network, and to be popular you need to know a lot of people
Step 2. Join a club
Another way to expand your network and be popular is by meeting people in clubs. You can get yourself elected as a representative, join the editorial office of the magazine, sign up for the workshops, depending on your interests. You will meet many new people and you will be able to bond from a common interest. Talking about something you are really passionate about? Very cool.
Clubs are also frequented by different people than sports teams. Making friends with diverse people helps you learn to talk to just about anyone, and can help you get to know yourself even more
Step 3. Get involved in your community
You may think there is nothing cool about volunteering at the library or soup kitchen twice a month. However, being active in your community, whether it's helping a politician get elected to share their ideas or cleaning up the neighborhood park, will help you get to know people of various walks of life and ages. You'll cut your teeth learning how to interact with many types of people - and it's definitely cool.
By getting busy in your community, you may even gain experience in talking to older people, a very useful skill for gaining maturity and knowledge. These people may have something to teach you about the meaning of popularity
Step 4. Maintain a multitude of interests
If you want to be cool and popular, you should try to expand your interests. As good as it is to be the captain of the football team, you would expose yourself too much to people all the same by just following that path. If you really want to be cool and popular, you can play football, but also make space for theater or volunteer work. Of course, you don't want to put too much meat on the fire, but neither do you want to spend your life interacting with a single type of person.
- Maintaining a variety of interests can help you meet many interesting people. When you make friends with them, you should also be committed to expanding your circle of acquaintances and dating with them in activities other than the ones they brought you together.
- By joining a club, team or community network you can also discover new talent and develop them. Having a talent is undoubtedly very cool.
